i have a boyfriend but we have a long distance relationship because he was working. he was 21 and i'm 16.. we only meet each other once a month.. one time we meet at the hotel and we almost had done sex.. but thanks it dit not happen.. what we did is just making each other's body happy.. yes, he had seen mywhole body.. the problem is that my parents don't want me to have a boyfriend that's why our relationship is in secret.. i feel that i am fooling my parents.. what shoul i do? should i broke up with my bf? but i love him he even ask me to get married but i'm still very young.. help me plz...
2007-10-04 21:11:27 · 10 answers · asked by tin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me see here. You are 16, he is 21. You see him once a month, yet you say you are in love with him? In reality, I think you are more in 'like', than in love with him. You have an entire lifetime ahead of you, girl! Guys will come, and go (um, yeah, literally), but give yourself time to grow up, and have fun in life while you are still so very young. Marriage is a huge commitment, and its not something that you should even be thinking about right now. It will come when the time is right, and you will know deep down inside when the time is right.
In the meantime, enjoy your life, and make the coming years memorable. These really are the best days of you entire life. I really don't want to sound like I am preaching, but I've already been there, done that in my life. I'm in my thirties now, but I can look back to my younger years and it always brings a big smile to my face just to think about it because I really did enjoy it all.
I kept my priorities straight - I always had respect and loyalty for my family, and stayed out of trouble. I didn't lie, cheat, steal, do drugs, I never came home drunk (OK, maybe a bit tipsy a couple of times, but never drunk!), I had good friends and so very many good times with them and I will cherish those sweet memories forever. After high school, I was able to put myself through a private University and I earned a four year degree. It was really a good beginning to life, and I really don't have any regrets. And my life continues to be a really good to this very day (I've never been married, maybe that has something to do with it?)
But you know what? In all honesty, if I had gotten married at your age, none of those things would have happened for me. My family would have disowned me, my friends would have thought I had gone crazy or something and I doubt I would have seen much of them from then on, I doubt that I ever would have had the chance to go to college, and I would have missed out on so very much in life if I had done that.
But gee, I would have had a husband, and all the responsibility that comes bundled with the whole marriage thing, and probably even children too. All that at the young age of 16? No thank you...And there is the chance that I would have ended up a single mother with no education, no family, no friends, and no future. No offense to anyone, but its reality I'm talking about here, and I'm not going to sugar coat it in any way. It is what it is...
In short, I would have had a much different life than the one I have now. And I would never have been able to forgive myself for it because I wouldn't ever be able to go back in time and do it all over again. No one can do that. And that is why its so important to make the right choices now, while you are still so young. The choices that you make now will affect the rest of your life in one way or another. And as long as you make the right decisions for yourself, you will open doors for yourself that would have otherwise been slammed shut in your face for good.
For your own sake, forget about getting married, forget about your LD 'boyfriend' who wants nothing more than to get into your pants. Get rid of him and move on with your life. Starting right now, put the focus on YOU, take life one day at a time, and make the very most out of your life that you possibly can.
You will only have one chance at getting it right. Don't blow it...
2007-10-04 22:20:32 · answer #1 · answered by Rach ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dear you're still young... you have many oppurtunity in your life, don't be silly... there's a saying... LOVE TAKES TIME! there are so many men out there much more than your bf i guess... your parents love you so much that's why they don't want you to get hurt. any parents want the best for their child...
Just think of this.. If you go again to the hotel & make love to your bf? what will happened to you dear? #1 YOU'RE NOT A VIRGIN ANYMORE.. what if you've broke up? #2 YOU'LL GET PREGNANT? your having a baby in a young age! what if you become a single parent? what will happened to your baby? Oh dear theres a lot of danger! I'm just concerned to you even if i don't know you! God bless...
2007-10-04 21:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Gem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 to 21 is a BIG difference (even though 21 to 26 is not...)
Also, you ARE sneaking around. Not a good thing.
What if he asked you to marry him just to get in your pants?
Get a guy more your own age, where you don't have to sneak around.
If the P's find out, he can be brought up on charges.
2007-10-04 21:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Swabbie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok
its all natural..'but hey wait u r just 16 and he is 2
okayy
think
u r probably jus in hgh school right now
and hes out of studies and workin..
well right now u have to study and make yor future bright dont yet get into marriage... make yor own career stand on yor own feet and the most imp thing LOVE YOUR PARENTS BEFORE THEY LEAVE U OR U LEAVE THEM cuz they r the most precious thing in yor whole life.....
i wud really advice u to focus on your studies and buil up yor careeer have yor bf on side talk to him on phone but dont play a fool of yorself see if yor bf ca wait till u r 20, 21 if he does den he really loves u and after u buil up yor own career u can marry him and so on but now is not the goood time
take care
may god bless u gurl
2007-10-04 21:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep everything in abeyance till you attain the proper age You may repent later for decisions taken in hurry. Concentrate on your studies and when you feel perplexed,consult your parents.They are your well wishers and will guide you for your own benefits.
2007-10-04 21:19:04 · answer #5 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
F*ck ur parents! U r 16, so ur legal right? Fair enough they r lookin out for u but if u love him u shouldnt care what any1 think. Be sure he loves u tho... He may be saying those things to get u into bed.
2007-10-04 21:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by Laura B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hey if u like him stay wid him but dont let happen anything wrong coz if ur parents caught u with him i dont know what will they do.plz dont do something wrong and this age is too young to get married
2007-10-04 21:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by blue_fly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh jesus. If you love him, stay with him. Don't get caught up in marriage, FOR CHRIST'S SAKE YOUR 16!!! Don't do anything dangerous.
2007-10-04 21:14:22 · answer #8 · answered by Dan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chill on it for awhile.
2007-10-04 21:19:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him.
2007-10-04 21:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by dudewtfwtf1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋