My parents have been separated for about 8 months, and my dad just recently told my mom he wanted a divorce.
Now it's fall, and thanksgiving and christmas are coming up, so I am scared that my mom will become even more depressed than she already is. Her parents both died years ago, and her only brother doesn't speak to her. Her next closest relative, her aunt, died 2 years ago. She has no family accept me, my brother, and sister, and they are older and married and will be doing other things for thanksgiving and christmas.
what can I do?
2007-10-04 18:39:38 · 7 answers · asked by blank 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
yea, talk to you brother & sister explain your worries see if plans can be changed or try to get together a thanksgiving dinner earlier in the month and Christmas and New Years Eve. If not take it upon yourself decorate make it festive invite some of your friends to help you make a Thanksgiving dinner party, Christmas, and New Years Eve
2007-10-04 19:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by dearmeohmy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in a tough situation, but the first 2 answers on here were terrific.
You can also go somewhere really special for Christmas if you can afford it. Like this Christmas I've taken my husband to a very magical Christmas town called Leavenworth, in Washington state. We go there when we have no family to celebrate with. It's in the mountains, every building in the town has been built with Bavarian (German) architecture, and the light displays are beautiful. It's like being in the Alps but it's here in the states. They also have skiing nearby. Just a thought.... keep mom busy over Christmas so she won't be sad. At least she won't be alone - she has you! :)
2007-10-05 02:57:06 · answer #2 · answered by Wintergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can find things that you and her can do together. If you want to still make the holidays festive to some degree, see if there is a homeless shelter or soup kitchen in your area where she could volunteer and those people could be her family for the holidays and perhaps the rest of the year as well. I know of a person who does exactly that and tells me that it is very rewarding and good for depression.
2007-10-05 01:53:51 · answer #3 · answered by Al B 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely she'll be upset. But you and your siblings is her strenght now and forever. She won't be concentrating on occasions i guest. Love and cares of you and your siblings will built a confident in her. Try to divert her mind to so many other things which she likes and keep occupied. Take her for shopping and spent time with her. Try not to leave her alone until she's stabil.
2007-10-05 03:28:59 · answer #4 · answered by Sha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell your siblings to get their stuff together and be there for your mother when she needs them. She has been there for them their entire lives and they can't meet up with her for Thanksgiving and Christmas the one time she might need them?
2007-10-05 01:47:56 · answer #5 · answered by John 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can talk to ur siblings and discuss with them what all of u can do... if they really cant be there for ur mom...dun blame them...they may have their own reasons...
only thing you can do now is be strong for ur mom... i am sure she is devastated bout the marriage so this is the time for u to be the anchor in the family....
i have personally seen my own mother divorced twice...but thats an entirely different story...
god bless and good luck...stay strong sweetie...
2007-10-05 02:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by yuki_natsuo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be as strong as you can for her. Make her happy all the time. You 2 should do something special for the holidays.
2007-10-05 01:57:43 · answer #7 · answered by Ophelia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋