Whatever happend to loving someone before jumping into bed with them?

Question

Have we lost respect for ourselves that much

Answer 1

I think that may be one of the best questions I have read on here yet. Maybe if people seriously thought about your question, they wouldn't have to ask questions about some dilemma of whether or not they were pregnant, had an STD, etc. etc. etc.
It's easy and understandable to blame this issue on availability of birth control/abortion, the women's movement, the media, or even the general decline of spiritual values and morals in our society, but it really does come down to personal choice, responsibility, and respect for self & others. Thinking and acting with our brains rather than our sex organs is part of what separates us as human beings from other animals. I believe we were created, (not evolved), for a purpose, and life not just about doing whatever makes us feel good at the moment.
Anyway, amen, sister, if more people thought like you the world would be a better place!

Answer 2

What many people do not understand is that there is an invisible connection between 2 people who are sexually intimate. The connections are real, very real, but not seen with the naked eye.

It hurts so much when we break those connections and takes away a tremendous amount of energy to recover from it. It feels like having your heart ripped apart with nausea.

The mystics say to be celibate before marriage for practical reasons. For people who want to meditate or at least feel calm and collected at work or school, it is impossible if you're always healing over and over again.

If you have sex with someone who is not a life partner there is no way that you will not go through wasted energy as you recover.

Sex, drugs and rock and roll or whatever it is called these days is just going to wear a person down again and again.

Also those who jump into sexual relationships are missing out on the mystery and total beauty of building a strong foundation for a lasting relationship.

Answer 3

Great question. I think that with the icons that today's youth are impressed with it has gone the way of the horse and buggy or mabye $.50 gasoline. Jumping into bed with just anyone is now the norm not the exception and I think that it is a lack of respect on both sides. The test drive theory is foolish, if you are with someone for a while and develop a loving relationship then jump in, but today we test drive before we even take a good look externally only, never on the inside.

Answer 4

Cho is right, it's not the 50s anymore. But if you notice, most of those girls hopping to bed at every chance they get, they will come crying to you later, because they "the guy doesn't love me", or, "i thought it would lead to something".

I did the mistake once. And only once. A friend of mine said this guy was such a loser, so boring, didn't like to party. I asked her to tell me more, and she did. She kept telling me more and more with time, and I feel in love with him without ever talking or seeing him.

Then she introduced us, and I saw that the stuff about his personality was true. When we both were by ourselves, I couldn't resists being close to him, hugs and stuff (How the HELL did he let me?!?! I got to ask him that now LOL), and it lead to sex... well... not really. A few days later, and THEN he talked about being with me in a relationship.

That was almost two years ago, and I'm still with him, and I'm glad :D He's the guy all women want because he's not The Jerk.

But, I wouldn't do it again, EVER, getting with bed with anyone I am not in a relationship with. Yuk. Yuk! Yuk!!

Answer 5

a woman who jumps into mattress to right now is perceived as a slut. Sluts are patently no longer marriage cloth. you have faith that she became a virgin until you, considering which you observed her hymen formerly. yet now she needs it each and every of the time, like sluts do. OMG, oh no! intercourse is awsome, girlfiends who've intercourse like sluts are awsome. Having an actually slut for a woman buddy, worthwhile... I advise SUCKS. do no longer marry her merely cuz you like her and he or she ask approximately it. you're the two youthful as hell and merely commencing out with intercourse. it style of feels loopy to me that the two of you ought to basically settle for what you have experienced at this factor. You look rather conservative so some distance as intercourse is in touch. She may well be new yet much greater open (slutty), than you would be cool with. Y'ever see Forrest Gump?

Answer 6

Well with teen icons like Paris Hilton, Britney Spears and Justin Tibmerlake, what do you expect. These kids are morons now a days. The steps are the funnest part. It seems like people now go on a date and wake up next to each other.

Answer 7

nope love does exist without sex .And eventually sex does come(hopefully) a full relatioship need sex.Theres no need to just hop into bed for love that could actually make people just walk away or just want that from you and not anuthing else.
We do have sex easier thats true but check out most relatioships ratio people brake up all the time so obviously sex dint make love .But lust is another thing .

Answer 8

the world is getting scarier on this now many think you can have sex any time you want well in gods eyes it dont work like that with him . many fail to see sex outside marrage is ok yes the world is getting worse on this matter . how many teen.s has every one saw carring a child now that ought to be in school yes we have lost respect toward ourselves that much. sad but true. not to even think of the.std.s as well . in my honest opion?//

Answer 9

I was sad to read some of the answers to your question. Sad because these are Children of our Heavenly Father, Made in HIS IMAGE...part of Him...and they have lost respect for God, themselves, and those they choose to lust after. The pathetic part is that they don't even realize they have lost their self respect...they have been duped into thinking they still have it. They have lowered themselves to the baser instincts of an animal...and think that is a good thing.

Answer 10

In response to Irish mom's answer I say that our bodies aren't meant to be test driven. They're too sacred, special, are meant for your future spouse, and because they're from the most High God.

I myself am a strong believer and champion of Chasity and saving sex for marriage.

I can give you good religious reasons why to save it for marriage and good non religious reasons why to save it.

Yes, I agree with you about loving someone.

When someone gets in to bed with another person and there isn't real love, that's just plain old ugly lust.

Lust isn't love. It's the enemy of love.

Keep in mind that I'M NOT bashing people who have lost their virginity before marriage. They still have the option of practicing until their married. God still has endless compassion for those who have lost their virginity before marriage.

It's really a shame to see how far America has been degraded and demoralized in this society.

I'm not saying that sex is bad. It's good. Even God and the Bible says so.

However, sex is meant to be between a married man and woman.

In today's mentally warped society, the media, Hollywood sluts, show business entertainment etc. all portray sex to be dirty.

Unfortunately, porn has also become too far embraced in this country. It's really, really sad. Porn trains a man to think of a woman as a sex object. When in fact, SHE'S NOT! She's a real human being who has feelings.

And if you think I'm just some old man who has no more sexual desires left and likes to beat up on younger people because they like to have sex, think again.

I'm part of the younger generation of Americans who is on the front line dealing with these issues and fighting them every day.

Sorry for typing so much.