Before u jump to the conclusion that i'm sleeping with them, I'm not, and havent kissed either yet....all I'm doing is going on dates with them at different times to get to know both (without either girl knowing of the other), because I really like both of them. Is this morally wrong?......to me it's like shopping around before u finally buy...in other words i want to make sure of the girl before i jump into a relationship...
2007-10-04 10:38:19 · 52 answers · asked by hegimony1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are playing with fire. Pretty soon you will not have to worry about picking. You will be alone. #
2007-10-04 10:42:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know if it's morally wrong coz I've known Christians who thought it was fine to date up to eight people at the same time. I myself have had up to eight people at the same time. It's not what I prefer though. What it is you are doing is getting to know someone before you do anything more with you heart and time, and that is not bad at all. It's good and healthy to know more than one at a time, but be careful that those people do not be in competition with each other or you'll wish you were asexual!!!!!!!! Oh, and some people will end up wishing you weren't there, like say if the people you date are all in one class and they're screwing around trying to get your attention all the time and not doing what they ought to, the teacher will probably have some words with you....
2007-10-04 10:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by *october girl* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, nothing wrong with it... In my opinion it is especially okay as long as you are honest with them both about not yet being exclusive. You don't have to delve into your current dating situation (who, what you are doing with the other girl, blah blah blah) but honest about not wanting to be exclusive. Realize that if you are playing the field then that gives THEM every right to play the field as well. If start feeling jealous or concerned with either (or both) of these girls keeping their options open as well... then maybe you need to step back and re-evaluate whether or not dating more than one person at a time is right for you.
2007-10-04 10:44:04 · answer #3 · answered by GenesisM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are hiding the fact that you are seeing both of them, then yes you are doing the wrong thing. If you were open and let them know that neither had an exclusive, then that would have been alright. Be prepared to lose BOTH if they find out by accident what you are doing. Fess up, and/or make up your mind. Having two on "hold" isn't being fair to either of them.
2007-10-04 10:42:58 · answer #4 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, i'm not concluding into anything, but I know it's wrong to do that! I think it is morally wrong, and this is coming from someone of no religion! If u think about the ones u love as items u compare than i strongly belive that, well that's messed up! "going out" with someone isn't jumping into a realtionship, it's just a get to know u thing until u announce that u r going out, so if u want to "compare" than one at a time because they're human beings.
2007-10-04 10:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by singer_of_the_sa!nts 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as you are not dating either one of them it's not wrong but if you had asked both of then out to be your girl friend then it is. But if your just taking them out and getting to know one another then it's not. But it will be hard to focus on one girl because you are going to have both on your mind when you are with the other comparing them
2007-10-04 10:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by shy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be upfront, because how are you going to explain liking one over the other and than having to cut off the relationship with the one you don't like as much. It's better that they know, give them the right to decide if they want to continue to date someone who is seeing someone else. It's not wrong to date more than one person at a time as long as you're upfront about it to all parties
2007-10-04 10:42:08 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since the relationships are not sexual, there is no problem with dating more than one woman. BUT...there is a catch....
You have to let them know that you are dating more than one woman.
If they know that you are not exclusive, then you are okay. I have done it. I met my wife this way. As long as they know, they have the choice of whether or not they think what you are doing is "okay". If they are not comfortable with the situation, they have the option to get out before they get hurt.
However, if they each think you are dating them exclusively, then you are a selfish twerp that wll eventually lose them both.
2007-10-04 10:45:49 · answer #8 · answered by Matthew Stewart 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about it! No matter how much we try, we men simply aren't equipped to figure out the ladies. On the other hand, they are equipped to figure us out and figure us out they will. So, before 1 or both figure out that you are "shopping", you'd best quickly decide with whom you'd like to possibly develop a long term relationship. Otherwise, there could be 3 loosers from this game you are playing. You need to come clean quick or you might loose both ladies quick.
My best suggestion for you is to approach the Dad of the girl with whom you truly wish to develop a long term relationship and ask for the man's permission to get to know his daughter better. You will either get a "no" or you may get a response of "why" for the fact that he might know that you are already dating his daughter. If no, do not worry and do not ask why. Ask, instead, if it is okay for you to get to know him and for him to get to know you better. Why? You want to assure him that your intensions for his daughter is absolutely pure. Do not try to butter up the man. Just make this offer. If his answer is still no. Leave them alone and stay away from his daughter. If he likes what you've got. He will let you hang around and give you the chance, when he is around, to get to know his daughter. Then, in time, you will find out more and more of whether or not this is the girl for you.
Finally, if "why", apologize for not doing it right becuase you want to assure him that your intensions for his daughter is absolutely pure. Listen, even the dumbest Dad in the world will like this answer for the simple fact that you are different. If yes, offer that he, his wife or anyone he chooses is welcome to go on "dates" with the 2 of you. Assure him that the 2 of you will never be alone. In fact, assure him that all dates with his daughter will be with a group of friends and he or whomever he choose is always welcome to go with you guys. Be calm about this. Do not butter him up or try to show off. Be a man of your word and follow up. Soon and very soon, the both of you will find out how far you guys can go.
2007-10-04 11:21:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even though you haven't slept with either of them yet....I still think it's disgustinh and completely repulsive. What kind of cold hearted person can have the guts to date two girls who think that you actually love them??? One day or later they're eventually going to find out about each other and once they do, your a** is grass. If I were you, I would either admit it to them or break up with both of them...sure, you may THINK you love them. But there's no way you can possibly be in love with TWO people. If you don't act soon, you're going to end up breaking both of these girls hearts...I hate players.
2007-10-04 10:43:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can do what you want but I would not do it. It is double trouble and eventually you will get burned and won't have either one of them. What if, for example, you really liked one of them and then she found out you were seeing another girl the same time as you were dating her.
Put yourself in her shoes and see how you would feel about it. I say no. Just see one and if that doesn't work out then find another one, but don't see two girls at the same time. Big mistake. I hope I have helped to open your eyes.
2007-10-04 10:43:38 · answer #11 · answered by PsychoSam 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋