I am so lonely, I dont have anyone to talk to. Every relationship I've been in has ended badly, most end with the guy getting abusive. It's obviously my fault, so can I give up now?
2007-10-04 20:08:47 · 29 answers · asked by notsonormalgrl 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
PeachPie, how would you know what I've been through? Try giving a constructive answer instead of talking straight out your ***
2007-10-04 20:19:32 · update #1
No - now you get to work - you find out what you are doing to suck yourself into these relationships - you find out what you can do to get out of this lonely rut - I spend a lot of time alone too....but I like the company most of the time.
Yeah, I have truly crappy days....I've wanted to take a Dirt Nap plenty of times....my entire 31st year I had compulsive thoughts of blowing my brains out every waking second.....
No - you cant give up.....no matter how crappy things get, there are two truths - you hit bottom when you stop digging - and no matter how bad things are, nothing ever stays the same, things change.
This too will pass.
Start taking better care of yourself - talk nicer to yourself, you wouldnt talk like that to a fried would you? treat yourself nicer....thats a start, start tommarrow.
2007-10-04 20:14:25 · answer #1 · answered by freshbliss 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not. There are so many people out here living alone, getting crapped on by the men in their lives and still going about the day to day thing. Stick to this Yahoo answers thing when you are feeling lonely and connect to people in this way since right now you feel there is no other way. Eventually, things WILL change. It may not be tonight, it may not be next month. But as crappy as everything seems right this second, there will eventually come a time when you will wonder how you let the last guy bring you down so far. My ex has been out of my life since Jan. 2006, almost to 2 years now. That's a good long while to be alone but alot of the time I do feel OK and I know I am still not ready to get together with another guy because I still think about him. And we ended pretty badly as well.
I think you must have been raised in an abusive household to keep choosing abusive men so it may be in your best interest to find some kind of counseling and possibly Al-Anon if your men have been also abusing drugs or alcohol.
It isn't your fault, we unfortunately seek out what is familiar to us and if you watched abuse going on around you as you grew up, without counseling, you may not be able to resist that type of man. Better times will come eventually. Try to just take care of yourself for right now and when you get your head cleared, then go back into the dating thing.
2007-10-05 03:23:51 · answer #2 · answered by joanie m 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is an insult unto death that friends and family can give. To be shown that you have been raised as an outcast all your life is too much for some to recover from. You will recover because you know that it is your genetic disposition to be different from friends and family . But now you had a taste of the psychotic period when your mind separates from the body. You will have to relearn everything . You are a new person. Be safe in a safe place . Find one friend who is also learning the facts of life.
2007-10-05 03:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's never okay. And this is coming from someone who is clinically depressed and thinks about it all the time. I know it is the easy way out. But life is a gift for you to enjoy. Sure, you might have some bumps on the road but you just keep going forward. Don't give up. If you really want to talk, email me through Yahoo Answers and i will reply. There are ways around depression and talking is one of them.
2007-10-05 03:12:59 · answer #4 · answered by smokey virginia 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need some counseling or a friend. Where is your family.
Life can always get better. Im 32 and ive never had a real relationship and ive been worked over so many times, but i know eventually ill meet someone... you just have to stop focusing on the negative and find the positive...
We find the things we're looking for... Even if its subconscious.
Start looking for a good guy and you'll find him.
If not you can always talk to me... ;) ovcscs@yahoo.com
2007-10-05 03:13:50 · answer #5 · answered by Steven S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The thing is that you probably need to feel comfortable with yourself, thay way you´ll control more what comes from the outside. But you take your choices, it´s your choice how someone makes you feel. I know it sound easy, it´s not as easy taking responsibility of your own thoughts and feelings. But I honestly think that´s why we are here in this place for. To learn how to control our mind and feelings.
Now, think about it, how many persons are in this world? Millions and millions. How many guys? Could they all possibly be abusive? That´s not likely.
When you feel better, you´ll be attracted to a better guy, who treats you right. Make peace with you first, girl. You must have something left worth living for. Some dream there hidden in your mind? Think about it. If some others can be happy and get what they want, why wouldn´t you? You´re not different from others!
2007-10-05 04:43:38 · answer #6 · answered by Ambar4me 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In order to have friends, just be friendly. Go to church, go to lectures, go to moviess, get involved in a group that has the same interests. You can look in your local newspaper for groups, you can look in the yellow pages, you can ask at the local library.
Another great thing to do is volunteer your time to people who have needs. Go to the hospital and ask who needs visitors, or what volunteer services they need filled. Go to a nursing home and adopt a granny or grand-dad who has no regular visitors. Adopt a pet. Visit the nearest veteran's hospital and read or write letters for the veterans who cannot. Volunteer at a soup kitchen to prepare and serve meals to the homeless.
Create a hobby. Make small gifts and deliver them to a school, nursing home, or hospital. (If you are good with crochet, you can make lap rugs, or bed jackets, or pillows). You could take photographs and deliver them to people in hospitals and nursing homes, too! (with their approval and consent, of course.
Learn to paint or sculpt by joining a class at your local community college. take dance lessons... walk your dog at the dog park and meet other pet owners...
Do things you enjoy, and meet others who enjoy them too!
Life is fun and precious, and you will make friends by being friendly and volunteering your time and efforts!
There are so many people who need you! You could become a big-sister or foster a child who needs a temporary home, or even adopt. There are many homeless pets in shelters. Don't give up when you can make such a difference.
2007-10-05 03:20:14 · answer #7 · answered by Princess Picalilly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No do not give up. Life is very stressful but we are built to persevere. I would suggest building a support system. Join support groups; go online and look for resources in your area. I go to therapy once a week that helps me immensely. I still get lonely but at least I have one person to trust. Also crisis lines or warm ear lines help.
2007-10-05 03:13:19 · answer #8 · answered by Summerlynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each experience is for a reason. You should be looking for some answers when evaluating those relationships. Not just making them negative experiences. Why are you attracted to abusive people, etc. Self evaluation can often give you some surprising answers.
2007-10-05 03:15:58 · answer #9 · answered by mrcricket1932 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok first i know what youve been through and i do my dad gave up living on the 20 feb 2007 and before that he was a bit abusive all my life and i was allways depressed and suicidal and in my life i have had 50 atempts to die and then i worked out if god doesnt think your time is done he wont let you die you only will ever die when your time is up please no matter how hard it is never and i mean NEVER give up until its time to trust me i may be only 13 but i have been to 3 different sike wards about 5 times each and i have seen people in such a bad state they wanted me to KILL THEM trust me i have done evry thing possible to die and i am alive yes trust me dont do or you will put every one through pain even yourself if it not your time
2007-10-05 04:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋