Ive asked a couple of questions about rude in-laws.My mother and sister-in-law want to take our children when me and my hubby are gone on our 7 day get away. We've told them NO on about 4 occassions (because of different circumstances). Weve offered to pay for the trip (airfare and lodging) to come see the kids while were gone. My brother and his wife +their 3 kids are coming. My brother's mil might come as well (were paying for their rental car and gas). My mother and grandmother are coming as well. My mil got mad at me especially since my hubby laid it all out there for them. I send them pictures of the kids, and they talk on the phone with our eldest child. Weve NEVER denied her access to our children. Well NOW, she (my mil) is talking about getting a lawyer and seeking court appointed visitation in her home in a different state. Can she legally do this?
2007-10-04 09:59:08 · 5 answers · asked by navywife_2001 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My mil and sil live together. They have uncaged animals that unrinate and deficate on the rugs, and they don't think there is anything wrong with that? Their house is NOT equip to handle a child with mild autism or 2 active toddlers (my twins).. Plus they live out-of-state. And to top it all off they don't have a clue as how to handle a child like my eldest. My mil and sil are both very sound sleepers, and I'm terrified that something will happen while they are in their home.
2007-10-04 10:02:02 · update #1
We (my hubby and me) are very careful about who we leave our children with. The lady that takes them occassionally has a child like my eldest. We like to go out about once a month for a date night. So they have alot of fun. My brother has 3 children like my eldest... So I trust him 100%! Im at my wits end. I am seriously thinking of asking my hubby to cut all ties with his mother, because she and my sil are putting undue stress on me to bend to their will. What do i do?
2007-10-04 10:07:16 · update #2
As a former legal student, I can tell you that if they had an active role in your childrens life that they would be allowed some sort of visitations if not allowed any due to fall out. But to my knowledge they are not allowed to take your child out of state because of so. If all they had was mild contact, like the other person said they will just most likely try to get you guys a mediator or brush it off as we don't have jurisdiction of this case, or another excuse lawyers like to toss out there. Please don't let this make your stomach sick, I KNOW, your a mom. Legally I can sue you for visitations of your child, does it mean I will get it, HECK NO!
your children are special needs, and I would voice my concerns over her dirty house. That alone would warrant concern. Please rest easy, and tell your husband to nip that in the bud!
2007-10-04 10:19:23 · answer #1 · answered by Momof4gr8boiz 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She can waste her money by trying however most ethical lawyers won't take her case because she has about a snowball's chance in Florida of winning. Most states don't recognize grandparents rights unless there are majorly extenuating circumstances. As your husband sounds to be still alive and still active in his kids' lives and in full agreement with you on this issue... Well, you figure the chances that any court would go against that.
2007-10-04 20:39:26 · answer #2 · answered by Critter 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The United States Congress refused to entertain the notion of grandparents rights. All grandparents go through this when they feel left out or want to "get even". Don't worry about it, there's more pressing things to deal with when you have a husband, kids and family, especially one of military service.
2007-10-04 17:09:31 · answer #3 · answered by David 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your MIL can't even properly care for an animal. If she's dumb enough to sue you for rights, make sure to bring that up in court and show pics of her house.
2007-10-04 17:07:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she can try but, since they have not been denied her, she won't get anywhere with it. all she's b*tching about is this visit and it will get her no where. don't worry.
after thinking about it, it sounds as though she's trying to scare you into allowing the kids to go with her. don't fall for it.
2007-10-04 17:55:11 · answer #5 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋