i broke up with my boyfriend or 5 months a month ago, and even after we broke up, we kept talking on the phone for about a month. i still loved him and i know he still has feelings for me too. he was constantly giving me hopes for a patch up.
until one day after a quarrel, he stopped calling me.when i asked him why, he said he had moved on and he doesnt feel like talking to me.
i am very heartbroken, i tried to move on. but i cant. i just cannot forget him.what should i do now? should i tell him that i will wait for him or just act like it doesnt affect me?
2007-10-04 19:26:55 · 19 answers · asked by thegangygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-10-04 19:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by smart 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like a bit of a drama. They say time is a healer, and in a way it is. The amount of time it takes you to heal a broken heart is up to you. You've got to think, I'm alone now, am independent, what is the next step to becoming my single self again?
Remember what you were like before him. All the things you liked and disliked. They are still there. Do your favourite past time, absorb yourself in it, and relax. Don't think about him (may be hard at first) but just remember, if you think about him, your thoughts of your favourite hobby will also remind you of him. Will come and hit you like a tonne of bricks, bad bad, leaves you recessive etc.
Have a girls night. Go out on the town, meet some guy friends or workmates and just enjoy being you. Once you remember how it felt to be single, you'll have a change of mind set. You'll start thinking less of him and more of yourself, your life back on the single band wagon, and your loves.
After a time, thoughts of him won't bother you. You'll find someone new, and probably even more exciting, and the world will make sense again. Even if you don't meet someone life will begin to have meaning, you'll be yourself...
2007-10-04 19:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by Birds of Prey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do for yourself is to not contact him. I broke up with my boyfriend of 5 years. We were engaged even and I was heartbroken. It took me a full year to COMPLETELY get over him. The first 6 months were the worst. I'd try not to think about him, but it didn't work well. The best advice is to keep yourself entertained with other things. Refocus your life. If you feel the urge, just lock yourself up in your room and have a cryfest. Let it all out! You'll feel better afterwards. Rinse & repeat if needed. Keeping in touch with him will only make things a lot harder on yourself. He has obviously moved on, so all you can do is do the same.
2007-10-04 19:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by Cochy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The secret to getting over someone is: NOT HAVING CONTACT WITH THAT PERSON (sometimes that is impossible, I don`t know what situation you are in, but it sounds like you don`t talk other than on the phone?). Sad but true! Only time will heal your wounds, sounds cliche but it`s true. Stay away, don`t act a certain way just to "get back at him", be honest and tell him (that`s if he calls again) that you can`t talk to him for a while, it just hurts too much. It`s okay to cry over it. It`s okay to hate him and miss him and all that, it`s okay! As long as you stay away!
I don`t see the point in lying to him, if you`re not seeing anyone, don`t tell him you are, it`s stupid and he will look right through it.
2007-10-04 19:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by Roxie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop talking to him altogether, that will help you get rid of him. Then just go out to a bar and make out with the first guy who buys you a drink. Take pics on your cell phone and accidentally send them to him. That will prove that you are ready to move on. You don't need him. If he was good for you, you wouldn't have broken up in the first place. So just get over it like a big girl.
2007-10-04 19:31:43 · answer #5 · answered by smokey virginia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him you will wait for him, if anything, that will just scare him off more. Go on with your life. Yes, it's awful, and it will be for a while, but keep going. When thoughts of him come into your head, replace them with other thoughts. Try and get involved with something outside your home, like exercise, walking or jogging. Get involved in helping others too, through blood donation or volunteer work. You need to replace those thoughts!
2007-10-04 19:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a relationship turn sour, it is very diffcult for the couples to reconciled. Even both of you can reconciled, how about the feelings? It will be a totally different feeling.
I feel that it is better for you to let go of this relationship and move on with your life. I think it is better for you as you can widened your social circle and know more guys who may be better than your ex
2007-10-04 23:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can reallly help you on this one... cuz i have experience the only difference is mine is longer and im the guy, and shes the one who did the break up...
before i tell you my advice i want you to know that its always you're choice and im just telling you some stuff that might help you....
-ok people change... no matter what they change...
-theres always someone who will love you... theres alot of guys out there. (i no theyre not like him but who knows you find a better one)
-i dont know how you guys broke up but sometimes couples needs some time off or time out or what ever you call it... but if its you're fualt i think you learned your lesson
Now for the real advice
if you're hurting and you want to get over him... what you do is...
-burn everything that reminds you of him, which are pictures presents whatever...
-hang out with friends ALOT find the single version of you
-meet some guys (highly recommended)
-music, workout, clean your house, what ever that keeps you occupied...
2007-10-04 19:46:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't wait for him. It's over. It's easier to deal with if you have no contact at all. I know how it feels and the best thing you can do is to try to forget him by keeping yourself busy socially with friends and dating. I've even moved house to avoid seeing an ex as it was so emotionally painful if I saw him at the store or on the train, etc. It made it much easier to forget by physically moving to another suburb.
2007-10-04 19:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-17 17:40:08 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think realistic and honestly about the quarrel you had, ..were you right or wrong ?
If you were right, will he change, or does he have hidden agendas.
Were you wrong , will you change , or always be miss right..
Don't waste your life putting on an act and waiting for nothing to happen.
2007-10-04 19:34:54 · answer #11 · answered by Featherman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋