I dont go to weddings and when I see one I just think another poor women going to the slaughter. Women truly do not need to do this today have a paarty go on holiday.
2007-10-04 06:19:18 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
You do realize that you opened yourself up to the most major criticism, right?!? And you'll get what you are looking for....
First off, ask a Question - that's what these forums are for, not for spouting off an opinion.
Obviously you are a party to a failed marriage. Just because it didn't work for you does not mean that every marriage is doomed to fail - there are as many that succeed as those that fail - that's why the divorce rate is 50-50.
I agree with you on one point, that 'Women truly do not need to do this....', you are correct. But what you are discounting is that women today have the CHOICE to get married, and it is with that RIGHT TO CHOOSE marriage that makes so many women these days happy! Who are you, or anyone else, to take that right away from them.
2007-10-04 06:32:36 · answer #1 · answered by Cory C 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
I'm recently married. It's tough at times but I like the security it brings. Life is increasingly stable and it's nice to know that I have a partner. I don't think marriage is what it used to be.
Certainly, you can decide to have any kind of marriage you want. Maybe you haven't met the right man yet?
In my marriage, I'm an equal. I love him very much. I'm also a stepmom. That's very difficult. If things don't work out then I will never be a stepparent again. But I think things will work out. I really do. We have a strong foundation. We support and respect each other. It's not perfect but we made a commitment to try and understand each other if we fight or disagree. We are both somewhat easy going so.. it seems to work for us. I think there are more options today but I wouldn't discount marriage entirely. It has its purpose. This is one of the fears that people had that are against gay marriage, that it would make marriage obsolete.
2007-10-05 08:29:37 · answer #2 · answered by Unsub29 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a unity of love that creates a bigger family by uniting 2 families. People whom get married, marry because they love each other, not because they have to. women that "go to the slaughter" are stupid for being in a relationship like that anyways!
Marriage is about compromise on both ends; for the husband to be happy, the wife must be happy and that will take compromise on his end. Same goes for the wife.
2007-10-04 06:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by Ellie 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on that. Why should I have to tell the government who I love? And why should we need to go through an expensive process if we no longer love each other?
I am totally committed to my partner and will continue to be for as long as we are happy together. Marriage brings no benefits, especially not to the woman. When we have children together, we will both take full responsibility for them, even if that sad day comes where we feel we need to part - but we would part without having to announce it to the world.
Love is wonderful, but it is not always forever.
2007-10-04 09:43:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not that you're bitter or anything...
You must have gotten hurt by a guy. Guess what. Not all guys are asshats. Just because I'm getting married doesn't mean that I'm being led to the slaughter. I'll still have my job, but I'll have someone to share my life with. I'll have someone to stand by my side when I falter.
2007-10-04 06:37:27 · answer #5 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
SOunds like some man did you wrong. I have been happily married for over 14 years. I do not feel as if I have been slaughtered. I am so glad to share my life with my true love!
2007-10-04 06:27:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I felt the same way at one point but i had to let go of the anger that i was carring around in order to move past 1 failed marriage now I'm happily married to a wonderful man and I wouldn't change things for the world. If you hold on to the anger you will only make yourself bitter
2007-10-04 06:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by Spacious 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Oh, thats quite sad really. I'd love to get married, I mean, to have someone you love and trust enough to want to spend the rest of your life with has to be pretty wonderful. Plus I'd feel funny having children without being married and it might make life easier when it comes to pensions and wills and that. Never mind, eh? As long as you're happy.
2007-10-04 06:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by floppity 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I really think it's up to the individual; people will always want to marry - it will never be outdated. What HAS changed though, are people's expectations of marraige; the traditional concept of 2.4 kids, and stay-at -home wives or mums and the man HAVING to be the "breadwinner" has been turned on it's head.
I feel quite negative about marraige too; but my oldest son just got engaged, so I obviously haven't passed on my negativity!
2007-10-04 06:52:30 · answer #9 · answered by marie m 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
What and you think guys don't think poor guy going to the slaughter. Look at a man's character, morale, heart before you date him see if your perspective changes. If your still unrealistic and looking for the "perfect" guy then good luck to ya!
2007-10-04 06:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by shadycaliber 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋