My wife is a sweet humble lady but is really lazy and unorganized. I have a tough sales job having to put in up to 60 hours / week (including time on the golf course with potential clients or just with friends.)
Almost every time I come home from work, from golf, or the bar my food is cold and she hasn’t gotten some of her chores done.
She’s a stay at home mom with our 3 kids. She’s got it made. All she has to do is “play house” with the kids while I’m busting my butt trying to bring home the bacon.
What really gets under my skin is the nights that when I get back from the bar. I usually try to get in early no later than 1:00 am. I almost always find that she still hasn’t finished her chores and she’s asleep not even waiting up for me!!!!!
I’ve done everything that I can to get her organized. I even used MicroSoft power point and Excel to make some charts and check off lists for her. To no avail though she is always behind the eight ball.
2007-10-04 12:10:55 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey! no fair! some of you are making me out to be a monster or something. I love my wife and kids dearly. I am doing my part. I am providing for them as well as creating a solid future for the kids.
2007-10-04 12:44:03 · update #1
Elt: Who are you? How do you know about my monkey? What is this?
2007-10-04 17:06:19 · update #2
h&t_oct282007: You are very organized and are able to get stuff done. I wish that my wife had some of your traits. I like the chart / checklist that you made, I've already taken it and changed it around a little bit and have put a copy up down stairs in the kitchen. Thanks
2007-10-05 01:25:58 · update #3
To everyone: Good points on the phone ringing and interruptions. I just changed our phone plan so that she is limited to 20 hours / month of phone use. Good idea! Thanks
2007-10-05 01:28:54 · update #4
being a stay at home mom is no walk in the park. you dont see how these kids act all day expecially when they need a nap and dont wanna take one. we have alot of things to do and still have to chase kids. why the hell are you at the bar at 1am or later when you are married with kids? i would be home sleeping too if i were her. there is no way in hell my husband would be out partying it up at some bar or something while i am at home BUSTING MY *** taking care of the house the chores the kids the yard the bill paying the food. if you want hot food be home when its made for YOUR family. get your prioritys straight you have a family to take care of. if you wanna have a fun night out let your wife have a nice night to herself sometime. take the kids to one of your parents for the night or you wont be married for long!
2007-10-04 12:19:07 · answer #1 · answered by April 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
What is wrong with you? How dare you treat your wife as if she were just some hired help. Yes things around the house should get done during the day, but when was the last time you took care of 3 kids, a house and an ungrateful husband. I wouldn't wait up for you either. If my husband expected me to be like that, I would tell him to kiss my butt and do it himself. Why don't you try to be nice and loving instead of acting like her father. Maybe some appreciation would go a long way.
2007-10-04 12:26:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a stay at home mom with 3 kids and it's not as easy as you make on. If the chores aren't getting done then maybe you should stop going to the bars till 1:00 AM and help out a little. If you are married and have kids then you should be spending more time with them anyway. You ask if you should forgive your wife? I think it should be should she forgive you. Not every wife would tolerate her husband going to bars till 1:00 AM instead of doing his part as a husband and a father.
2007-10-04 12:20:13 · answer #3 · answered by Jt 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
wait a second. .. . what is this?
"She’s got it made. All she has to do is “play house” with the kids while I’m busting my butt trying to bring home the bacon."
you think shes not BUSTING HER BUTT TOO raising your 3 children, and taking care of the home. And who are you to get on her back about HER CHORES?? thats rediculous. Do u understand how tough children can be?? I can't believe you. As if GOLFING is work. . . give me a ******* break. . . you pathetic business men and ur golf. . thinking thats real work. Hey I have an idea, if she cant get it all done, quit playing golf and HELP HER OUT!
2007-10-04 16:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you have to be kidding, this has to be a joke. i am a sahm also of 3 children. this is the most hectic and stressful job ever. your wife should leave your ***. first off, my husband bust his butt at work NOT ON THE GOLF COARSE OR AT THE BAR. this would not fly at my house at all. it seems you are spending all the "me" time you would ever need, relaxing, enjoying yourself, never with your family. my husband would not even dare try this bs. i appreciate his work and that he is busy yet still when he gets home, he feeds the dog, does what he can do to help get kids in bed if he is home early enough. my house is not always clean when he gets home but usually is after the kids get in bed. my husband has complained 1 time and one day i did nothing so when he got home he realized what our house would look like with 3 children in it with nothing done. maybe your wife is tired of your bs and found her something on the side to keep her busy while you are out with friends, i would've along time ago with the crap you are pulling!!! get a life, be a husband and a dad!
2007-10-04 12:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by kchase 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-05 18:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let me get this straight. She exhausts herself everyday with three kids while you are out working and playing and you have a problem with the fact that your food is cold when you decide to come in and that the house is a little messy.First off get a life. And then walk a mile in your wifes shoes...and stop your complaining before she really gives you something to complain about...
2007-10-04 12:18:25 · answer #7 · answered by mamapoulette 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Playing House" IS a full time job!!! Let's see you try and do for a few days. Don't be so selfish! Get a babysitter and taker HER out to the bar or a movie or dinner and then maybe she will feel like doing something for you. Are the kids fed? bathed? Happy? If so then she is doing a fine job in my book!
2007-10-04 15:03:46 · answer #8 · answered by x-ta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you want a wife or a maid? God, take inconsideration all the running around that she has to do with the kids and around the house, while you are at the the bar or golfing.
You jerk!
2007-10-08 11:44:40 · answer #9 · answered by Chulis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're self centered and self absorbed, and she's bored out of her skull.
Instead of being at the bar you two should be sharing some time together.
Changing diapers, cleaning up over and over, doing dishes over and over and so on is not "playing house". It's mind numbingly dull and un rewarding work. You got your golf done and she didn't get the dishes done so she's disorganized?
2007-10-04 12:28:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋