Been married for 6 yrs have 2 boys.After I had our youngest I went on antidepressants which decrease my libido.We havent been intimate in about 3 mos.On Monday I found out he went out with another woman to a nightclub.He had invited me to go but many years ago I used to party and drink a lot and I try to avoid those kinds of environments.I dont want to fall into it again.Once in a while we go out but that day didnt seem right to me.That afternoon before I told him I wasnt going out with him,he was installing cable in a house and met this young lady;they exchanged numbers supposedly because he was going to refer her for a job.When he found out I wasnt going he invited her.He ended up attracted to her.They had a good time,he took her home and kissed her,supposedly no sex.They went out to eat another day and he told her about me and that he just wanted to be friends.Im dying inside.Today he said he made it up to see how I will react.Anyone else think this is bull?Why 3 days later deny it?
2007-10-04 12:17:43 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ella: I trusted him 100%. He told me that he told me what I wanted to hear. My friend took a cell pic of him and the chick coming out of the club holding hands. He says he wants proof, I told him he's the one that has to prove me wrong. He's full of it, I know. For a minute there I almost fell for it, then I was like hell no, you're not going to fool me. I have an appt with my lawyer on the 9th. You only have to cheat on me once (that I know of)
2007-10-04 17:55:50 · update #1
decoMari: LOL I would love to, but I don't want to stoop down to his pathetic level. You know what he'll say "You see, now I know why I cheated on you" He disgusts me. Oh and just about an hour ago his belongings are all over our front lawn. Since I found out he has been avoiding questions and trying to put the blame on me for not "putting out" then he says he's not cheating? Give me a freakin break. Thanks so much. He keeps saying I'm crazy and I'm making things up. What a whackjob..i can sure pick em huh
2007-10-04 18:00:11 · update #2
LAL: Zoloft does affect it and I'm taking that one because I'm breastfeeding my child. I can't and won't change giving my baby formula so my own husband does not cheat on me. He has to suck it up and wait until I'm done, he's the adult. My children are more important.
2007-10-04 18:02:23 · update #3
Arthur: I didn't have room but I have a picture that my friend took with her cell phone and a small clip of him opening the door for her and kissing her. I'm not feeling bad at all for not fulfilling his needs. I'm breastfeeding and taking Zoloft for the post partum depression whilst giving my baby the best nutrition takes presedence to any man. The point is, if you are married, don't cheat, at all, there is never an excuse. You want to have sex? Divorce me and have all the sex you want, but don't cheat on me.
2007-10-04 18:07:11 · update #4
Jadie: As much as I love him and as much as I hurt, I have children and I have dignity. You only have to cheat on me once. I'm sure he had sex with her. There is no way in hell I can forgive something like. I spoke to him again this morning asking him when is he finally going to give me proof, tell me truth (women's intuition, you just know when they're lying). Again, he said I already told you the truth, I made her up. So why the run around? Why be so defensive? He's out. I have an appt with a lawyer on the 9th and I'm filing for divorce due to adultery. I can't really prove it and I only have one witness but doesn't matter. I will not let a man cheat on me and get away with it. Cheat on me once shame on you, cheat on me twice, shame on me.
2007-10-05 08:13:17 · update #5
Ms. Gorgeous: Thank you for those words. I was literally awake all night on the computer looking for anything. I've never been a snoop and now I'm looking at his phone records. When he goees to work he can meet another young lady and go from there. I don't trust him and this is a horrible feeling. He was such a good man. He was trying to blame me because he didn't want to be a 3rd wheel and look stupid. A**HOLE! I didn't go out because I was a recovering alcoholic you stupid *** and my children and my health are more important than a stupid nightclub. I've made my final decision. It's OVER. I will file for divorce immediately. He will leave my house, I'll pay half the rent and the other half he can keep it as child support payments, he's going to pay me alimony because I had to stop working due to his inability to help with our baby's doctors appts, he better fix my old *** mini van and he rollin in a 07 Toyota to hell with you!
Thank you all!
2007-10-05 08:19:51 · update #6
Bull or no bull he's got some kind of hang up if he's trying to upset you 1. by either really going out with this woman or 2. by inventing the notion that he has been out with her. Sounds like he is very insecure and trying to make you NEED him by making you jealous. Of course we would all like to be as carefree as we may have been when we first met but when we have children and responsibilities its not so easy. I would ask him if the kids would be proud of their Daddy who is hurting Mommy either with his lies or his cheating ways. Perhaps he did kiss her and nothing more but even going out in the first place is WRONG! he's playing games, focus on your kids honey they are worth it more than his childishness.
2007-10-04 12:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by no more dreamin 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 18:00:51 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the realproblem here bothering you? Is it the guilt you feel for not fulfilling your duty or what you think your husband is doing because of you. Maybe he is or isnt telling the truth which really doesnt matter at this point in time,because your meds are going to helpyou conjure up all sorts of possibilities and scenarios. So until you have your health under control,dont try toput a whole lot into anything you hear and jsut give him the benefit of the doubt
2007-10-04 12:31:34 · answer #3 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, either way i would be very mad at him. why would he make it up? has he ever done anything like that? have you ever thought that he might be cheating on you? after 6 years together, can you tell if he's lying or not? i think he's lying about making it up personally. it makes no sense. why would he put you through the pain of telling you that he went out with this other woman and kissed her if it wasn't true? I would leave him for awhile and take some time to yourself to figure out what you believe and what you should do. he's being mean any way you look at it. i feel really bad for you and i hope you get everything worked out.
2007-10-04 12:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Ella 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your husband is dead wrong whether he made it up or not to take another woman out anywhere public that is not his wife. Secondly, that says a lot about his character if he told you he did this then claims he made it up people don;t just make things up unless they have really happened or it has really crossed their mind so does he think your boo-boo the fool???!!!! Lastly, his lips should not have touched that hoes lips at all so to me if he kissed her I am pretty sure it didn't end there.....He violated the trust between you two and to say he made it all up is pathetic because even if he did why would he want the thoughts of the scenerio playing in your head over and over if it's a lie...Why even bring it up at all if it's a lie???? Good luck honey....Pray about it because it has already been worked out!
2007-10-04 12:33:35 · answer #5 · answered by Flyyasever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The 1st sign of a spouse who has had sexual intercourse with another person not their spouse is defensive action , he admitted it to you , then said he made it up , then denied it happened , well welcome to the world of the victims of cheaters.
Honey he did have sex with her probably on more then 1 occassion so now you have to decide if your going to make his life a living hell or just toss him out with the trash.
2007-10-04 12:33:14 · answer #6 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He probably didin't make it up or maybe he did to get a rise out of you because you guys haven't done anything for a long while. men have a need for physical contact they are very sexual. if you don't give them any kind of sex or anything they will start to go look somewhere else.
2007-10-04 12:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by anna_f 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He didn't make it up , it happened. The reason He said he made it up because his conscious is bothering him. He feels guilty for the action he took with the other woman.
2007-10-04 12:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by Thunder 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he made this up? he is either extremely hostile or a great liar. Do the same thing to him and see how he likes it. I would get out as soon as I can.
2007-10-04 12:26:59 · answer #9 · answered by Lucci 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're right, you already know the answer to your question-he is trying to (or already has) hook up with this woman.
2007-10-04 12:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by katubabybug 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋