My father is 82 years old and is in good health for his age . He retired 15 years ago and is pretty lonely. He basically just hangs around the house and has a typical elderly routine (one which I know he dislikes, but doesn't have anyone to get him out of it). Although my mother is still alive and are still married, they have grown apart over the years and don't have a lot in common anymore. I currently live 1000 miles away from them, but will be moving back to within five hours of him very soon. This means I can visit more regularly and do more things with him. But we don't have similar interests either and my father doesn't really have much of a passion for anything in particular.
I guess what I am asking/wanting is to be closer to my father and not simply have my visits be just hanging around the house just doing small talk. Does anyone have any suggestions for things to do in particular or to how grow to closer to an elderly parent in general?
Any thoughts are much appreciated!
2007-10-04 12:57:42 · 3 answers · asked by munhasen5 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Stop thinking of him as an "elderly person" and think of him just as a Person.
Your father has 82 years of experiences under his belt! How ridiculous for you to think that in all that time he has no passions! Maybe his life NOW isn't all that exciting, but I bet if you talk to him and ask him what he used to like to do, ask him to tell you stories of his first love, or first job, or best friends, etc., you'll hit on some things he might have even forgotten about.
Remember, EVERYBODY is interesting. Some are just more challenging to get to know, but you really should try. He's your father! You might be surprised to find that he's a lot like you.
2007-10-04 13:04:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its sounds to me that not really interessted to know him better than you do right now But I am wrong WELL its easy At their ages they often neglect their meals Bring them some healthy meals When a family sits at the table to eat together the conversation is so easy Also ask him lots of questions about his geonalogy It could come handy for you in a near future Bring them for a short trip to the Mall or for a visit to a relative DONT FORGET this They were there for you when you were little NOw its your turn to be there for them
2007-10-04 20:26:04 · answer #2 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do the man thing and get him out on a fishing boat or baseball game....you know ask questions and listen lots old people love to talk
2007-10-04 20:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by just duky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋