me and my boyfriend accidently went overboard.. to the extend we almost had sex.. we promised not to but well it was an accident..
anyway, we realized it could not go in.. as in we tried so many times but it jus wouldn't go in.. why? we tried so many positions.. lying down, standing up, sitting down, dog style.. and alot of other ways but it wouldn.t go in..
he said when he wanted to go in, i suddenly was dry.. is that a reason to why it cant go in? or is he jus too big? or were we too frustrated that we weren't relaxed enough? what's wrong with us?
the funny thng is we both have done it before with previous partners and it went in before.. it's jus we cant.. whats wrong??
2007-10-04 20:15:25 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like you two were too nervous & in too much of a rush. I would say you need a lot more foreplay to get you loosened & lubed enough for sex. You may also want to incorporate an artificial lubricant, such as K-Y or AstroGlide to help you with insertion. Also, maybe you need to reach down & guide him inside you with your hand. That is often much easier than just trying to hit the mark. When you actually want to have sex, make sure you can go somewhere where you can relax & take your time so he can get you fully prepared to take him inside you. He may need to manually or orally stimulate you near or to orgasm before you can let him inside you. Best of luck. Check the link below, & you may find more helpful information.
2007-10-04 20:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry, this is not unusual. You don't explain why you had decided to wait in the first place, but that reason, whatever it was, may have something to do with it.
It sounds to me like you are suffering from a condition called (forgive my spelling) vaginismus. It is a fear of penitration. You become so tense and stressed that your body reacts against the penitration and your vagina goes tight and dry.
The best treatment is a patient partner and a relax atmospher and let things take their course. There is nothing physically wrong with you. He isn't too big, let's face it your vagina is designed to stretch enough to get a baby out. No man's penis is as big as a baby's head.
If dryness it a problem some form of lubrication, like KY jelly, might help. However I am assuming you are quite young, so you shouldn't require a lubricant. If you aren't wet enough you just aren't ready.
probably, as you said, you just weren't relaxed enough. So relax, it'll happen when the time is right.
2007-10-04 20:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by gerrifriend 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! You are SO FUNNY! You "accidentally" went overboard, you "almost" had sex. Then you realized it wouldn't go in. You're hilarious! Oh please! Look, sometimes women dry up, especially when there's pressure or the woman has mixed emotions. I think you need to decide whether you actually want to have sex with this guy or not. I think you sound too young to be in a relationship right now. Oh, and you need to use protection: you've both been with other people, so you need to use condoms and get tested for STD's.
2007-10-04 20:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
lube it up with a finger first. it could be that the shape of your vagina is like.. i dunno different than what hes used to. i was with a girl once and i coudlnt get it in for the longest time,. it felt strange in there, like it angled in a different direction than what i was used to.
anywho, yea lubricate it really well first, him and you. honestly, if it still doesnt go in, just push harder. i mean, if youve both had sex before then itll eventually go, you just need lube
2007-10-04 20:26:19 · answer #4 · answered by Ricardus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys were nervous and unprepared, maybe unconfortable. if you guys have sex u both need to agree don't let it be an accident. use protection and relax!! next time.
2007-10-04 20:19:49 · answer #5 · answered by Liz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex is not just getting it in, how to and the process of lubricating your sex organs is a good part of it
2007-10-04 20:32:49 · answer #6 · answered by Jesús Ernesto Miguel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That happens with me and my husband ....i get dry and he cant ....well....put it in....my kitty goes on complete lockdown mode.....hey but maybe there was a reason that happened.....you could have been a mom-in-training right now.....
2007-10-04 20:22:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use KY Jelly and try the fingers first.
2007-10-04 20:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by 1funnyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's because both of you are too much excited.. yes, your ryt.. both of you are not relaxed.. try it again and dis tym more relax.. okkk???
2007-10-04 20:20:22 · answer #9 · answered by tin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im 17, i had dis problem b4, spit on it lol, its the best way
2007-10-04 20:19:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋