I'm not very attractive and kinda shy, I think it would be impolite for me to ask a girl out, so what do I do?

Question

I really think it would just be impolite for me to ask a girl out. I'm not that attractive and I dont think anyone would go out with me. I really would like to have a girlfriend, but I just dont think its for me, I dont have the looks, I'm not the smartest or the funniest, I'm just average. I can't see why anyone would go with me.

So what do I do? I feel really embarrassed/awkward to ask a girl out. Do they expect it? Are they mean about it? I dont want to make a mistake. I'm afraid she'll say no. In fact, I know its true that she will.

Help?

Answer 1

hey, u shouldn't b thinking like dat. appearance doesn't matter so who cares if ur not attractive. i think im really ugly but guyz like me anyway. it's wats on da inside dat counts. u may think ur not da funniest or da smartest but 2 sum1, u r. saying all dis crap isn't gonna help u. ur just letting ur self esteem go down da drain. i am poitive u will get a grlfwend; there's sum1 out there 4 every1. if u like dis grl, just take a chance and ask her out. it doesn't matter wat da answer is, wat matters is dat u had da courage 2 ask sum1. even if she says no, its not da end of da world. judging from wat i kno bout guyz, im sure ur very sweet and most grlz like dat. so take a chance and don't let it bring u down. mayb she likes u 2 but u'll never kno til u ask. good luck and remember it's not da end of da world.

<3 joe boi

Answer 2

sclark there will obviously be females that refuse your advances. However, there will be just as many girls that would like to go out with you. Plain and/or average people are the norm, that is why they are called average. So what if you aren't the funniest, smartest or best looking. You do sound very self aware and this is a good thing. You might need to believe in yourself more but other than that you indeed sound like 95% of the population, and majority of them are not alone or lonely so why should you be. Believe in yourself and good luck in asking the girls out, you might be pleasantly surprised at how popular you actually are.

Answer 3

You need some therapy to gain self-esteem. Women aren't all that into looks, anyway. It's all about confidence and personality.

If you "know she'll say no" she probably will. So quit thinking that right now. Just be nice and friendly and if you like a girl, get to know her a bit. Act interested in her. Don't bombard her with questions, but be interested in what she has to say. If you seem to get on well together, ask her if she'd like to go out sometime. More than likely, she'll say yes.

Answer 4

okay your first problem is self confidence.. im sure everyone tells you this but youre not average.. no matter what you think every person is an individual.. including yourself.. now idk if you have your eyes on a particular girl.. but before you even think about asking anyone out.. you need to reevaluate yourself and stop thinking about awkwardness.. if you think something is going to be awkward... it will be. I have pretty high self confidence and i usually get the guy that im into.. but ive definity been rejected.. EVERYONE does.. no matter who it is.. so even if u did get rejected once.. thats no reason to not be confident. stop worrying so much and just go for it.. you have a lot more to offer than you think.

i cannot stress to you enough how important it is for you to stop calling yourself average.. girls cannot stand insecurities. COME ON youve seen movies! lol even tho life isnt a movie.. you need to take risks because you only live once hun. You will have a girlfriend.. things come in time.. but you definitly need an attitude adjustment.

Answer 5

I love a little muscle, but not body-builder style. I love skinny-toned boys and the thicker-set toned ones. Sounds you've something going for you honey. I'd love a pic ^^. Just kidding :P Being a nerd is a major turn on for a lot of girls, so you've got it made if you're careful not to get too obsessed with looks.

Answer 6

k dude but shut up i want you to look yourself in teh mirror when your dont reading this and think there is NO one person is this messed world of ours that is EXACTLY like you...
and there is NO SUCH THING AS AVERAGE ok sorry if i sound mean but you need to find the special things that you do and if you dont feel special join a club go help somone go save the enviorment theree is no use moping around the house saying your not good enough...and the whole girl thing if you want a girl you need to find one first and get to know her get comfotabe around her and if it feels awkward go find somone else because a girlfriend is a girl who is always there who is your best friend who will always love you and she is the one who thinks you EXTRODINARY!! and i think it will NEVER be impolite to ask a girl out...i think alot of girls want a guy to ask them out but they think guys are too shy so they dont bother.
sorry if i sounded mean :)
hope this helps!

Answer 7

yeah keep thinking that way and u'll never be able to do it!!!

i'll tell u a girls secret, if u keep in mind "look at me i am hot!"
we (girls) get these signals some how and think "something about this guy is really hot, but i don't know what that is"
believe me it's proven psychology!
ask the girl out in a very casual way, so even if she says no it wont be embaressing to u or anything, something like "u wanna grab a bite/drink sometime?" if she says no then fine and if she says yeah, then fix a day and time!

Answer 8

Instead of trying to jump in with both feet, maybe you could just concentrate on developing friendships with girls. Find out what kind of interests they have - just talk to them....about their family, what movies and songs they like, if they like to read or watch sports or enjoy the arts. Then when you find someone who is really interesting to talk to, it will come more naturally to say, "Hey - do you want to go see a movie, or grab a burger" or something like that. Trust me - it's not about looks, or how funny or being outgoing. It's about being the real you - what ever that is. Good luck!

Answer 9

We'll it looks like you've already lost then. It's not our job to make sure you get girls-- thats your decision. And it's simply that, a decision. I don't really feel right in helping someone who has already given up, but this one will be free.

First thing you need to do is stop talking like a puss. You need to develop yourself, begining with your initial confidence. Be confident in your ability to eventually get girls. Find ways to supplement that confidence--- be funny, be well off socially, have great charisma, dress well, be good at things OUTside of girls, yet let girls be able to see these things you excell at.

Don't ask a girl out right now, because all you'd be doing is hoping. Get your **** right first, get your confidence, and instead of "asking a girl out"---- you need to feel that you are asking a girl to join you. You're inviting her, not asking to join her. Make it an offer she cant refuse because of all the things she'll miss out on-- that goes back again to confidence in yourself.

Answer 10

dude go ahead and ask away the looks thing do not apply to all people and plenty of attractive women are with some of the ugliest of the ugly just look around you, look at all the bikers that have knockout ladies on the back of their bikes and the biggest pot bellies you ever saw as an example so go ahead and ask them out the worst they can say is not and you may be surprised and they say yes of course not all will say yes but the main thing is not to become dejected if they say no just go on to the next one

Answer 11

Man dont be like that! Of course you deserve someone. Why cant you have a girlfreind? No reason thats what. Just get to know some girls and whichever one you like best just ask her to a movie or something. Be nice to girls. Good starting lines are like "Wow your hair looks really nice like that!", And " Omg your eyes are really pretty." My favorite is " You smell better than anything ive ever smelt before." If some girls are like stuck up and snotty, dont even bother. Its happened to me bro and its not big deal. I got over it. Just be confident no reason to be shy you only live once make it good!