...just me venting about neighbor and her rudeness...?

Question

Last year in second grade my son became friends with Tyler. Tyler's mom and I were waiting for our children and the subject came up of renting. I mentioned that it might be better for her now in her position in life to think about buying a house....
Well... as it turns out Tyler and his familiy move in right next to us. ... and then ... get a huge dog who they say is still a puppy.
Well the "puppy" loves to knock my two children ages seven and nine right to the ground. Also... Tyler's mom want the puppy to be able to run free as I suppose she thinks dogs are meant to do.
I asked her to keep the dog out of my yard because I told her that we were afraid of it and that I didn't want the kids to be stepping in dog doo when then were playing.
Since then she has not allowed her children to play with mine. We invited Tyler and his younger brother to a birthday party Sunday ... with no response from them.
Is this fair? I am so angry with her for bringing this to the kids' level.

these are all helpful insights... i don't understand why there are so many thumbs down. ???? !!

Answer 1

I totally empathize with you when it comes to "crazy neighbor behavior", but maybe your problem doesn't have to be as complicated as mine has in the past. It sounds to me that your problem is with the dog coming onto your property and making a mess in your yard and jumping on your kids. If this is an annoyance that you can no longer bear then for the sake of your sanity and the safety of your children you should put up a fence so the animal doesn't get in your yard. If that isn't viable, economically or otherwise, then confronting your neighbor about the issue was the next best thing. The only problem with that is sometimes the people you speak to about the issues you might have with them often take it the wrong way and thats when the "crazy neighbor behavior" begins. But you can look at it two ways: 1. The dog is no longer taking dumps in your yard or knocking down your kids. 2. You no longer talk to an inconsiderate neighbor that allowed her dog to enter your property, dump in your yard and jump all over your kids. Frankly, I think the first of the two sound better to me, and your children will always have other kids in the neighborhood to play with.

Answer 2

Well if she lives next door, and your yard isnt connected, then her dog should not be allowed in your yard without your permission.

1, get a fence if you can (I know you shouldnt HAVE TO, but I would advise it, if your that worried)

2, She realy needs to be a responsible pet owner and train her dog, and no it shouldnt be able to roam free. Thats not only dangerous to others, but also to the dog. He could get hit.. ir what if he wanders away.. a dog officer could pick him up and then she would have a lot of explaining to do asto why her dog was roaming around without a leash.

Maybe you should try to speak to her again. Just tell her its not that you dont want the dog around and that you realy like the dog, but your just afraid he will hurt the kids because he is very big. Suggest some training programs, but do it in a non offensive way.

Answer 3

It sounds like you live in town so if she continues to let the dog run loose there are several options... if you give it enough time a car will find it and end your problems, the dog catcher will remove it, or you can call the police and end it sooner. If the dog was harassing my kids and fouling my proprety I would tell her that if she didn't get him under control I would report her to the police. I don't know of any areas that don't have laws about keeping pets on a leash and/or in a yard. You didn't say if she bought the house or was renting - if she's renting you can also complain to the rental company. As for bringing it down to the kids level there isn't much that you can do about it. Tell your kids that it's a disagreement between adults and that it's not their fault. As long as you remain mature about the issue, it shouldn't bother them for long.

Answer 4

You had every right to ask her to restrain her dog in her yard - as a matter of fact, there are leash laws requiring that she not let her dog run free like that.

Besides the damage the dog can do and the nuisance his poop is to others, the dog can get run over, hurt by another dog, stolen, lost - she is not being a responsible dog owner and I feel very sorry for the poor pooch.

I don't think you or your children have lost anything valuable by not being friends with this family - move on, ignore them, find better people to associate with.

Answer 5

Irresponsible pet owners are just like bad parents, they feel justified for what they are doing. Let her be an idiot, my neighbor is acting the same way, I asked her to control her dog, she`s not letting my kids play with hers now. Her loss not mine!!! I`m not willing to be walked all over, I`m not willing to have her dog poop, eat my bbq, destroy my flower beds, and kill my pomeranian, because my kids want a friendship with her kids. SORRY not going to happen!!The only good neighbors are no neighbors, ( or if they stay in their house and mind their own business).

Answer 6

you have every right to be angry with this woman.....what she is doing is not only rude and inconsiderate but must likely against the law. most states have a lease law not only for the safety of the dog but any people that it may come in contact with. you could call animal control and have them pay her a visit and explain this to her since obviously she does not understand the responsibility of owning a pet. it will most likely cause "tension" between you two but you have to do what you know is right for your children. if this is how she chooses to care for a pet there is probably not much to say for her parenting skills as well ,and your children would be best off to stay away from them.... remember,,it is your YARD ....hope it turns out okay for you!!!!!.....

Answer 7

When I was nine, I had to walk a half mile away from home past this stinky old house filled with cats and dogs that had leukemia. Two of those dogs were quite big and very scary. There was no fence. My walk was in a roundabout way that was out of my mom's sight. Every morning I had school till that woman moved away I dreaded that walk. Somehow I still survived.

Answer 8

you want to know why there are so many thumbs down?simply because people are ignorant and want things seen THEIR WAY.you cant express yourself on here anymore without getting bombarded with thumbs down.i always give thumbs up for a well-explained answer.i rarely give thumbs down unless the person is being a fool.or gives a retarded answer. by the way your neighbor has to restrain her dogs.she cant just let them on your property without your permission as the other answer said.hope i helped crissy!

Answer 9

Is what fair?? Her not letting the kids come to the party? Or her getting a big dog that you are afraid of?
If the dog runs free, is leaving their property and is not on a leash, under proper care and control, call animal control. If she is unable to train and properly care for the dog, perhaps she doesn't deserve to own a dog.

If the dog runs out front of you while you are driving up the street and you run over him.. she is going to be mad at you... If the dog bites your kid and she is forced to get rid of the dog, she is going to be mad at you.. Best animal control takes the dog and takes away all these things that are likely to happen, if she isn't properly caring for the dog.

Answer 10

Some people get offended by things like that. I do not believe you were wrong when you requested the dog stays out of your yard. If she does not want the kids to be friends anymore, it is her loss.