I have been taking care of my wonderful stepson since he was 2 yrs old. He's now 6. (The mom was on drugs at that time and wanted her son to stay with dad) We both knew she was a loser and we never demanded any money from her all these yrs. Since that time she has had a 3 yr old girl and I just have my new son. Last year my husband took the mom to court to establish custody because the mom had got on Welfare a couple of times without our knowledge. Anyway its stablished that they split custody, she get's him in the summer. We did not file for child support because she begged us not to cuz she needed to find a place to live. It's been a year since then! She still lives with her boyfriends parents. She had a job for a hot second and then quit. We told her, it's time to pay at least $100 so we can put him in karate. She couldn't even do that she sends $85. What do we do? I'm fed up! Now that I am not working I feel that she should get a job and pay.
2007-10-04 12:16:36 · 3 answers · asked by Journey 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just to add we are really struggling just to make ends meet. My husband says it's pointless to ask her. He always feels sorry for her. I feel it's time for to step up. HELP !
2007-10-04 12:21:11 · update #1
Sorry for the errors. I was pissed while I was typing.
2007-10-04 12:27:08 · update #2
Oh just to let everyone know I work hard to take care of her son when my husband was out of work. I am currently looking for work now. HELLO our kids have to eat. If this was the other way around the father would have been hunted down to pay more than $100. It's been almost 5 yrs that she hasn't paid sh*t and she just started paying $85 a month ago.
2007-10-04 12:30:35 · update #3
I feel your pain. You're absolutely right; if your husband was out of work the court wouldn't give a darn, slap him with the bill and throw his but in jail! So she "rides"...some justice system, huh?
Honestly though, this is his fight. He should be taking her back to court. Now is pushing him gonna work or is he going to resent you?
I step parented exactly the same and the bottom line is as he gets older he will want less and less time over there because it sounds chaotic! You provide the stable home. You let that boy know he is needed as a big brother to your baby, you love him and include him w/out all the frills money can buy and you will have him when he is older. Step parenting is never easy and less so when dad feels sorry for the ex. I've been there. Don't let this split you and your husband...it's just a matter of time when the boy will realize what a looser she is..
2007-10-04 14:21:12 · answer #1 · answered by atheleticman_fan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is a measly 15 dollars a month really worth all the stress? I think you were lucky to get 85 out of her considering her situation and lifestyle. You think she should get a job and pay up but you aren't working now either?
I have to agree with your husband on this one. He feels sorry for her because he once cared, even might have loved her.
2007-10-04 19:26:16 · answer #2 · answered by kana121569 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Court
2007-10-04 19:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋