2007-10-04 13:06:43 · 14 answers · asked by Lindsey G 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Relationships take time and committment not just the desire. You must also have enough in common and enough differences so you can grow and learn from each other. I would not recommend a bar at 2a.m. Try socila organizations like fundraisers, churches, workplace, school, festivals, etc. Make strong eye contact if you're interested. Hopefully the guy will approach you with something witty to say.
2007-10-04 13:10:46 · answer #1 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you too weak to withhold 'what the guy wants' from him? Because, if you are, don't look anyplace real for anything more. That is what 'marriage' and 'courting' are for: to prove that the guy's into you for more than "just" the nights.
A genuine relationship is a SERIES of "one night stands" ... you and he both know what independent individuals you both are, but you understand each other's inner chained-animals that need to be freed every once in a while.
Don't get me wrong; you can give me/whoever as many 'nights' as you want, but--as far as 'being into it for the genuine'--that's something between you and whoever and y`all's God.
Just remember, you are the divine goal! Whether you give him the lovin`, whether he gives you the lovin`, you're stuck with you. And if he's not stuck with you, you don't need to stick with him.
I think of Evan Almighty: You don't even want to pay attention to 'what a guy says to you,' just how well he goes about his business ... building his ARK.
2007-10-05 17:17:33 · answer #2 · answered by Uncle MythMan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will find one he is probably closer than you think. Guys think being a virgin is not cool so they just want to pop the next girl that is you and if she happens to be you he doesnt care because he already has his mind set on one thing. Unless you are strong minded enough to get his head out of the gutter. All of what the guy thinks of you has to do with the way you present yourself.
2007-10-04 20:13:22 · answer #3 · answered by cpailler 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right here :p.
Joking aside, just go to libraries and join interest groups of things you like to do. The places to avoid, as I'm sure you know, are bars, clubs and basically any place where alcohol is involved.
2007-10-04 20:09:57 · answer #4 · answered by Kazama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That question is really tough... now a day it is really difficult to find a guy like that. I guess you'll have to glance somewhere that you have not glanced before... maybe the guy that is right for you is just behind you.. you'll never know. Good Luck!
2007-10-04 20:11:50 · answer #5 · answered by prettyinpink 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i have no idea --- as some who was looking (we have found each other) pubs/clubs/bars are not appealing --- i found an adult chat site was the most fun and there were a lot of ladies looking --- you just have to sort out the dross (just like face to face) --- i suppose the only real drawback is that sometimes they are a long way from you ----- best wishes
2007-10-04 20:14:06 · answer #6 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is not easy to find such men nowadays ..
it is the current civilization and current culture in most of the countries ..
I would like to call it ( the sandwich civilization ) ..
fast meals in every thing ..eating and learning and teaching ...etc.
and the same in ones personal life - as in love and relationships ..
2007-10-04 20:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by Babel O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its hard to weed out the good guys no matter where you go. maybe you should stop looking and let a good guy come to you. it worked for me as soon as i stop looking for love, it found me :) good luck
2007-10-04 20:12:23 · answer #8 · answered by sboyd_hfcc 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
meeting people through your friends usually means they won't be trying to dump you in the morning. unless they are total jersk
2007-10-04 20:10:49 · answer #9 · answered by brk 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good Luck. If you find someone let us know too.
2007-10-04 20:14:36 · answer #10 · answered by Big Red 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋