I find when I'm at college that girls look at me all the time but, I never approach them. I've been told by some female friends of mine that I'm very attractive but, I intimidated them when they first met me. Once I enter a conversation with a female I have no problems carrying it on. My main problem is just walking up to women I do not know and starting a conversation after they give me the eye.
2007-10-04 13:40:36 · 9 answers · asked by jonroboue 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just ask a random question that you don't care what the answer is like, do you know where such and such building is? and try and change the subject, or, haven't i seen you around before? etc.
2007-10-04 13:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by Pieter K 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Taking a girl out on a date already says a lot. But this whole business is not just about seducing someone. You must gain the confidence and trust of the person sitting at the other end of the table. More than that, you must make her feel good in your presence and even want more. How to do this? Simple! When you're not flirting with her just let her take control for a while.
Always keep in mind that women's favorite subject is themselves. This little "bug" in their software gives men a big advantage in a conversation and that is curiosity. Yet, only few use it because of the misconceptions surrounding curiosity in general. Curiosity may have killed the cat, but when a conversation between a man and a woman is concerned, I don't think it ever hurt anyone. What I'm trying to say is that if she says something that makes you curious... just ask her! This will tell her that you are interested in her person. Nevertheless, watch out for those not so discreet questions that could turn you into a cat and get you killed.
Another thing most men forget is that women, even the prettiest, disregard themselves. If you discovered something about her that you really like make sure she can feel your admiration. This rule applies to anything from the color of her eyes to the way she back-parked her car for example. Still, try to use original ways to make compliments and remember that you'll receive the most "points" for cherishing her intelligence.
Always listen to her when she talks! Sounds too obvious? Maybe, but the key thing is that it counts less if you've been really listening to her as long as she thinks you weren't. Therefore you can use several tricks like saying confirmation phrases ("I see", "yes" etc.) showing that you're following her. Just don’t do it so much that she mistakes you for her shrink. Re-telling what she just said is another useful skill as long as you don't abuse it. You simply rephrase what she said and she'll know you got the point. Nevertheless it can be very annoying if you overuse it.
And, as I mentioned earlier, when she makes you curious about something just ask her! This proves you were listening in the first place. The same happens when you make a compliment based on something she just said.
But curiosity can also be used whenever you run out of topics in a conversation. Every woman is curious by nature so all you have to do is to stir her curiosity and forget all about you running out of interesting subjects or her getting bored.
2007-10-04 13:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off you didn't state a question college boy. Secondly, just try to find some common ground that you can start a conversation. That would obviously vary depending on what situation you are in. On campus will be a bit different then if you were in a bar. Either way try not to come on to strong or look like you are desperate just be yourself. or you could be like my friend and use some of the worst pick up Iines i have ever heard to try and pick up a girl. they are good for a laugh but won't get you very far. (usualy the girls don't laugh at these if they do they usually are not keepers).
2007-10-04 14:04:18 · answer #3 · answered by Shag M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop bein a little baby a jus walk up to them and say hi. if they ignore you your loss, or you can just wait for them to make the first move
2007-10-04 13:49:31 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say Sm like hey watsup Orr how was class or u no
2007-10-04 13:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by house_md 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most importantly be yourself!!!! Your personality will atrract females to you
2007-10-04 13:46:33 · answer #6 · answered by Mickey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go up to the girl and start speaking to her and be casual it okay to feel butterflies in the stomach just go and do it let your balls be the man in that
2007-10-04 13:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
let them come to you
2007-10-04 13:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by darkpayaso 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How is he a perv?!?!?!
2007-10-04 13:43:28 · answer #9 · answered by Stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋