me and my ex still have sex and hang out a lot. but i've been seeing this new guy recently and he acts so jealous. the thing is, when i talk to my ex about it, he says he has feelings but doesn't want a relationship. he won't really explain in detail. he's about to go to med school though, and will be about 4 hrs away from me. nevertheless, he's always been sort of a jerk to me during our relationship (talked about other girls a lot) and left me for some other girl that i thought wasn't his type (but apparently was). anyway, i'm just confused bc sometimes i have feelings for him and sometimes little things he does annoys me. what should i do? also, what's a good way to meet new guys in college (as a senior)? i go to a lot parties but i'm not interested in stupid guys who drink all the time. I'm also in an organization, but the guys in there are too nerdy. now that i'm a senior there really seems no point in starting anything new with someone, but i still want something. what to do??
2007-10-04 19:08:07 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First and foremost.. drop the ex. Ever heard the expression why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free? He isn't serious nor will he ever be. Cut your losses and cut ties completely. As far as meeting people, the best thing to do is to go to places that you find interesting. If you like coffee houses, go there... bookstores?... see what i mean. Find the common ground and there you have it... then do not be afraid to be social have conversation. Good luck.
2007-10-04 19:13:55 · answer #1 · answered by in_TIM_idation 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that your most important lesson needs to be that you don't have to have a guy to be someone. You seem to not know that. Why would you be with someone who treats you badly? And why do you need to sleep with two men at once, 'cause it sounds like you're doing that? You need to get some self-esteem! In the meantime, just get to know people, don't always be looking for someone. If your organization attracts nerdy guys, and parties attract drunks, then maybe it's time to find something new to do, maybe where you can meet people outside of school. Is there an environmental cleanup group? A congregation? A tutoring group to help young kids? Those all have volunteers who don't go to your school but who might be interesting. Try and make friends with women, too, who might introduce you to other people.
2007-10-04 19:15:34 · answer #2 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok look, i can't tell you what to do cuz whatever happens happens.... u no...
drinker or nerdy? well you cant judge a person from what they do... go take the plunge and find out for yourself...
feeling confused about you're feelings? well just do what ever you're comfortable with even if its wrong... i used to be always do the right thing kind of mind... but after a while i thought of sometimes doing the right thing is not the right thing... i no its wierd but its logical... so live doing what you think is right(even if its wrong) rather than live in confusion...
i no its really risky and alot difficult but its way more rewarding..
i recommend to explore more, meet more guys, meet people, and find what you really want... this is very effective and safe
2007-10-04 19:28:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what its like for your ex to have some kind of influence over you...I say influence because I bet as soon as a potential special someone comes along, he convinces you he cares about you, and confuses you...I used to fall for this from my ex all the time before...even after he neglected me and hurt me by making everyone else more important...until I realized that he is just a selfish jerk who is insecure. Ive kept my distance and now I'm happier than ever! let him go and stop allowing him to use you because you deserve better that him...hes nothing but the scum on the bottom of your shoes!
2007-10-04 19:31:14 · answer #4 · answered by stellarchick31 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would absolutely do what I could do to keep them in touch but I wouldn't always do it on my dollar, he can come to you just as easily as you can go to him. But, I find it funny that you are blaming this on his carelessness...why did you not make sure that the sex you were having was protected? Seems like equal carelessness to me. I understand you're exhausted, I'm a new single mom too, but it's just as much my responsibility as it was my husbands to prevent pregnancy if I didn't want a baby. Own up.
2016-05-21 05:04:18 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋