A friend of mine was sexually abused by her father, for several years. Should she stil respect his father? If so, what exactly is the respect that she owns him?
2007-10-04 10:43:21 · 13 answers · asked by larissa 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I suppose there may be some abstract, distant (several hundred miles at a minimum) way in which she could respect him. This would be more plausible if he acknowledged the wrong he has done her and sincerely begged her forgiveness. I would still offer that forgiveness in a letter or at most a phone call, rather than in person. She would be completely justified in saying, "Sorry, Daddy, but there's no way I can trust you. I don't want to be in the same room with you. In fact, I'd rather not be in the same county, the same state, maybe even the same nation as you."
The default option is respect for your parents. I tried to respect my father, too, but never did manage it once I was old enough to know what he had done (in my case, to my sister).
2007-10-04 13:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that I struggle with. My father was an extremely abusive alcoholic. He beat me, broke my bones, tortured and killed animals in front of me, and did other things I can't even talk about here. My parents died when I was in my teens, but it was hard to know what to think about it, in a religious context. Scripture says to respect one's father, but rather obviously, I don't condone many of the things he did. In retrospect, I can say that I love him, but he needed serious help that he had no way of getting. Sometimes I visit his grave and try to understand why things happened they way they did. I had much better luck after getting adopted, and I did respect and take care of my stepfather until his death.
2007-10-04 10:49:42 · answer #2 · answered by solarius 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mainly this passage means that you shouldn't bring disgrace on your family. It also implies that we are responsible for our parents when they are unable to take responsibility for themselves.
Sexual abuse is something that no child should have to endure, and the act is unworthy of our respect. But she still has the moral responsibilities that I listed above.
2007-10-04 10:48:36 · answer #3 · answered by sdb deacon 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 14:59:28 · answer #4 · answered by cantara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you have to respect your parents, but not abusers. Parents do not abuse their children, if they do then those people are not consider parents and should not be respected.
2007-10-04 10:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She owes him the respect for creating her. Even if it was unintentional on his part, he did it.
That's about it.
For many like her, that's what it comes down to. There is simply nothing else there that the parent has given that they CAN be respected for.
And I should say, even that would be more for her, than for him. For her to feel SOMETHING positive about him at least, since he is her father. Since he hasn't provided anything else for her to feel respect for.
2007-10-04 10:47:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
NO WAY! Sorry to hear of your friends abuse. She has no reason to respect that man. Ever!
2007-10-04 11:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by Saturn554 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she can still love her dad, but she must inform the authorities and if she can't get anything done and he is left alone then she is not obligated to see him or help him unless he is starving then she can do what she can but protect herself first and keep her children away from him he has lost any rights or priveleges to see them.. otherwise she has no obligation.
the bible says to honor parents of course the doesn't mean you have invite them to your home or house them if they are criminal. it means you provide for them to the extent you can if they need it and your not obligated to provide luxuries for them, and not obligated to forgive him for the assaults. believe it or not people are not obligated to forgive certain crimes. jesus said to forgive those who trespass against us, but that doesnt mean people who murder you or rape you and forgiveness is for the repentent ones not those who continue their crimes and have not made amends.
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2007-10-04 10:57:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should do whatever the hell she wants to. Whatever happened to "think for yourself?" It is her life. Respect is earned, I don't care who you are.
2007-10-04 10:50:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say NO!
She owes him no respect.
2007-10-04 11:29:15 · answer #10 · answered by batgirl2good 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋