my 6 yo brother was all "you don't spend enough time with me" this morning. which i don't get, cause I spend a lot of time with him. but i offered to take him to mcDonalds for lunch, hoping maybe that would calm him down. but he said "no, that's not what i mean". he went on to say that with my other brothers and sister (all much older than him), that i spend time with them all the time, and treat them like i do my own friends. and with him, i act like it's a chore. he wants me to treat him like a friend. i didn't even know 6 yo's notice things like that. i don't get it. i play with him, but i'm not going to take him to a concert where teenagers are jumping all over the place. i'll take him to the park, but i don't know. what exactly does he want? every time i mentioned something else, he just kept saying "no, that's not what i want, you don't get it". help!!!!
2007-10-04 06:10:27 · 17 answers · asked by ...... 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
He wants to be included in your life. He needs to feel respect for you and his other siblings. When you play with him and take him to the park, you enter "his" world. He wants the chance to enter yours. Take him w/ you when you and your friends hang out. Let him set around and talk w/ you all.
I have no doubt that he is not appreciative of the time you spend together, he just wants to be included in what YOU are doing.
He knows you're apart of his world, but he needs to know that he is apart of yours.
2007-10-04 06:22:52 · answer #1 · answered by Strong w/ Jesus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try taking him to your friends house when you are just going to hang out or have all of your friends bring their younger siblings to the park. Have a Disney movie night and take him to the movies. Enjoy spending time with him. I know it's hard but it is very worth it. I'm 16yrs older than my baby sister so I know what you are going through...tell him age sensitve secrets...like maybe that you still like to watch cartoons but tell him to keep it a secret. It will make him feel important and trusted and more like a friend than a little brother. Good luck.
2007-10-04 06:22:25 · answer #2 · answered by barb c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through this with my younger sister (she is eight years younger than me). I was really annoyed with her at first but as i got older i realized how left out she felt, especially cuz me and my bro are only 2 years apart and we are very close. You need to do something with him where you are both interacting with eachother, not just take him somewhere where he is playing and you are just watching him. Cuddle up with some of his favorite snacks and watch a movie, play games, ride bikes, etc. Let him know you are really enjoying your time together and that you are not just "babysitting".
2007-10-04 06:25:12 · answer #3 · answered by blondie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't just want you to take him somewhere, he wants you to actually enjoy being with him. Maybe instead of trying to take him places, offer to spend some time, just the two of you, and ask him what he would like to do.
2007-10-04 06:20:13 · answer #4 · answered by tridak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him what he would like for you guys to do togeather? Maybe he just wants something as simple as sitting around listening to music or watching t.v. with him? You won't know exactly what he wants unless you ask him. Don't make assumptions and act like he is a bother to you, he obviously needs some extra attention from you.
2007-10-04 07:12:32 · answer #5 · answered by amie g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does have to realize that you can't do the same things with him that you do with your older brothers and sisters. It's hard for little ones to understand. just let him know that you love him the same. He should appreciate that you take the time to bring him to mc donalds, but he's so little it's hard.You sound like a good sister. If he's not satisfied with what you have to offer, tell him "it's either this or nothing". he'll pout, but he'll get over it. Meanwhile, try not to let it get to you. You sound like your doing your best.
2007-10-04 06:19:48 · answer #6 · answered by moseymo5 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he wants to be treated like an older kid, and doesn't understand that it's just not possible. maybe try to come up with a compromise....is there any activity ALL siblings in your family enjoy? Try to make more time for activities that you can ALL enjoy, and he'll feel more included.
2007-10-04 06:21:07 · answer #7 · answered by iittghy? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just grab him on your way out the door once in a while. he wants to feel like he doesn't have to schedule a time to be with you and he wants to know that youa ctually enjoy spending time with him. He may just think that you don't "like" him as much as his other siblings. Make him feel special and enjoy it yourself. Their only little for a small amt of time
2007-10-04 08:00:07 · answer #8 · answered by Melba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him like he's a "Big Boy", it sounds dumb but go with it. In the morning go in his room and ask him if you think your friends will like your outfit or something like that. Ask him to go to somewhere fancy (but kinda cheap) instead of McDonald's. Do stuff that makes him seem like he's your friend or your big brother. That Helps :)
2007-10-04 10:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he needs to tell you what he wants. it may just mean time together talking one on one. Kids are very perceptive, and he feels left out. Obviously you cant do teenage things with him, but let him plan an event for the two of you to do. He needs your influence and time. good luck
2007-10-04 06:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by parental unit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋