Okay so I know that a lot of ppl out there might not have the same views as I do but I would like your opinion on something. I as a christian believe in courtship vs dating. I think that responsibilities and views that courtship puts forth allow young ppl and those who are ready to be married to make wise decisions based on pure love as opposed to the sexual clutter of this world. I would like to know your opinion on it as to why you see that courtship is either a plus or a negative in your opinion. I realize that some ppl cringe at the thought of this subject but I would love some honest answers and feedback as to why you feel the way you do. Thank you for all your help, this will be aiding me in a speech I am to be giving to my fellow peers @ my high school. God Bless!
Ps- guys don't hold back ( I want the truth from your point if view)
2007-10-04 18:54:37 · 9 answers · asked by crank dat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It does not matter the label you put on it it is all about who is involved in the relationship. Two mature people can have a meaningful relationship through dating.
2007-10-04 18:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Derrick G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Courtship sounds great. Instead of being focused on lust and winning a person over for a night people are focused on the big-picture and the long-term. Sexual experience doesn't help people when they're trying to hold a marriage together.
It is a shame our society isn't more centered around it. I'll blame Hollywood and the rest of the entertainment industry before anyone or anything else.
2007-10-04 19:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by John 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as i can see there is NO difference between courtship and dating --- they are both a means to get to know each other and find out if there is something permanent between you --- no matter what you call it it is a difficult time --- you are making decisions that will last (in theory) 40 to 50 years --- so as basically an immature couple you are expected to make a huge decision not only that but if you are both virgins then there is a whole other aspect to consider --- living together will all the flaws and foibles that you muct change or live with --- ive been through that and had a marriage of 30 years fail (mainly my fault --- i took her for granted and did not take the time to reconnect) --- now i do believe in sex before marriage -- it can (and has) kept me from making more mistakes ---- living together yes ---- and i still believe in marriage if thats what my lady wants (and she does) ---- best wishes
2007-10-04 19:04:20 · answer #3 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dating is simply a way of sharing your time with a person(hopefully) of the opposite sex in order to avoid lonliness, without the pressures of monogamy and commitment. At the age when one usually begins to date, you are usually unsure of career, location and education which are all still fairly new ideas to conquer.
Courtship on the other hand is a means to an end; when you 'court' someone, it's with the intention of marrying and settling in a specific location with that person. Job, family and lifelong monogamy are your focus. I personally believe that marriage is an antiquated and outmoded form of cohabitation; it doesn't take thousands of dollars and a Justice of the Peace or a priest to sanction a union between a man and a woman; neither will any of these things retain the love or responsibility felt by either person once they've left the relationship. God created love and sex; priests created marriage...
2007-10-04 19:06:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think what you are saying is a very noble thing. I takes will power to refrain from the pressures of society to act as it does. But it defenitely is a sign of a strong individual. I also agree that courtship is the best way for 2 people to first appreciate each other for psychological reasons rather than physical.
2007-10-04 19:13:33 · answer #5 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christian should not be searching for dates. that's yet another compromise that society has stepped forward to permit fornication to take carry. while the time is nice, a Christian could seek for a companion. that's courtship. you may have a chaperon in this era. inspite of the shown fact that that's not required for 2 totally mature adults that understand the thank you to regulate themselves. Marriage does not survive on love on my own. God bless
2016-10-21 02:34:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see it as a plus because i'm also a christian and in todays society there's to much sexual stuff being pushed on young people. i also believe that no matter how old you are you'd have the responsibilities of making your on decisions and other things.
2007-10-04 19:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that courting is a bad idea because you can't REALLY get to know someone if you don't go out and do things with them. Just sitting down with a guy and telling him about you and hearing about him isn't gonna get you anywhere. I would hope that you would find someone to date who you know is decent to begin with so that you wouldn't have to worry about learning all about him before you do anything physical. And plus, courting just isn't realistic these days.
2007-10-04 19:02:21 · answer #8 · answered by future_PhARMER 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO
2007-10-04 18:56:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋