Stay for family or friends, or go for better job/life for parents?

Question

My mom has asked me if i would consider moving to LA with her because she has been doing nails for ten years and she says if she goes on any longer she could get ill with all the chemicals she takes in everyday.My grandparents live up there and they can start a business up for her. A big part of me wants to stay because this is where i grew up and i think im dependent from the people around me and im very close to family, i also think i could actually live a new life there, but what if it doesnt turn out the way i expected, im still young, im 15, so this is a very hard decision for me. I could have the choice of staying her with one of the family members but be seperated from my siblings, who are still young so it doesnt affect them,i dont want to be seperated from them either. But after highschool arent we gonna be seperated aneway to go to college? I justdontwanttoendawreck. I just need something to hear that has meaning, because i just dont know what to do and its killing me..thx

i also feel like im not ready to continue, i still feel like a child, i feel like i wanna stay like this forever, and im scared of going on my own, i dont think im ready, when will i ever be ready?, i hate myself for being like this

i wanna stay having my parents watching over me, taking me places, not worrying, staying with my friends, like a kid..but i know i have to grow up one day, but how, its hard

Answer 1

Get as many of the questions solved without making the final decision first. Where do you plan to go to college now, where would you go to college if you went with your mom. There are many colleges in LA, you might be able to stay home and go to college. Is the place you now plan to go to college near the family and friends or will you be leaving them anyway.

You are worried about establishing a new life in LA, are you going to go away to college anyway, so you will just start earlier. With younger siblings, isn't your mother going to need your help. Wasn't she there for you. Don't you want to be there for her. Your grandparents are going to be a big help to her, but she is probably closer to you.

Also look at what I call fallback. When I need to make a big decision I look at what I would do if it was the wrong decision. If you move with her, can you go back. If you don't can you join her latter. Also If you decide not to go and she doesn't go are you still going to be a happy family.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Definitely go with your mom. My cousin is doing that to his mom right now and it causing so much misery.

Answer 3

life