I was married for 20 years and became widowed 4 year ago. I have not dated in 25 years. Dating and all these on line sites are all new to me. The other day I found an email on my boyfried's computer responding to a message from another women. When I asked him about it he said he met her on this porn/dating site, which he is a paying member. (He does not own a webcam.) He said he uses this site for entertainment purposes only and never intended to meet this women or any one else in person. I don't have a problem with him looking at these sites, (I don't think it is any different than watched a porn dvd) but I am not comfortable with him contacting, emailing or IM, other women. I have talked to him about this and he assures me that there is nothing to worry about. He thinks I am making to much of this. He did go in and changed his profile to read that he is in a commited relationship and is only looking for online flirting
2007-10-04 04:52:38 · 8 answers · asked by Laura 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I was in your situation I would leave him. I wouldn't be comfortable him being on pron sites at all, but you seem to be. Seems like a weirdo to me. Why does he need to go onto these sites when he can have sex with you?
2007-10-04 05:02:31 · answer #1 · answered by Danii-x 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my view, if you've made it known to him that this is something that bothers you, then he should listen to you and where you're coming from. I do not think you're making too much of it, b/c I would be cautious with him interacting with other women online too. Maybe ask him if there's a compromise you two can come up with so that he doesn't feel cheated and neither do you. I'd say talking to him about it til it gets resolved may be the best option. Good luck.
2007-10-04 11:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by Elsie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes changing to committed only attracts those women more!
Let it go but be aware... you've been out of the game a long time and have some catching up to do. Don't let yourself get taken for a fool!
2007-10-04 12:06:08 · answer #3 · answered by sacosta808 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A profile is an easy thing to change back.
I am sorry for your losses.
2007-10-04 12:08:43 · answer #4 · answered by Alexander Shannon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, at least he has been honest, and as long as his profile has changed I wouldn't push the issue.
2007-10-04 11:57:23 · answer #5 · answered by diablo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since he has changed his profile,you need not retain any grudge now.
2007-10-04 12:00:43 · answer #6 · answered by yogeshwargarg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it bother you it bothers you that simple.if you think ur doing the right thing but its not bothering you no problem ;)
2007-10-04 11:56:32 · answer #7 · answered by ahvillian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if he loves you and you love him then trust him, if there is no trust then there is no love without love then there is no relationship.
2007-10-04 11:56:43 · answer #8 · answered by paula 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋