do they care about their daughters height?
I am 5'3", 21 yrs old, my mom is 4'11", my dad is 6'0"
why does she always keep hoping that i will grow just a little bit more when i am the age i am. its like she has a problem with my height. how can i get her to quit worrying about it?
i also have a little bro who is 5'10"
2007-10-04 15:47:36 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Mothers, in content of this question, doesn't really care about their sons height, rather then empowered by the thought height carries "social acceptance" to validate their success in their lives. It also measures the mothers to their fathers that can produce and give birth to a young, tall, man. It also secures the mother that their son will need them for along time.
2007-10-04 15:55:51 · answer #1 · answered by candlemia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of a son, and I don't care how tall or short he is. I am barely 5 feet tall (according to the Marine Corps, I am 4 feet 11 3/4 inches). I don't know any women that care about their son's height. The fact is, the growth spurt you get around 20-23 is usually in the shoulder span, and/or girth. I've had to tailor lots and lots of uniforms that once fit on 18 year old boys that don't fit them when they're 20-23 but it has never been the length of the trouser, only the waistline and chestline. The next time she mentions it, jokingly ask her when puberty will end. I keep asking my folks that because at 37, I still have pimples,....what's the deal with that???
2007-10-04 23:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by baxter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, in my case it's because my son is in the 5th percentile for height and weight and his pediatrician keeps making all these charts about his growth and tracking every ounce he gains (he's 19 months old).
It's a little weird because his father is over 6 feet andd his 5-year-old sister is quite tall. But my husband's father was actually shorter than me (5'6") so I guess he just takes after his granddad. As long as it's his height and not his personality, I'll get over it.
2007-10-06 22:57:20 · answer #3 · answered by sdc_99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do see this in mothers I know. The first answerer made a good point in regards to in our society, taller men statistically are more successful in their careers hence financial success. And many women prefer to date taller guys, or at least guys taller than themselves. Now Mom just wants you to be happy and successful in whatever it is you do in life. She's likely feeling a little guilty with sending you all her short genes and she's hoping a bit of tall Dad is in their somewhere still to kick in.
How to get her to quit worrying? Be confident in who you are, be great at what you do and she'll see that being a short man isn't stopping you from doing anything so she can stop worrying about you.
2007-10-04 23:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by momma bear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by letting her know that you are comfortable with your height you already are. i have 2 sons both teenagers and i have always felt that they will be the height that they were born to be. my 18 year old son is 6'3" and my 15 year old is 5'8" my husband is 5'11". and our daughter is 14 and is 5'5" like me. i believe a persons height is hereditary and you can take after another family member instead of just your parents. best wishes.
2007-10-04 23:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by Gladys C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, mothers usually want their sons to be healthy and strong. Of course, a 5' guy could be stronger than a 6' guy. Tell her you're probably done growing, that your height doesn't bother you, so it shouldn't bother her. After all, would she want someone constantly fussing about her height...or worse, her weight?
2007-10-04 23:03:19 · answer #6 · answered by SoBox 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋