Because were changing and we just don't really share anything anymore. But I'm afraid that if I choose to stop hanging out with him because I don't enjoy the time we spend together anymore that he think more negatively of Christians then he does now. I don't want to be responsible for leading him away from Christ, despite our differences. What should I do. I don't want this relationship anymore, But i don't want to leave, because he will say something like "wow! Thats a really "Christian" thing to do!" Help! What should I do?
2007-10-04 06:20:11 · 7 answers · asked by Simmy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
People who don't understand Christians are quick to judge. It seems they are always sharply seeking a flaw in Christian people. And you have to admit, a lot of Christians are very judgemental, so I can see their point. I am a Christian myself, but I consider myself to be very open-minded, and not the type that turns people away. I don't believe in preaching, myself, either. I believe showing people how a true Christian should act is the answer, not just talk about the Bible. They aren't going to listen anyway, if they didn't ask initially.
If you and this friend have grown apart, you should let the relationship take its natural course. This doesn't make you any less of a Christian. On a different level, it would make you somewhat of a hypocrite for "pretending" to be someone's friend for the sake of wanting to be a good Christian. To be a good Christian, you should be honest with yourself. If you truly no longer value this friendship, you should end it. It isn't as though you are putting him down or cursing him. You're simply acknowledging the fact that the two of you no longer have commonalities. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that, and this sort of thing happens all the time.
As we grow and change, it is natural for us to grow apart from those who used to be such close friends. It happens to everyone.
You don't even have to tell this friend that you need to terminate the friendship, just gradually stop returning calls, or call only once in a great while to let him know you still care, but now are just a "distant" friend.
You have nothing to feel guilty for. You're just being honest with yourself, and that is an admirable quality in any Christian. :)
2007-10-04 06:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by ellenoid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Simmy, Christians should not hang out with unbelievers, "For bad association spoils useful habits." I recommend that you step up your Christian activities, become much more involved in the work of Christ. Then if your friend still wants to hang out with you, he will have to become involved too. Show him that your beliefs are important to you, and if he doesn't love the way of Christ, he will probably continue heading in the same direction as before. Finding himself a new "friend" among his kind of people to take your place. Then both of you will be happier.
2007-10-04 15:05:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Friendship isn't like a romantic relationship. You don't have to "break up". Why not just hang out with the person less? If you are feeling this way I'm sure he is too.
2007-10-04 13:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by mable3691214 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find other things to be busy with and wean away from him ...or...tell him that you really can't stand the way he ridicules your choice of religion and his comments are offensive to you. Sometimes people need a slap in the face to wake up from their stupor. Have courage and leave the scum behind. If he values your friendship, he will respect your courage to stand up for what you believe in and may even follow you, but don't expect it.
2007-10-04 13:29:10 · answer #4 · answered by carmel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just let him know how you feel that's the right thing to do. remember we can only tell someone about Christ He is the one that saves. If you tell him how you feel and he change his mind about Christians then his conviction was not true.
2007-10-04 13:49:45 · answer #5 · answered by God Fire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, part of me wants to say hang in there, you never know what kind of influence you might be. But part of me wants you to be careful not to be influenced in a negative way. I guess like any other friendship, it has to make some "sense" at some level to continue. Good luck. Pray about it, or talk frankly and openly to your friend. Tell him you think he needs God and Jesus in his life - then the ball's in his court.
2007-10-04 13:26:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
dress up like Richard Dawkins, and kick him in the nads.
2007-10-04 13:26:22 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo admins are virgins 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋