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i have a very high sex drive...its never enuf i want it all the time but i always feel guilty afterwards and find reasons not to enjoy it when i get going? why is this? y cant i just enjoy it ??

2007-10-04 09:42:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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Because our society hates and is jealous of people like you and has done everything in its power to make you feel bad about your sexuality. It is SCARED of female sexuality because it's powerful and cannot be controlled, so it tries to suppress it.

Most guys actually completely freak out the first time they really TRULY realize on a gut level that women are in fact as horny and promiscuous as men, if not more. They are afraid, scared ****less to be more precise, of their present or future wives or girlfriends leaving them for someone more attractive. "Hillariously", this little "worry" is probably the chief cause of what drove men to oppress women and be obsessed about their virginity all those millenia.

So anyway, our modern world is a weird combination of these old influences and the more recent liberalization of sexual attitudes. This is how we get a ridiculous game as a result. Women pretend to be chaste and to be against "bad boys", dissing them at every public opportunity, while secretly getting their fix from them, "nice guys" pretend to be nice but are instead incredibly angry and resentful as they wait for girls to settle down and "bad boys" just pretend to be everything the woman wants them to be and get laid in doves while the remaining guys sexually starve.

By being open about your sexual desires, you missy are breaking the protocol. I wouldn't be surprised if I see at least a dozen angry replies, mostly from women, about how you should be saving yourself for marriage or whatever or attempts to guilt trip you into extinguishing your libido. I also predict at least one mention of how these guys are "taking advantage" of you. Don't listen to all that cr@p. Just enjoy yourself, it is your birthright! (After taking the necessary precautions of course). You are the only person that can truly decide what is right for you.

PS I started typing before I saw any answers, as far as my predictions are concerned.

2007-10-04 10:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 1

no its natural. it all has to do with hormones and such. some people just have a higher drive than others. Drive also comes and goes with age. Males usually Peak between 16-25, while females usually 26-36. But that dosent mean if you dont fit in those age brackets that there is something wrong with you, thats 1) a wide range and 2) everyones phsyiology is different.

the guilt may be that you would rather be doing it with someone you actually care about maybe??? Or since your a girl, your thinking about the double-standard of men should have sex and women shouldnt, not that i agree with that, but just thoughts.

oo and to the guy that first posted, real mature.

2007-10-04 09:50:21 · answer #2 · answered by skiracer712 4 · 0 0

I now have a very high drive and I enjoy it. I think that you are having problems because of what we gals all were taught as children about sex. We, because we are female, are bad to enjoy this wonderful act. It is a control thing on the part of Christianity and other such religions that to control women gives them power over them. They will tell you that God hates adulterers, prostitutes etc even though in their own private lives they are what they teach against. You have to bring your self out of that taught mind set and make up your own mind on what you believe and then live your beliefs. It is very freeing to be your own person with out the voice of someone else in your mind telling you what to think or feel. There is much more to this than what I have said here. As you get older you will see what I am saying is true. Life has a way of teaching the truth even though others try to mute or hush it. Good Luck and I hope that you find yourself enough to be able to enjoy that which you have every right to enjoy..

2007-10-04 09:53:01 · answer #3 · answered by Praire Crone 7 · 0 1

It's never wrong to be "hyper-active" with high sex drive and its never a sin having insatiable crave and urge for sex. So don't feel guilty about it. Instead, you should enjoy it not only it's a good form of exercise, it's also one of the means of bonding intimacy and communication with your love ones. Best of all, you will never look old when you are 'hyper-active' thus quoted by many counsellors & medical health experts. Guess what will life be when you are attached with someone but frigid in sex?
My girlfriend and I really enjoy making love all the time. We are very pro-active when sex & pleasure is concern. Till date, we still experience sensational love making. In other word, meaning that we've committed ourselves wholeheartedly that each time our expectations & needs are met. It is also because of this, we are very close and loving towards each other.
Perhaps there are undisclose reasons behind that you are guilty of? You should feel guilty when or if you are cheating or have muiltiple sex partners. Otherwise, let your nature take its course and disturb not your hormones to be hormones. Remember, no men in this world would want a woman who is frigid in sex.

2007-10-05 07:21:32 · answer #4 · answered by boonji86 2 · 0 0

It is very normal and healthy to have a high sex drive as long as you can control it. I experience the same thing but I do not have the guilty feeling. Do you feel guilty because of who you are having sex with or because you think it is a dirty act? Sex is very normal and you should not be ashamed of what you are doing as long as you are being safe and using common sense.

2007-10-04 09:48:55 · answer #5 · answered by acey5654 3 · 0 0

Just enjoy it. I have a high sex drive too and want it all the time. My girlfriend wants it , but not as much as I do.

2007-10-04 09:46:15 · answer #6 · answered by Backhoe 7 · 0 0

It's not wrong at all. You're not having sex with a partner you really like. It's only a form of release for you. When you find someone you really like and love, sex will take on a whole new meaning.

2007-10-04 09:47:23 · answer #7 · answered by Buzzy 6 · 0 0

Nothing wrong with that, most men would prefer a woman with a high sex drive.

2007-10-04 09:46:01 · answer #8 · answered by Koozie the chemist 4 · 0 0

Is ok, is normal, is not wrong at all...
This is mean u are normal and just enjoy it while u still can...
As long as u never easy doing sex with so many guys and doing it with safety sex, then is ok...
Just do it...
Enjoy it because we are human...
Good Luck...
Cheers...

2007-10-04 20:28:01 · answer #9 · answered by WindWalker 4 · 0 0

That's a hangup you need to work on within yourself. Your sex drive is your sex drive...it's not something you can just choose to increase or decrease (not easily anyway).

If you like it, you like it. It's fun for a reason! As long as your partner(s) kewl with it, enjoy!

2007-10-04 09:46:25 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1 0

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