have you ever had the cold feeling after getting your heartbroken? it feels really cold, it's like you just want to cry, and you feel sick to your stomach. have you ever had that? it really sucks i wish it would just go away.
2007-10-04 12:30:59 · 14 answers · asked by ♥.blondy4eva 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think everyone expieriences that feeling sometime or another! But the way to get through it (if it's really over) is to stop imagining yourself w/ that person. You seem young and if so you have all the time in the world to date and to fall in love. My friend (15) just recently was dumped by her boyfriend(16) of 6 months who was her first boyfriend. It only happened 4 days ago so she has been crying ever since, but I realized that she is so torn because she built her life around him. That she let him become the center of her world. So now that he's gone, what's left except to pick up the pieces. For her and me (we're christians) God should be the center of the our world. I don't know what you believe but anything is better than building your life around someone else. What we sometimes don't realize is that ppl that we tend to like or fall in love with we put on a pedistal and make them up to be much more than they actually are in our head. Everyone's human so of course if we depend on them they are going to let us down or break our hearts sometime or another. I know that your probably like "well I still have this feeling....." and it's important to know that it will go away with time and that it's ok to feel that way. My advice to you would just be to sperate yourself from whoever broke your heart. You might still want to be friends with this person but trust me I have been through this and have learned that valuable time away puts him out of your mind and keeps you focused on other things. In the future when the time is right if you feel that you can, try to restore your friendship, but just as a warning this is very hard to do and could lead to potetial heartache b/c ex loves can be an awkward situation b/c of what you guys have shared. You also should flirt and start looking at other guys. Now don't mistake what I am saying for dating, just start to notice that there are other fish in the sea and by getting to know ppl as friends and having fun you will forget about whoever and be back to normal in no time. Listen to music that impowers you. Ne thing except for turning to other guys to replace him or wallowing in self pitty! You seem like a smart girl so just brighten up and know that you will meet new ppl and that loving and losing is part of life. Sometimes it can suck majorly but if you just look to the brightside you can and will always find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. I hope that everything goes well for you and that i could be of help. I know how it feels to be in your position so I hope my expierience can be of valuable aid to you. GOD BLESS! : )
P.S.- Remember, it's better to have loved and lost then to have never loved at all!
2007-10-04 18:45:40 · answer #1 · answered by crank dat 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes indeed...it is a cold and lonely feeling...and it does "suck" as you say, and I would remind you, is as much a part of our lives as all other feelings we experience, joy, happiness, sadness, regret, sorrow, etc. The "whole 9 yards" of life emotions we've all tumbled in and out of.
Time. Time and circumspection (look up the word hon, if you don't know what it means...) We humans are not always good at cutting ourselves "slack" with allowing the passage of time the and range of motions to proceed. No, we'd rather have a "quick fix" these days, and the fact is, life and feelings aren't easily remedied like that. We have to live our lives, be open to all the foliables of being human, and that means the emotions that often rule our hearts.
Goodluck dear...it's a "bitc*" I know...but it is, who we are as humans.
Grace
2007-10-04 19:36:05 · answer #2 · answered by bunnyONE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. When my ex dumped me I felt cold and sad. I felt like part of my heart had been ripped out and I cried and cried and cried.
Crying helped me and after I got over being sad I was very scared because I kept thinking I had done something wrong and I thought it was my fault he dumped me.
Than I finally got over him and got a wonderful new boy-friend. The problem is my ex called me and started yelling at me and saying i was a liar and hurt me AGAIN!! It was like someone getting a cut and it almost heals and someone pours lemon juice all over it.
I know how it feels.
2007-10-04 19:38:07 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Jenn♥ 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i know the feeling well, i had a break up not too long ago...and it hurt....i just felt like i wanted to curl up on my bed with my blanket and cry....and not go outside or anything.
when i finally got back to my senses i started talking alot to this girl who i really liked, we were really good friends....and then we started dating (long distance) and well.....i couldnt be happier, i havent thought about my ex in a while, and i dont feel hurt anymore...i love my girlfriend deeply....and i hope nothing gets in the way of my love for her.
^_^
2007-10-04 22:43:40 · answer #4 · answered by The Eternal Warrior? 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I'm having it right now. It also feel that I don't wanna do anything but to be with that guy...I have that feeling almost everyday and it really hurts.
2007-10-04 19:34:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
...... :) yea..... it is cold..very .. its been there for a long time... i still cant get over it i wish i could help it ...and the only thing ppl tell me is to move on but how ...who..? its tough but so what ...times change .
2007-10-04 19:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by livingfortunate 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I have but I can assure you that it will be replaced with something even better. Just be patient.
2007-10-04 19:34:51 · answer #7 · answered by Papooselet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Like your heart's just been torn in half :(
2007-10-04 19:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Navy Wifey Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! I have had that fealing before...it's a tough fealing to deal with.
2007-10-04 19:33:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
twice. i could recall the exact dates and time of night when they happened but nobody cares.
2007-10-04 19:44:02 · answer #10 · answered by Claudia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋