He want stay at home and when at home he pesters me and the kids to death. He has trouble concentrating at work. He sometimes turns to drugs to calm him down. He uses crack to calm himself. He gets mean and just yells at us for no reason when he's been using. I not sure if he gets on medicine for his ADHD will it stop the drug use because then he wouldn't need it no more. I need advice please!
2007-10-04 06:12:33 · 17 answers · asked by momof6 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If he's really using crack, he's endangering you and your children, run for your life and that of your children.
His trouble runs deeper than your euphemistic diagnosis of ADHD.
2007-10-04 06:18:26 · answer #1 · answered by Kathi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all if he is using crack, that is definitely not helping him calm down, that is only making the situation worse. Yes prescription medications will help ADHD, the tick is finding the right one that works for him. The Doctor may have to try him on deferent medications, this is absolutely normal. The hardest part is going to be getting him off the crack and into the professionals. If he is not willing to get help, unfortunately there isn’t much you can do. As a last resort, you can commit him to a psychiatric hospital or a rehab facilitation yourself. I say last resort because some people do not want to deal with the repercussions if things get ugly, but if you really love him and want to stick by him then you have to help him. If you or your children are in danger from this situation, I strongly pled with you to leave and stay with a family member or a friend.
2007-10-04 06:39:58 · answer #2 · answered by Frog girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Interesting responses you have received. Euphemism--good word for the case but why so quick to judge? These situations are always complicated.
One response--Crack slows him down?? Can't understand?
If a person is ADD or ADHD then stimulants will "slow them down!" I’ll tell you a little of my perspective here and I have a little personal experience. I'm diagnosed ADD. I had used the insidious drug Meth. Crack is coke&meth. I got on medication; I have been clean for coming up on three years now. I take amphetamines--I don't like the fact that I take these drugs but its a long shot better then street drugs.
Here’s the bottom line. If your husband wants to get clean, medication will help him, however, if he isn't committed to getting off the street sh.t then the legal stimulant will just be an additional drug to add to the pot, so to speak. This will cause more and more intensity to the situation. Either he gets help now or latter—after…?. The crack is a dead end. It will, if he continues, destroy him and harm you, the family, ect.
So talk with him--when he's up then talk with him when he’s not. See if he wants to change--his life a bit. If not the longer you stay---the more you and your children will suffer.
It's a hard place to be---I'm sorry.
God bless and good luck.
2007-10-04 07:44:14 · answer #3 · answered by enigmatic1844 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Crack is not helping him deal with his ADHD. He is hooked on the crack and getting his " fix " is all he Thinks he needs. But, in reality he is not helping it at all. As with any drug abuser its only a matter of time before he starts stealing from and abusing the people who love and care for him. If he loves you he will get help. You need to be careful . He will waste no time abusing you next
2007-10-04 06:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by DESIREE 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crack WILL make it worse. He needs to stop that. You should sit him down and talk to him about it and let him know that you and him should go talk to someone together to see what options you have. But don't put on the "You are a bad person" face. Show him that you are not mad at him, there just needs to be a change.
2007-10-04 06:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by agarovoy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all he needs help if he's turning to street drugs for comfort. i'm bipolar and i can tell you it's not easy for my husband most of the time. but yes the adhd meds can help him if he wants the help. make an appt with a doctor and go with him. my husband doesn't understand my bipolar disorder and i wish he would just so he would know that i'm not purposely trying to act this way I just wish he would understand
2007-10-04 06:17:46 · answer #6 · answered by cheypal 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not to be caustic but the time for this kind of worry was way back when all began not now that she has ruined her life and that of her son. You are now WAY to involved with her life, move on and try and just make sure the son has a place he can come to if necessary. If you can not keep him then it is time to call child protective services and find him a stable home.
2016-04-07 03:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs help NOW!!! It's not uncommon for people with ADHD to develop drug addictions, and he needs to get help for his ADHD and his drug addiction, both for his sake and yours and your children's. He to go to rehab to deal with his addiction and he needs to get therapy to deal with his ADHD. If anything, I think that family therapy would probably be a good idea, because he's not the only one being affected by his problems here.
2007-10-04 06:20:29 · answer #8 · answered by tangerine 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Crack calms him down?
Riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight....
Smack the loser with a 2x4 and get him on some real medication.
2007-10-04 06:28:37 · answer #9 · answered by Captain Moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are sure it is ADHD, he should be on medication, not crack cocaine. There are treatments.
No disrespect, but are you sure he is not just a "crackhead"
Also, you need to seek PROFESSIONAL help for him and counseling for all of you very urgently.
Good Luck.
2007-10-04 06:23:03 · answer #10 · answered by Dinah f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋