i left my girlfriend of 2 years because of different things. neither of us can get over each other but she has

Question

trust issues with me. i made some stupid mistakes, but we still talk and hooked up the other night. i went over to her house tonight because i was confused about the previous night. she says she is the one that calls all the time and has trust issues and thinks that those will always be there. i honestly thought it was over and did not want to ruin her new job and life. i thought i did not deserve her and did not want to ruin things for her. she still text and calls and then we hook up the other night. i thought this was my shot my opening, but then she says i should have been the one calling and making attempts to get to her well i thought it was over. tonight she says there are trust issues and she does not know and i should not sit and wait around for her but also said she was forcing herself to say these things right now. is there a magic thing to say and i know people say move on but neither of us can and i think it is more of a pride thing with her. i love her more than anything

Answer 1

You are taking the right first step by admitting that you made some stupid mistakes. consider what happened in the past to be in the past and start to do those things now that you would do if you just met her and were interested in her and no one else. call her, text her, and perhaps even send flowers now and then. Most importantly though, don't do anything to give her reason to not trust you and as many reason that you can think of to restore that trust.

Answer 2

your relationship is kinda like mine. we have trust issues too. my bf doesn't trust me cuz i liked a guy during our relationship and i guess other stuff too..but i've never cheated on him or did anything with them but he still doesn't trust me. he says that nothing will ever change how he feels and that the thought is always in the back of his mind. we've talked about it and he's trying to trust me. your gf should probably start by trying to trust you and you have to show her lots of love for her to be able to trust you and believe what you say. also when a girl seems like she doesn't want u around and keeps pushing u away she's really saying i really need someone to listen/comfort me. if you love her more than anything then show her. you need to convince her..telling her isnt enough. good luck :]

Answer 3

Idk the details of this situation, but sometimes wen girls are pushing u away is when they need u the most, the sign that shes calling probably means she wants u to call to. sounds like shes conflicted because she has trust issues but maybe still has feelings for u. if u still care for her u shudnt give up and by not calling her ur sending her signs that u dont care, even when its just cuz u thought it was over

Answer 4

dont let her go, screw that. people are wrong. if you love her then do what ever it takes for as long as it takes. tell her there may be trust issues and the only way to fix them is to work it out together. let her know you want to change it.