Well my parents are total freaks .im 15 and they wont let me do anything.they dont let me go out,or hang out with boys(barely my friends).So basically they dont want me to grow up.I mean seriously,i cant even go by my neighbors without haveing to call to check in and have to be home before dark.did i mention they are 3 houses down?ugh i hate it! and whenever i just so happen to MENTION a guys name my parents get all weird and start asking questions.and its like i cant even say a guys name without being accused of having him be more then a friend.And like lets take homecoming for example,it was last week and my mom almost didnt let me go to that! cause she says im not old enough to stay out that late.and then afterwards all my friends were going out to eat,and heres a shocker...i couldnt go! my mom said" no you cant go,its not that i dont trust you...im just being a mom!who knows you could be in the wrong place at the wrong time!and what if you get into a car with someone you dont know?
2007-10-04 15:47:28 · 6 answers · asked by ginger16243 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its just like omg mom! Let me go out and have a good time!im not stupid!I cant do anything without being asked a billion questions. I HATE IT! And my boyfriend broke up with me over this.cause my parents would never let me go see him! And all they did was ***** to me about how im not old enough for boys yet.my parents also don’t let me look the way I want either.I try to rebel and do what I want but it just makes them so mad.Like no piercing for me,not even the ears,and I once dyed my hair and I get so many nice compliments on it…but no my parents hate it so I have to dye it back :[ whenever I try to talk to them about this my mom like starts crying and making up excuses like “oh why are you always acting like this toward me and all disrespectful”ugh I cant take it anymore…I just want to actually live my life and enjoy being a kid while it lasts!
2007-10-04 15:47:53 · update #1
We all read too many stories, remember what we were like at that age or just care for our kids too much. The story you are telling has been going on since time began. You always have friends whose parents are more trusting, we are ready to move on before our parents want to let go. With time moving so rapidly that were sure to have wrinkles before our first date.
The solutions is also always the same. It is your family, not your best friends or boyfriends. You must be mature and trusted enough by your parents for them to allow you more freedom. Any mistakes you make will set you back, so always do what you know they will approve of, not what you can get away with. As you are working for that first real date, make it a double date with someone your parents thinks is more mature than you. It is especially helpful if your parents know the other girls parents and the other girls parents have already approved. It also helps if that first date is to a chaperoned event.
2007-10-04 16:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by paul 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebeling isn't the answer, like the other answers said, you need to gain their trust!! It does sound like your parents are a little over protective, but you should almost feel flatered... they love you sooo much and they don't want you to be hurt! I am sure they worry about how much you push them away as much as you worry about how protective they are!
Heres what i think you should do... for a month or so be really respectful and obedient they shall soon catch on! (yeah, its a long time but think of the freedom you will get after!) (go complete oppisite of rebeL!) Once they see you are trust worthy and notice this change and then you should sit your mom, or parents down and talk to them. tell them how you feel, but do it respectfully! start by asking for little things like staying out for 30 minutes longer, and promising you will call and check in and stuff! sooner then later you will be a free trustworthy person!!
But... if you really are going to go do drugs, have sex and stay out all night... there's not much for your parents to trust, and truely hope thats not what you want!!
I hope i helped! you aren't alone though, your parents really do love you and this is way they act this way! they need to be able to trust you to see you are "old enough!"
Best of Luck!
2007-10-04 16:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Seriously though... 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents actually care about you. They probably made a lot of mistakes when they were your age, and they don't want to see you repeating them. Besides, you're young. Most of these boys you're interested in, you'll never see again once you leav for college. High school relationships have a 99% termination guarantee upon entrance to college. Just listen to your parents, and have a good time in college.
2007-10-04 18:26:33 · answer #3 · answered by CowJudgesYou 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want to live to stay healthy and alive to enjoy your teen years, please obey your parents and do as they ask of you. We live in a very dangerous world and your parents see things that worry them...things that you are not aware of or things that you think you are mature enough to handle. They may be strict but if more parents were like yours, our kids wouldn't be doing drugs, having sex and babies they can't take care of. They wouldn't be abducted, tortured, raped and murdered. I'm all for your parents!! Good for them!
2007-10-04 15:54:52 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your parents are just trying to do what is best for you. But I see where you are coming from too. Maybe there is another adult who can talk to them for you? I understand that your parents need to set boundaries, but you only experience your teenage years once.
2007-10-04 16:11:35 · answer #5 · answered by Air Guitar Goddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey..
I can RELATE!
Im actually in the same situation!
My parents are probablly TEN TIMES more PROTECTED!
They don't even want me to have a BOYFRIEND untill i MOVE OUT!
I honestly just think you should somehow get on their GOOD side first..
Like...
Get them to TRUST you!
Just talk to them about how you feel about getting treated this way or something like that.
Hope i helped..
Good Luch!
2007-10-04 15:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by AznBabii15 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋