If someone has been saying they will do something for you for almost a year but they still haven't got around to doing it yet, and keep making excuses e.g they have been busy.
2007-10-04 18:08:19 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Too little information.
Some people who do this are truly busy, far more busy than they could've known when they made their promise (things change in peoples lives; may've been a change in their work- or home situation).
Other people who do this are indeed lazy, have had plenty of time to do dozens of other things but just haven't bothered with your project.
For many, indeed, it is a combination of the two; they may be a bit more busy than they'd thought when they made their promise, but they've also had plenty of moments that they just didn't get around to it while they could have.
In many cases, people make promises *trying* to be polite, even if they know they are busy or they don't really want to do the job. But they feel they'd be rude saying no. This is an unfortunate thing, because honesty really is the best policy. They could just say they can't/don't want to do it, not *that* much fun to hear but still you'd have known, and you could've found someone else to do it for you. Much better in the long run!
2007-10-04 22:07:49 · answer #1 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a nasty little combination of both. They are being rude by making false commitments and lazy by making excuses while not even attempting to follow through. If it was something important, I'd call them out on it and not really not rely on them for anything substantial anymore.
2007-10-05 01:28:11 · answer #2 · answered by Sophra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the "something" is. The other person could be rude, lazy, rude and lazy, forgetful, passive- aggressive, or many other things. If you can do the "something" yourself or get someone else to do it, it's probably a good idea to 'move on.'
2007-10-05 01:25:20 · answer #3 · answered by pinwheel66 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is rude and lazy. There has to be some free time in there somewhere or she should just tell you that she cannot do it for you. Leaving you hanging is very rude. If you can't do it yourself I would find someone else.
2007-10-05 03:34:00 · answer #4 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's past being rude or lazy what it is,that ;someone never meant to do it in the first place. Allot of people makes promises they never intend to keep, they have a need to feel good about themselves. and that is one of the way's they use to do it...
2007-10-05 01:18:23 · answer #5 · answered by barbara-shope@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither, the person they are telling is stupid for believing they might get around to it. They aren't being rude or lazy, just lying.
2007-10-05 01:14:11 · answer #6 · answered by chocolateman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe what they say, believe what they do.
Why are you depending on this person to do something for the past year? Do you have THAT much patience? Or do you believe in magic?
2007-10-05 01:13:37 · answer #7 · answered by Polly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe what you are asking them to do is imposing on them a little too much and they're a person who finds it difficult to say no.
2007-10-05 03:11:54 · answer #8 · answered by Miss Sally Anne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with mystery man, its both...
There has to be a point and im guessing a year is way over that point
2007-10-05 01:20:11 · answer #9 · answered by lukeee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they just don't want to do it. Cut your losses and do it yourself or hire someone else to do whatever it is that needs to be done.
2007-10-05 01:43:03 · answer #10 · answered by SoAZ Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋