why dont they put the money to better use.
2007-10-04 19:05:54 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Weddings are an indication of social standing. It is also the occasion to show your spouse to your friends.
2007-10-04 19:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by boyplakwatsa.com 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Weddings don't have to cost a lot of money, mine didn't and so far it has lasted 13 happy years. There is not much point in starting off your married life with the debt from a big wedding hanging over it. People should budget and spend according to what they have. I had a great day and had £150 guests at it. Dresses where bought from a charity shop for a fraction of what I would have paid for a new one, my friend done the video, a workmate of my husbands done the photos, and we got use of a large function room in a local club for the money they made on the bar, the group was also friends of ours and didn't charge us it was a wedding present and my uncle done the cars. If you don't ask then you won't get, all these people where happy to help with my big day. So don't be so negative and say weddings never last, my aunt and uncle just celebrated 60 years together as man and wife.
2007-10-04 22:24:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so bitter? Plenty of marriages last, and people spend that much because they are only going to do it once (they hope) and they want a magical day to remember forever. Who wants to look back on their wedding and think that it wasn't as good as it could have been? I wouldn't spend a fortune myself, my wedding was about £3000 including honeymoon and everything else, but I had everything I wanted and had always dreamed of and I wouldn't have done it any other way.
What are the better things they could spend their money on? Unless you mean they should give it to charity, which I doubt, then you're talking about material goods, and if you don't believe the marriage will last whats the point in buying things that will only get fought over in the divorce? Why not have a fantastic day with everyone you love instead? You will always have the memories, you might not end up with the plasma tv.
2007-10-08 11:28:36 · answer #3 · answered by magenta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Amen to that!!! I do know that there are a lot of marriages that do work and last until death do they part, but spending thousands of dollars on a ceremony that last less than an hour is just simply ridiculous. Some of the celebrities have spent millions on their weddings and then less than a year later they are getting a divorce. All that money would have been put to better use if they would have donated it to a charity or helped a needy family or feed the hungry! I just think that it is wrong to spend thousands of dollars on a wedding. I have heard some people talking about their wedding and how much it cost and 3yrs later they are still paying it off, It is just crazy!
You can have a small, simple inexpensive wedding and you still get the same result, you have became Man and Wife, the outcome is the same, you are just not in debt after wards!
2007-10-04 19:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by gizmo2 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hi Fiona! I agree that people spend too much on one day. I also agree that some women do it to assert power, some for the attention, and some because they just want a fantastic party. I married my husband in the mountains of Arizona with twelve of our friends and family as witnesses. The flight out there as well as hotel, reception, pictures, flowers, and video all came to less than six thousand dollars. I wouldn't trade it for any huge wedding. My marriage has lasted 7 years (so far) and I don't expect that to end any time soon :)
2007-10-05 14:41:46 · answer #5 · answered by just me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wedding was the best day of my life and if I could do it again I would. I decided right in the beginning that I would rather have a big wedding than a small one and a fancy honeymoon as I wanted to share my day with all the people I cared about and loved. I am so glad I did. The memories mean more to me than anything else in the world,
2007-10-05 06:58:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey it's down to a little thing called commercialism..first it was christmas..then easter and now weddings..soon babies won't be allowed from the birth canal til they are dressed in the appropriate outfit and accessories as chosen by an overpaid "birth planner and co ordinator"..don't you just love progress..so i say reject it all and elope to gretna green if you really must marry..but why not just show you care in every little thing you do rather than blow a load of money you just don't have and finally..to answer your question..lol..yeah people do waste money and most won't last mainly due to the pressure of the wedding and expense or the stress of repaying the wedding but a few lucky ones might make it..and years down the line when they are still struggling to make ends meet the last line of your question will be all they can think too.
2007-10-04 19:31:48 · answer #7 · answered by Jools 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To P!$$off people like you! ;) And because we can.....
Just because someone is having a nice wedding doesn't mean they can't buy a nice house afterwards. Really, how far is $30,000 going to go if your house already costs $275,000? It's already decent!
Seriously, while I DO agree some people lose their minds and blow the budget, this is not always the case.
The average cost for a large city wedding is expensive no matter what you do in most cases. So you might as well give your beloved friends and family a little more bang for your buck. If I can get amazing food (vs "OK") for my guests for 5 dollars more a head, why not?
Another factor is religion (remember that?). People getting married with religious values often mark this as a very sacred and joyous celebration. Why shouldn't they indulge? In fact, beliefs are one thing that gives couples incentive to stick together and work it out, instead of filing for divorce when their hubby forgets to walk the dog.
Define "better use". A trip that will be a distant memory in 10 years.? A car that will rust in 7?...
P.S. I agree with Sparkley's answer.
2007-10-04 19:10:30 · answer #8 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
People spend a lot a of money on weddings because it is their special day. They don't view it as wasting money and the don't look at it with the view that its not going to last. If people looked at things that way then a lot of things wouldn't get done
2007-10-04 19:21:31 · answer #9 · answered by Baps . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because some people, when they get married, think that's it's going to be the one and only marriage in their life and they want to make it so special. They're elated and want to let everybody know how happy they are. It's all right to spend a lot of money on wedding provided there's still some left for the life after marriage. If marriage is something special in your life, I guess there's nothing wrong in throwing a huge reception.
2007-10-04 19:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Ananya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are all different, so what is a reasonable amount of money to you could be pittance to another person, and vice-versa. I agree that getting into debt for the sake of one big wedding day is silly, but that's a choice that people make, and it's up to them to pay that debt off after, if they want to take on such a financial burden then that is their issue. No one goes into a marriage thinking "This will fail", but sometimes they do not think beyond the wedding day itself. It's just become part of our culture to have big weddings and if you read some of the comments here you'll see that people are under pressure to have certain things at their wedding for fear of offending guests or being called tacky for not providing everything that their guests have come to expect. My view on this is IF you can afford to spend that money then why not? And if you can't then don't get into debt to please your guests.
2007-10-04 19:23:15 · answer #11 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋