In my job, I get harrassed quite a bit, even by my manager. Do "bad" employees get treated this way?

Question

Does this mean I should look for employment someplace else? I dont know how do deal with this because my manager is in on this, I have no one to turn to for help. Any one I try to befriend, ends up making fun of me or ignoring me. They say things about me that are not true,they sabotage my passwords on my computer, and find ways to generally make my life difficult at work.
Is this just the way the workplace is or am I missing something? I am finding ways to cope, but I dont to "cope". I just want to be left alone to do my job. And get along with my co-workers. I believe I act in a professional manner,( no gossiping,proper apperance,e.t.c.) so this type of treatment is a mystery to me.

Answer 1

No that is not how employees are supposed to be treated. Even if you are doing something the manager doesn't like you should be treated with respect. The manager should pull you aside and talk to you about what is wrong and tell you how he would like you to fix what ever is wrong. If you are not doing any thing wrong then obviously you have a manager that is very inexperienced and/or to childish to do the job properly. If I were in your situation I would not take their abuse. I would go above the manager and talk to the supervisor or whoever is the boss of your manager. If that person wont listen then call the owner of the business. Don't just take their crap and not do anything about it.

Answer 2

Sounds like you might want to find another job. You can probably try to fight it by reporting it to a labour standards board or take legal action. But if you do that you'll need to change jobs anyway and if you do go that route you may end up just creating more grief for yourself. Maybe you should try to talk to your manager and let him know that this behaviour is not acceptable.

As far as passwords are concerned...the only way people can mess with them is if they know what they are. So you must be telling them or writing it down and leaving it in an obvious place. Memorize it and don't give it to anybody and don't type it in while people are looking over your shoulder.

You may also want to do some soul searching to see if there's something about your behaviour thats bringing this on, especially if you're really are having issues with Everybody.

Answer 3

First, understand that you don't have to put up with harassment. There are laws governing this in all 50 states and they all take this issue very seriously. If you are being harassed at work you should speak to your manager in private. If your manager is in on this than talk to his manager. Let them know that you have a right not to be harassed and you will not put up with it. If they don't listen then contact your State Department of Labor and file a formal complaint. This will solve the problem and it would be illegal for you to be fired for lodging the complaint.

Something to consider, if you are being harassed is this a job you want to fight to keep? Depending on how new you are to this job the harassment may end. Hazing new people, while unlawful, often does happen. If this is a job you really like you may want to give it a little while to see if it goes away before stirring the pot. If it's not a job you are passionate for than you may be better off looking for a different job as legal remedies may cause your co-workers to truly dislike you which wouldn't help the situation. Choose carefully.

Answer 4

I know what you mean. If managers want you to do something they don't catch honey by kicking over the beehive right? Some of the things most people want are 1. Health and the preservation of life 2. Food 3. Sleep 4. Money and the things money will buy 5. Life in the hereafter 6. Sexual gratification 7. The well-being of our children and last but not LEAST. 8. A FEELING of importance. There is a human hunger for that. That is why they roll on the ground, kick, scream and put you down. It is in everyone's nature. Have you ever noticed that if you give someone a compliment. they usually put themself down after. But if you put someone down, they stick up for themself? Here is an example: Put down:---------- THEM"Whoa!, that new outfit looks like you bought it from a thrift store! YOU " Hey, I paid 250.00 bucks just for this shirt alone! More than your car payment! Compliment-------- "Wow, I love your new outfit. It looks like you really have a sense of fashion!" "Well, thanks I really do have a lot more to learn though, I have seen people at the mall who really put together some great outfit ideas and I try to keep my eyes open so I can keep learning."

Answer 5

First lets answer the harrasment part, if this harrassment is sexually motivated then it is a no, no. You can go directly to your manager's boss and file a complaint. If not then your problem lies in your relationship with your co-employees. I guess you are the new one in the group. Actually, the only "office harrassment" are the one with sexual overtones. If your so called harrassment is not in this category, then, this is what we call office pranks. The only way to overcome this is not to pay attenttention to the pranks. When I say not to pay attention, it means you must not show any emotion whether, anger, annoyance, etc,. Then you can confront these persons in a very nice and humble way. If this does not work then you can reverse it, if you think it is funny for them, try laughing at the pranks. For all you know, maybe someone wants to get your attention....

Answer 6

First thing, have you talked to the manager one-on-one and told them how you feel, or are you just assuming cuz they are part of the joke. Some people are dense and don't realize what they are putting you through. If you have, I know with my workplace, I have a phone number to call to escalate harrassment issues when management won't do anything about it. Look into that, or if there is a district or regional manager that comes once in awhile, talk to them.
If neither work, quit. That may shock them into realizing what they are doing, if nothing else it removes them from an unpleasant situation that you don't need to be in.

Answer 7

I am currently in almost the same situation. 2 weeks ago I applied for a new job and got it. I then resigned and since then everyone started being overly nice to me and I even got offered a higher salary so not to go. The reason is because I always did everything for them but I have got to much respect for myself to let other people make me feel uncomfortable at work and it felt great to tell them that I am leaving. You must do the same. You deserve to be treated better.

Answer 8

It is rare for "everyone" to be against an employee and esp if a boss is involved .
This must be some little office or business .
Lots of jobs in the world , apply with a larger corporation where the staff will be more professional .

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Answer 9

Do you have an HR supervisor? If so talk to him or her. You should document all instances of harrassment because you could sue the co. and win a large amount of money. Do you have at least one witness?
If no one will help you, find another job. This is an unfriendly workplace and I would sue them for damages.

Answer 10

Bad employees get fired.

You are dealing with a bunch of immature nincompoops with very low self esteem who's urgent needs are to belittle others so they can pull them down to their low level. That's their cheap thrill. The more you will try to be professional the more they will try to pull you down. You will eventually break down to which they will react as to a great victory or you will stoop to their level.

Get out of there, you deserve better.