ok so who do you think should pay the bills at the start when a girl moves out of her house to move in with her boyfriend? or what do you think of those selfish mans that say girls are suppose to pay to?
2007-10-04 19:18:40 · 31 answers · asked by my 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My honest opinion is that if a girl has just moved out of her house into her boyfriend’s house she shouldn’t have to pay for the 1st month. I don’t live with my boyfriend but I’m there all the time so if he needs some money for gas or to pay a bill I help him out. I’m just a helping person. Now after a while of living together I think they should get a joint savings or checking and that way they can just pay the bills out of that. My boyfriend told me that he would give me the money and I would go pay it but I’m going to help him out if he needs it. I’m about to move in with him. I am not just going to leave him without water or electricity or something.
2007-10-05 03:26:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a man and woman move in together-- before marriage-- they should both be contributing to the household bills.
Obviously, if one makes more money than the other-- the bills should be divided accordingly. If they make similiar money--split the bills right down the middle. 50/50.
I don't think a guy is being "selfish" just because he expects the girlfriend/housemate to pay towards the household bills.
NOW.... if the girl is not working-- let's say she is being the "housewife". Staying home, keeping the house clean, fixing the meals... taking care of the children (if any).. then she is ALREADY contributing to the house. She *has* a job. BIGTIME. In that case, the finances are his responsibility.
If a couple is just dating... not living together, I think the guy should pay for dates. It should be a PRIVILIGE to date the girl. However... it doesn't hurt for the girl to offer to pay for dinner once in awhile. It's just being polite.
Just my opinion.... Good Luck to you!
2007-10-04 19:28:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Both should assume some part of everyday household expenses, but the purchase of real property by 2 unmarried people is almost always a major mistake. About the most expensive item that you should own jointly should be a skillet. When young people move in together (girl & guy, 2 girls, 2 guys, 2 of each, whatever the roommate makeup is), everyone should own all his/her own stuff independently. That makes it a lot easier to move out if you feel the need, or for the first tenant (who has first claim on the domicile) or the group to join together in asking some undesirable member of the group to move on.
2007-10-04 19:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by masince1986 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am old school. The man should pay the bills. I clean, cook and do the grocery shopping and pay all my personal bills. My insurances and dr. bills, clothing, hair salon, dental etc. I pay. He had all those household bills before I moved in, so will have to pay those whether I am there or not. Plus now he has a maid, cook and someone to keep him warm at night and companion .
2015-01-28 09:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by debk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is a teamwork thing, and the both of you have to do your part. Financials are no different. As long as both of you are working it out, that's all you need to do. Try deciding who pays what so you can split it equally, one get's 1/2 of the bills, and the other, the other 1/2.
2007-10-04 20:07:34 · answer #5 · answered by blaktigr84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think things should be split 50/50. But if he has a higher source of income than you do maybe he would consider to pitch in a little more than half. Same goes if the girl make more. You both need to sit down and discuss it. Good Luck and God Bless!
2007-10-04 19:24:38 · answer #6 · answered by gizmo2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone in the household should pay for themselves. MOving in is not like dating, they usually cant afford to support you. even when you get married, the husband and wife (if they both work) kind of split the bills without realizing it, except it comes out of a joint account, your a big girl if you move out, you should be able to support yourself.
2007-10-04 19:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't know what you mean by - What do you think of those selfish men who say girls suppose to pay too?
It's very very selfish of you to expect men to pay all the time. It's about equality these days. How are you expected to get respect if you are going to act like some sort of hostess/call girl?
2007-10-04 19:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by greenorlagh 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Women should pay bills if they wanna date. Guys should just pay for the protection needed (no babies) b/c in the end that's the reason we went out in the 1st place.
2007-10-05 07:03:22 · answer #9 · answered by Aniken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always go with the idea of men take the big ones!..House and food. When have children, school and doctors...We both work (have business each) I don´t really pay anything but things that I want but not necessary have to buy. Like tvs,,pcs, kids toys,,,etc. I don´t like to feel like I have to pay to live with him. And he strongly believes that he´s the one who should support this home. Thanks God we never have problems in that area..But it would be different maybe, if we were having financial problems.
2007-10-04 19:32:19 · answer #10 · answered by jackielafemme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋