I always have the last word in the relationship. I need someonewho will not do what i say all the time. How can i like a guy more that he likes me? please help.
2007-10-04 20:57:55 · 20 answers · asked by bebe4u 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The answer is: biology. When a guy likes you more than you like him, the ugly truth is that you've got better genes than he does. You're probably smarter, hotter, more flexible, or more sociable than he is. Your brain is wired to pick up when you're "better" than your mate. The guys job is to mate with someone better than him. You're turned off because evolution (or your genes) want you to find someone who is closer to your own genetic health (or someone even better).
HOWEVER - Who said that evolution was in charge of your life? You should push through the "will" of your biology and pick what makes you happy. Mother-Nature has "the species" at the top of its priority list. Your happiness (unfortunately) isn't on the top of the list. Go get what you want.
2007-10-04 21:12:31 · answer #1 · answered by citizenluke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think that maybe you're looking at it the wrong way and are looking for the wrong reason to end these relationships. When you meet the 'one', you'll know it in your heart and in your head. At the moment, you're not admitting to yourself that this guy is just not the right guy for you; you're just protecting the guy and yourself and breaking up with him when you realise he loves you more than you love him (a pretty common self-defense mechanism). But please, also realise that all couples go through phases where one person loves the other more, it's completely natural. NEVER force yourself to like a guy, let love take it's natural course and trust in your heart. Best of luck.
2007-10-05 04:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by OJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In other words, you don't want a guy too attached to you. That's common. You want someone that's kind of "hard to get". There are plenty of guys out there that are like that but just be careful. Some guys like that can end up hurting you. It's actually good to have a guy into you more..it means he's actually sincere about his feelings.
2007-10-05 04:03:17 · answer #3 · answered by jmarlow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the challenge. Some people like to live on the edge or in chaos. One day you will learn to enjoy having a good person. Unfortunately, you will probably be hurt many times before you finally appreciate someone that is sincere and loving.
2007-10-05 04:06:58 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my first "answer" so....Personally, I am dying right now from a girl I am crazy about, is ignoring me. I would be thankful that this guy is too into you. Because I am one of these "too into you" guys, and i will tell you, we are the ones you want to be with. We are too into you because we love you, and want to do everything/anything we can for you. Whatever you do, don't treat us like animals. Some guys just can't say no to a girl, so we do whatever you want. Hope I helped.
2007-10-05 04:05:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my ex gf just did the same thing to me that you do with ur relationships too. I went to a bunch of mine and her friends to ask her why she's like that. They all say the same thing..."she's just affraid of commitment". For some reason some women are like that..IT'S SO EFFING FRUSTRATING!!! sorry but it really is for a guy who cares alot for some1 who cant see eye-to-eye with them. I've even done some more research into how common this situation is and what it means and the bottom line once again is ur affraid to commit.
2007-10-05 04:09:44 · answer #6 · answered by FutureFederer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your use of the word "too much" tells me that the guys generally get obsessed or infatuated with you. You seek love not obsession or infatuation and thats why the instinctive turn off which i feel is natural.As some one has rightly said "Excess of everything is bad" and you are rightfully keeping away from such people.
"when its business use your brains and when its relationship follow your instinct or their will be no gains only pains"
2007-10-05 04:19:24 · answer #7 · answered by Intelcuteguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have to find a man that can dominate you, or one will have to seek you out. As it seems, you've been dating men that are weaker than you and therefore lose respect for them more quickly than expected. You also have a problem with low self esteem, which explains the need to dominate and overpower to compensate for your own shortcomings...
2007-10-05 04:04:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there anything wrong with somebody who cares about u? I undrestand that you want a man. I mean somebody who makes decisions but at the other side you have to undrestand that his heart is not from iron either. maybe you should appricate what he is trying to do. or be open with him.
Have you seen all these girls complain why their bf is not calling them? well you have the opposite one. he cares for you and does everything for you. so, what are you complaining for?
2007-10-05 04:07:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
self destructive behavior is usually a sign of some deep seated emotional issues....I'd see a therapist.
2007-10-05 04:03:23 · answer #10 · answered by guyin559 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋