I am addicted to pornography, im actually kinda OCD about it?

Question

im sometimes a bit antisocial. i live in a college dorm and it gets lonely and boring here sometimes so i watch porn sometimes 5 to 6 times a day. its starting to make me sick.

whats a good way to wean myself off this filth

i need the internet for homework and other important things.

i know i need to get out more, but i am trying to overcome my social or anti social anxiety

Answer 1

Find someone to watch it with. You will lose interest in the porn.

Answer 2

This is a more common situation than most realize. Most college-aged guys have all the variables lined up against them that can develop this pitfall.
1. Stress of school
2. Hormonal influence (in over-drive)
3. Lack of other activities (something to counter boredom)
This is a resolvable problem that you don't have to be made to feel guilty over. If it is actually an OCD issue it might be a little more complex and can be managed in a different way.

You might want to explore some options with the College/University (they often have free counseling for students through the Psychology Dept.) If possible, ask for a middle-aged male. They usually have had some "personal experience" and will be able to put it into perspective.

I remember when I was in college...I actually wrote three different papers on pornography and presented in a speech class a related topic. Got an "A" in all cases....so I managed to get something out of it.

You have some insight to the issue...as I did...so you will be OK with the right understanding and guidance.

My BEST ANSWER! Good Luck!

Answer 3

I think you're on your way to getting rid of the addiction. I was gonna suggest to watch more porn....make it 7-8 times a day. At one point, they will all seem the same, and boring, and will have no effect on you anymore. Eventually, you'll get sick and tired of it that you don't want to see porn again for a really long time... It has a similar effect of say eating your favorite food 3 or 4 times a day, everyday. May not be the conventional route, but it can work. Try it and let me know..

Answer 4

The reason you are relying on the porn is that you are bored, lonely, and insulated.

Get out of the dorm. Take up a new hobby, join a club, get outside, etc. Try to avoid spending too much time alone, in your room. Try to go to bed tired each night.

Eventually, you will become involved with your life and won't need the porn to fill in the gaps of your life. If you don't do something, you will fall deeper and deeper into a cycle of relying on the porn in place of real life.

Answer 5

Try and realize that there is more to life than sex. Sex is fantastic but an addiction to it (or pornography) will never fulfill you. Think about the things you used to like to do or something you have always wanted to do and pursue it with everything you have.

You may do well to make some female friends if you do not have any. In this way, it will prevent you from thinking of women as sex objects...and you might fall in love.

How do you make friends with women? Well, you have to play it cool. The whole "hey there, wanna go out" never works. You have to get acquainted first. Start by just speaking when you see this person. Then, fate will give you some reason to talk to this person (or you can make one up!) - ask to borrow something or ask for their help with some homework.

Soon, you will see that pornography only depicts women having sex. It does not depict women in general. But some have told me that pornography puts sexual fantasies in your mind that no woman can fulfill. Au contraire - I know better!

Good luck.

Answer 6

I'm addicted too, I do the same thing and I'm also 13. I really need help but I won't tell anyone it's affecting my life and my friendship with others. I don't think its a good idea for me to have a boyfriend cause I see boys differently now and what they do and how it feels, it hurts me, but I really want to quit. There's nothing I can do about it. But I can help you. Once I told my mom that I was giving up electronics for Lent, and after that I was off of it, then I was stuck in the house for the summer, i think you should try turning everything off, stay on modest channels on TV, YouTube contacts lots of porn, I advise you stay of of that too. I'm my opinion you should cut back your electronic time. I working on mine right now. I hope I helped you, and I hope I get over my addiction without my parents finding out.

Answer 7

In reality all addition is anger turned inward on yourself. You hate yourself and are trying to compensate for it. After you watched vicarious sex enough times and seen enough womens body parts it is all a blur...
First recognize this behaviour is not helpful. Tell yourself out loud.
Second learn some behavioural modification techniques.
Get the porn under control by using baby steps... one decision at a time. Get physically active also.
30 days of changing your habit pattern will allow you to change any thing in your life. It might help to have one person to talk to and hold you accountable. Not a girl and not a person with the same problem.

Answer 8

There is an organization out there that helps guys to get off of porn. They are also great at helping people in many other ways too. Check out this # 1-800-NEWLIFE
or check-out this website http://newlife.com Look under
"Every Man's Battle" they have seminars, books, workbooks and support groups, too.

May I suggest Therapy/Counseling too as being very helpful to help understand WHY you do what you do -- and to be able to gain control. There is so much more to life - and to sex.

It isn't easy, but you can beat this addiction.

Answer 9

You should exercise instead of watching porn. The physical activity will not only give you something construtive to do with your energy, but it will make you feel better about yourself and just feel better in general.
Also a buddy of mine developed a habbit of whenever he was tempted to watch porn he would wash his hands and then go about his day. It sounds silly but pretty soon he wasnt desriing to watch as much porn b/c he made himself quit.
Don't beat yourself up though b/c we all have struggles that we are facing. At least you are noticing the negative influence this is having on your life and are wanting to take controll of it. I will be praying for you.

Answer 10

i know a kid i went to college with that had the same problem. everytime he "needed" to watch porn he would go do something else and leave his room. whenever you feel like watching porn go work out, go to another friend's room, go to the library, etc. pretty much do whatever you can to get your mind off of it in a healthy manner. the more you avoid it the more you realize how you don't really need to watch it.

and don't watch more thinking that you will get sick of it. do you see drug addicts or alcoholics abusing substances more just to get off of it? i know i haven't...