My twin sister & one of my brothers tell me that something seriously bad has happened, & then they sound overly dramatic like it was the worst things in the world. & then when you ask what happened, they say, "Well, it's not that big of a deal." & then they sort of play mind games & waste my time. My brother just did that to me, & now I'm so annoyed! He told me about something bad happening in the family, & then he said if I find out, I won't be able to bear or handle it, & then when I asked what happened, he said it wasn't that big of a deal. He wasted 30 of my prepaid minutes of my phone just to beat around the bushes. If you don't trust me, then why do you waste my time to even START to tell me something? & my twin sister does this, too.
2007-10-04 20:05:17 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
They are hooked on drama and don't really have anything to say - just don't be lured in by them. When they say just say OK fine and leave it at that.
2007-10-04 20:22:53 · answer #1 · answered by LillyB 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever been fishing? When you go fishing, you put the bait on the hook and throw it out to try and get the fishy's to bite. It's not usually because you're hungry for fish, it's more like a sport or the sport of fishing. That's what your Brother and Sister are doing. They're throwing out the bait and you're nibbling on it and they take delight at you falling for it.
I wished I would tell you that they'll grow out of it but they probably won't. My older Brother and Younger Sister did that when we were Young and they still act as though they're 12 at times.
What I would suggest is to turn the joke over and make it be the joke on them. When they call and start to play a mind game hang up. When they ask why you hung up tell them that you are not going to waste your minutes on games, either they talk to you right or you won't take their call. Then they'll probably say something like "...but, but something really bad happened...' and then you can say, "if it already happened, then I can't do anything about it, and it must not be that important or you would have told me as soon as I picked up the phone"
And if they can't get the idea that you don't want to play head games with them, then tell your Mom and Dad and explain that if something really bad does happen, you won't believe them.
Hopefully you won't grow up feeling like you're the only child with siblings! And I am very sorry that your twin treats you like that. Usually twins are so tightly connected to each other 1 wouldn't even think about such a thing.
I wish you all the luck!
2007-10-05 05:04:23 · answer #2 · answered by ghstwarntx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Family tends to be the most over-dramatic when it comes to explaining things. It's the comfort factor. For example: It's the belief that when I'm talking to my family, I can say anything and they'll understand. It happens all the time to almost everybody. If it bothers you that much, try asking "Is this for real"? Or, "you know it really bothers me when you say: 'it's no big deal'. What's the problem"? They might just need a nudge. If they resist, then it's probably better not to push. Most of the time they'll tell you with the proper words.
2007-10-05 07:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Len 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have friends who do it and sometimes I'll do it too. We always say we were joking in the end, we don't do when someone pays, and we don't mess with family, illness e.t.c.
We usually pretend just to know something juicy.
Anyway the best way to deal with it, especially when you have no time or money to waste is to be firm, ask them to state their purpose immediately and if they don't leave the room or close the phone.
What would really get them though is doing the same thing to them. Wait for some time to pass, think of a really good story and let them sweat. Vengeance is better served cold!
2007-10-05 04:41:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first poster! They're just being dramatic, but you should stop falling for that. Next time they try this on you, ask them *once* 'oh, what happened?' and if they start beating about the bush claiming it's no big deal, say 'oh, okay then' and change the subject. It may take a bit of self-control since of course you are curious (nothing wrong with that, normal human trait :)) but if you stick to it, it should stop this annoying behaviour.
2007-10-05 04:41:08 · answer #5 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If that is a regular occurrence then I think they are messing with your mind. They have found a sensitive nerve and are toying with you.
With out knowing your age there is little else I can say.
You sound like a teenager so perhaps they are being immature and need to be told to grow up.
2007-10-05 13:06:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess they think they are royalty: Drama King and Drama Queen. I don't blame you for feeling like you do. First of all, wasting your phone time really sucks and then to say nothing. How lame? it sounds as if maybe they are trying to get attention from you.
2007-10-05 03:44:58 · answer #7 · answered by Patti C 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my sister she loves to annoy me, But now she stop because I do not listen any more for there gossips. I off my cell every time i know she ring me I do not answer her message and i do not greet her on her birthday. i ignore her completely now shes worried she tell our mother.
2007-10-05 05:24:30 · answer #8 · answered by lovey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't answer the phone.
2007-10-05 03:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋