The invitation is for the 9:00am service, Kiddush Luncheon and the dance later that evening. I wouldn't mind attending the service/luncheon but I don't want to take seats away from family members at the service nor do I want to add to the expense of the luncheon since my daughter has only know the boy for a couple months.
Do you think the family is actually only expecting her to respond and attend the evening dance? I don't know if it's "tacky" to only attend the dance and not the rest of the day.
Please let me know what you think!
2007-10-04 16:26:09 · 8 answers · asked by elong 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There will be plenty of seats at the service, so don't worry about that. Synagogues are built to have 10X the number of people who attend a regular Saturday service. There will be lots of other kids and families at the luncheon, and that's not the most expensive part. The family wouldn't send the invite for all of it if they only expected you at the party. If you just go to the evening party, you won't appreciate what the kid went through to get to that place, and you won't be able to talk to other people who saw the whole thing. If you haven't been before, you should go once to see what it all involves. Oh, and the family goes to even more than all of this, as they probably go to the Friday night service as well!
One more thing: b'nei mitzvah means there are more than one kid involved, so it sounds like a joint service with a lot of people attending. Otherwise, a bar mitzvah is for a boy, and a bat mitzvah is for a girl.
2007-10-04 17:53:08 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter received the invitation, then she should attend the events that she's interested in. My son was invited to his friend's Bar Mitzvah (also 3 events). I did not know the family personally (it was a friend from school), so I didn't feel completely comfortable sending him into a religious ceremony that he was unfamiliar with (we are not Jewish), but the RSVP allowed for him to select the events that he would be attending. He wasn't interested in the service or the luncheon, but he did want to attend the dance in the evening, so that was ok with me. He had a great time!
2007-10-04 17:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by Kibi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was invited, there should be a seat for her. If she wants to attend the service, she is certainly invited to do so. Personally, I think it would be a very educational experience for your daughter.
I'm not sure what you mean by the "expense" of the luncheon.
You could always call the mother of the boy and explain that you're not familiar with these types of ceremonies and you wanted to confirm that it wouldn't be inconvenient for them. But I'm sure she is invited to the whole thing.
2007-10-05 05:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she was invited to the entire event she should attend the entire event. If the family didn't want her to attend they would not have invited her. I hope she has a great time and supports her friend on this special day!
2007-10-04 17:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless, if she invited you or not...you are going to be the greater useful person and invite them besides. in the event that they don't prefer to bypass, they are able to decline. when you invite them and that they settle for they are going to probable sense disillusioned that they did not ask you and could say sorry. do not anticipate the worst because of the fact they did not invite you. it could be multiple motives not linked with you. And as a former Catholic, that's secure to assert it has not something to do with you. that's a important significant experience linked with family members. "because of the fact Catholics have faith that the social gathering of the Eucharist is a demonstration of the fact of the oneness of religion, existence, and worship, individuals of those church homes with whom Catholics are actually not yet totally united are frequently not admitted to Communion. Eucharistic sharing in suitable circumstances with the help of alternative Christians demands permission in accordance to the directives of the diocesan bishop and the provisions of canon regulation. " each boy and each woman belonging to a Catholic family members knows of all approximately this custom. First Holy Communion is a great family members social gathering. On that day, including the single which is making his or her First Holy Communion, the mothers and fathers, brothers, sisters, family members individuals, godparents, and on occasion additionally the instructors and instructors, frequently obtain the Eucharist.
2016-10-21 02:22:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unless the invite specifically said it was for the dance only, she is invited to the sevice as well. it's her choice if she wants to attend. kind of like being invited to a wedding. lots of people back out of the service but go to the party.
2007-10-04 16:54:40 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sure they planned accordingly for the number of invited people to attend all of the events. If she got an invitation to all of the events, she should attend all of them.
2007-10-04 16:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
go for the whole day it not a brisk or anything.
2007-10-04 16:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by midnitepoets 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋