my boyfriend seems has a thing for pregnant girls. he's not attracted to me unless i'm pregnant. we've been together 6 yrs now and have 4 kids, 2 of which were taken away by child services (for bogus reasons). anyway, the little one is only 2 months old and he wants to get me pregnant again. i'm only 25 and don't want anymore kids yet, but he says he'll just go find someone else who likes to look "good" for their man. what should i do?"
2007-10-04 09:47:09 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
there's nothing wrong with trying to look good for your man. why don't you try just getting fat and see if that turns him on? otherwise you could invite some pregnant girls over once in a while for him and maybe even join in - just a thought
(just on a side note, i'm pregnant and single)
2007-10-04 09:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 6⤋
Step back and look at what you are saying. You are a 25 year old with four kids and a boyfriend who will only love you sometimes.
Look at how absolutely ridiculous this is. Children are not to be born into this world because of a crazy fetish of some underly-sensitive man. You are hurting your self and your children. If your husband is some billionare, sure you can afford to pop out six more, but it sounds to me like you don't have the funds or energy to get pregnant again.
Get a job. Make something of yourself. Make something out of your children. Own up to the responsiblity you have taken on by trying to please an imbicile. Leave him or let him leave you and find someone that will take care of you and love you always, pregnant or not.
It's not just in the fairytales, you know.
2007-10-04 09:56:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Because you are asking this question at all, I think you already know that there is something abnormal and unreasonable about what he is asking. Think of it this way: would you want to be with someone that only liked you when you were wearing, say, a pair of green shoes? That's just like this, except this is even more dangerous. He clearly doesn't really love you, and what's worse is he wants to bring more children into the world. Trust me babe, there are enough kids already. Don't be just another sad story about a woman that changed herself for a man. Get help! Get out!
2007-10-04 10:01:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definately do not have another baby with him. There are a lot of health risks with having so many babies at such a young age. You obviously are struggling with the ones you have or they would not have been taken away. Instead of having any more babies, you need to tell him NO and if he leaves, oh well. You are better off without him. Focus on getting your two kids back and being a mother to them. If you keep having babies, you could really hurt yourself or even die (I have heard of someone giving birth again and bleeding to death). It may be extreme to think like that, but you have 4 kids already and that is plenty enough for right now. They need to be taken care of and you being pregnant all the time and not having enough time for them is not fare to your children. Who is more important? You BF or your kids. Get your kids back and tell him NO. Just do not have any more kids, PERIOD!
2007-10-04 10:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by crystal nw 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't have any more kids - period!!! You already have two children who are not with you, don't make the mistake of putting more children in the system. For child services to take your children away, the reasons obviously were not bogus. No responsible parents gets their kids taking away for "bogus" reasons.
Also, if your man runs off with another woman, there is nothing you can do about it. Accept it and move on.
WAKE UP GIRL!!!!!
2007-10-04 09:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Ready to Go Home! 5 · 3⤊ 2⤋
1. I think ye just like Sex
2. if you have had four children, why haven't he MARRIED you yet
3. I thing that him liking pregnant women is just a cover up. It could just be that he wants you pregnant to keep other men from looking at you or just to keep you around and it may give him an opportunity to do some looking himself.
but you make the judgment call on this one.
2007-10-04 10:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by The"G"man 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure you can get plastic surgery to look pregnant all the time. That way, you won't have to worry about taking care of those kids, or child protective services or anything.
If you can't afford it, just sell one of the kids you have now on the black market.
2007-10-04 10:10:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
He threatens to leave you if you don't look the way he wants?! Dump his sorry ***!!! You're not a baby machine. With all due respect, if you already had two children taken away by child services, you don't need to have any more kids. Take the babies you have and leave. You deserve better than some loser who doesn't value the mother of his children.
2007-10-04 09:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by SoBox 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Bonk him on the head and tell him he's going to have take responsibility for the ones he does have, and if he wants any more he can get pregant and see how much fun it is.
You can also refrain from losing weight so can have a permanent Mommy Tummy like mine.
And if I were you, I wouldn't worry too much if he walks out. You can do better than him. Just have a lawyer on hand.
You need someone who loves you unconditionally, and this dope doesn't.
Deke: ROFLMAO!!!!
2007-10-04 10:14:15 · answer #9 · answered by KC 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he's thinking with his body and not his mind. Men want to make as many babies as possible because it means their genetics are being spread and it makes them feel successful. But for him to threaten the mother of his children with cheating is just out of line. He should respect your body, because he couldn't have had all those babies without it! Tell him to shut up and treat you like the beautiful woman that you are!
2007-10-04 09:54:31 · answer #10 · answered by rorybuns 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
simple...instead of getting pregnant gain weight! he def. has a weird fetish. I know a man like that too, he met a girl..was messing around..found out she was married..stayed..she found out she was pregnant with her soon to be ex-husbands baby..stayed..and not only stayed (she also had 2 kids beofre this) but had ANOTHER with her. Leave him while you are still young. And call child services and tell them you got counseling and left your abusive relationship!
2007-10-04 09:51:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋