i have told a friend my feelings for her. she didnt feel the same way. i have known her many years. as a friend i thought that we would be able to get through this and still be friends. so girls what are you thinking when a friends tells you his feeling and you dont feel the same. what makes you think you have to ignore him. and not fight for your friendship.
2007-10-04 05:20:20 · 8 answers · asked by Jon G 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's ignoring you because she's second-guessing what kind of interaction she can have with you. She doesn't know if she can be playful around you without you thinking she's flirting. She doesn't know if she can talk about another guy without you being jealous. She doesn't know if she can open up anymore because you may misread something due to your feelings. My advice is to give her some time to figure it out for herself. If you truly want to still be friends with her, and aren't just saying that because you like her and want to be around her in the hopes that she'll someday change her mind, here's what I'd tell her. I'd say look, I've been going through a hard time lately and I didn't know how to handle it. Because of that I think I may have misread my feelings for you, thinking I liked you, when really it's just that your friendship is so important to me that for a fleeting moment I misinterpreted it. Honestly, I think the fact that I know you'd make a great girlfriend put on top of that fact that you're very important to me made me see things in a light that was shining to brightly and blinded me. You don't have to worry about any "feelings" I have for you, that was a mistake on my part. Two mistakes actually. The first was misreading and misinterpretting feelings for you that weren't there maybe to comfort me through some tough times. The second was telling you about them before I knew for sure what it was I was feeling.
2007-10-04 05:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by alwaysremembertwentytwo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's ignoring you because she's not sure how you will interpret her interactions with you without you thinking she's flirting. She is afraid to share anything with you now because you may misread something due to your feelings. If you truly want to remain friends with her. Ensure her that even though she doesn't reciprocate the feelings you have for her, you would still like to remain friends, and that you're sorry for putting her in an uncomfortable position. I hope this helps, and Good Luck!
2007-10-04 07:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I didn't ignore my guy friend when he told me the same thing...and the first time he told me, I said i didn't feel the same way. we still stayed good friends. but a few months later, i started to like some guy I knew from work, and i told him about it. he was my best friend...and next thing i knew, guy friend was getting mad at me saying that he liked me (even though i told him i didn't) I was fine with him liking me, but I didn't feel the same and i told him, then he started being very rude to me...so we don't talk very much anymore. but it wasn't because of his confession. its because he wouldn't take no for an answer.
2007-10-04 05:32:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's totally uncomfortable with you now knowing that you have feelings for her that she cannot return. She is probably afraid to speak with you now because you may get the wrong idea and think she's flirting with you. You have to let her know that it was a mistake, you misread her and that you want to remain friends, but you have to give her time to think about it.
2007-10-04 07:21:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 02:25:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Idk maybe she isnt ignoring you.. but if you think about it.. Things are never gunna be the same with the 2 of u's. You have feelin's for her and she doesnt feel the same.. or maybe she does and she is just shy.. either way if u ask me she just isnt sure how to act in front of you.
2007-10-04 05:30:07 · answer #6 · answered by Chitownshottie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because you made her feel uncomfortable....she knows now you will always be looking at her as a possibility.. that changes everything in her mind...
she can't return the feelings and will now feel that she is leading you on.....even by doing nothing....
No more friendship... sorry bud.....
2007-10-04 05:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on the girl but if you talk it out it may save your friendship wit her.
P.S. con grats on telling her your really brave!
2007-10-04 05:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by vicie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋