What are your thoughts and feelings about being a military wife. Good or bad. Vent whatever you want. Do you want your husband to be a lifer and why? Oh and if a guy stumbles upon this question what do you think of us? I'm a navy wife and in these 4 years I've seen a lot of cool places, grown up a lot but its also been the toughest 4 years of my life. I can't wait for my husband to get out though. God bless all you brave strong women. I feel our society doesn't give enough credit to us women holding down the fort. Military wife toughest job in navy/army/marines/airforce!
2007-10-04 03:22:40 · 17 answers · asked by Lordes Skye 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Hey there. You've definetly gotten some interesting responses! Society doesn't credit women with enough for mothering or being a wife period but they (speaking as a whole) don't usually understand the military wives extra roles.
We've been married 18yrs and in the Army the whole time. And yes I say WE have been in the Army because it isn't just his job - it's a lifestyle for the whole family! Every spouse (and the children) serves right alongside thier military member and most often thanklessly! It really hacks me off when people say oh you aren't in the military - techinically no but as a spouse we suffer many of the same things or others often with less/no respect! Hubby has been home 9.5 years of that time and in Iraq, Korea, and other places the other time.Our first two years of marriage we were together 5months and 3 days.
It is a hard row to hoe at times - having to take care of everything alone - single but not single,all the while not knowing what's going on with your loved one, etc. But there have been a lot of positives as well - I'm a fairly indpendant woman and this had made me more dependant on God, made me more flexible (most of the time!), helped me to see things from others perspectives and other places in the world as well. I love my military family and there is definetly a bond you can't find anywhere else!
I can also say that it really takes a few years to get settled/in a groove and feel good at this job/calling and then all of a sudden retirement is right around the corner and it's like - hey wait a minute!
Blessings to all you military wives out there!
ps -- There are some awesome books out there for those who might be interested in an inside peek into what life is like on the homefront including "Heros at Home" and "While they're at War".
As far as the guys who don't see the point -- how bout this: If you really value motherhood/what your wife does so little you should trade sometime my hubby readily admits he couldn't do my job - or multitask the way that I have to most days, he figures being acting 1Sgt, platoon sgt, uls clerk, ncoic for the training room and everything else he does is a heck of a lot easier! And trust me body armor would be great at the commisary somedays!!
Single guy - honesty is greatly appreciated but look at it this way you may not always be single.... what do you want in a wife? And I know our single guys surely appreciated the wives who put together goodie bags, decorated and made beds in the barracks for them to come home to in Germany --- it's all perspective!
2007-10-04 16:49:51 · answer #1 · answered by ArmyWifey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my husband for 10 years now... I'm 25 and I've had to grow up fast. He's Air Force and deploys every year for 6-8 months at a time... It's very rough... I grew up below poverty level, My father was a WWII vet and died when I was 15... So I know how hard life can be... I raise three children take care of everything... Including my husband even when he's gone.... I am a Proud Air Force Wife.... It is the toughest job in the military.. I don't care what the others say... When a single person can take on the role of mom, dad, Gardner, housekeeper, cook, child care provider, mechanic, financial aid, counselor, teacher, wife, mother, loner, ETC,,,..... you get the point... That person has a lot of stuff to do...My husband is currently deployed and I support him 110%.... So My kids keep me very busy, so does the other stuff I have on my to do list.... I'm currently living in Washington State, my closest Friend/ Relative is in Missouri... I do have a few people I can talk to up here but it's not the same... It is very hard, the funny thing is how much I actually enjoy the military life.. My husband is gonna stay in till retirement.... I think it's the best thing for him to do... The pay kinda sucks for us right now , we have more kids than stripes* A1C* ... But I was told the pay does get a bit better...Overall, I wouldn't choose any other lifestyle for my family... And for those who can't handle it; Stop complaining and get out of the military.... If your spouse doesn't want to get out then move on with your life.... I'm sorry I had to vent that.....
2007-10-04 05:01:34 · answer #2 · answered by spazattacker 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As an AF wife I have found the military life not that hard. Maybe because I have worked the 9 yrs I've been with my husband. I have always been an independent woman. I have never looked for my husband to hold my hand or take care of completely. The hardest time I had was when I first moved from home in Delaware to Colorado. Also the first time he deployed. At his 8 yr mark he was talking about getting out but decided not to. It was the best decision for him and us. When he retires he will be 39 and will be able to start a career in the auto mechanics field. I like be able every 2 to 3 yrs and getting to see other places. My favorite so far has been Alaska and we can't wait to go back.
2007-10-04 10:30:05 · answer #3 · answered by carebear 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Indeed the wives who are faithful to their husbands when they go off for extended periods of time are to be highly commended. The weak ones will cheat on their husbands when they get lonely. God bless both the military husbands/wives and their service for their country. And don't listen to the superliberal democrats - the military is a very noble organization and those involved are excellent people. I am very happy to see that not all women are slutty, "easy" girls and that some still take relationships seriously serious.
2016-05-20 22:29:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married for 6 years to a Marine Gunny but have known him for 14. I would never ever tell him to get out. He takes too much pride in who the Corps has made him. It is never dull that is for sure. In fact we were told last week that "sometime" in Nov we will have to move to a different place. So in the next few weeks I have to get my house sold!
With all the problems that being military brings there are a lot of good things like the people you meet and places you go. The best part....My husband will RETIRE AT 37 YEARS OLD!!!! Then we will still be young enough to enjoy our time together!
2007-10-04 05:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by pgnprincess1212 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been a Navy Wife for 4 years and I within 6 months of marrying my hubby I volunteered to be the Ombudsman of the ship my husband was on. It was tough to do but at the same time I loved it because I learned SO much about the Navy and I felt that I was closer to my husband for that. He was deployed to the Pacific for 7 months but all that time I kept myself busy getting together a support group for the families and attending classes on base.
Yes it is tough to be left lone in charge of the house and the kids, but in my case, I love the fact that my husband is so proud of being a sailor and I am very proud of him as well. He is a 'lifer' and I support him completely. I guess the most helpful thing to have when your husband or wife is deployed is family and/or very close friends.
2007-10-04 03:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by navywife26 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in the Navy for 8 years and a Navy wife for that long. It can be tough, but if you love your man you will do it. I think the hardest part was being alone, but the friendships and the bonds that you make with other military wives is incredible. Here I am a few years later, and I am still friends with those girls who helped me to get through it all. It is tough but in the end, it is worth it!
2007-10-04 03:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by bonstermonster20 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a military wife for almost 4 years now. I like it, but at times it is challenging. My husband works 24 hour on/ 24 hours off. I see him every other day...which isn't the best thing for a relationship.
He has been deployed twice for 5 month each. During those deployments I made the best...I worked and went to school full time. I made new friends and I cleaned like no other!
But, i think the one thing that makes it easier is that we do not have children.....yet.
2007-10-04 04:41:57 · answer #8 · answered by Mary A 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hello Kyla;; ia'm so proud of you; you are young and strong; and may the good Lord bless & keep you always;;; and for foxy moro and victoria c;;; ia'm so sorry for what the both of you went, throug stay encorauge, back to you Kyla; you are so right about every-thing we military wives never realy got any support from the out- side and some times it was kind of hard inside the military community. my husdand was in the military for 23 years i had have a lo'ts of down falls and some , good times also i came to america in the 70&plus and at the time my husband had just came back from Viet-nam he was wounded in the war and had some back troubles, and still does until today, He stayed gone most off the time, his kids alley knew him, i had a very hard time all alone without any family members aroud to help and care for me and our 2 kids, i cried and pray most of the time and my biggest problem was the language, i had to learn to speak write and read english and as you all know english is one of the hardest language in the whole wide world i a'm for real ia'm not exagerating, but after i learned the language things got a little better for me and them i start to meat people and make friends and we stock- together like glue until the end we washed each others back, we took turn baby- sittin, we spent the night we encourage one- another we became the mother and the father to our children, and the head of the house- hold and when our mens came back home, some of my friends got a divorce because they husband were cheating on them, some went to oveer seas and even had a nother family, and tried to beat my friends and take the kids for non wroung doing. so to all of you strong and brave army wives and the other branch of services, out there i said , good jod done; you did it all by your selves;;;;;; and know my daughter husband is in Iraq and she is 6 months pregnant, please say a prayer for her and her husband they are ;;; erik and eliza everett , and he should be back sometime in november, i thank god for all of you and Kyla thank you for asking this great question. take care and be bless!!!
2007-10-04 04:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Rosalinda 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
navy wife for 13 years... first ones were good... then the jackass started going out to sea all the time acting like he was 25 again... (you know what i mean) it was really tough... like they say being a military wife is the hardest job in the military... we seperated 2 years back and i only wish he would have gotten out of the military it might have saved our marriage....
2007-10-04 03:27:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋