5 year old daughter talks and talks and talks......?

Question

Okay,many people say their child talks too much. My daughter takes the cake on this one. She will have converstaions to herself. She will talk like the teacher to herself,so basically goes through what the teacher says when she is in school. She talks about things that happened years ago,talks about things that have absolutely nothing to do with what is happening at the moment. If someone is talking,she is talking. She is always making noise,be it singing,talking,or just making noise. She drives me nuts,she drives everyone we know nuts,no one can handle how much she talks. She also has a habit of taking things from one container to the next and back again,she can do this for hours. I am at my wits end with her,I have been on the phone at times and people can swear there is like 20 kids her,but it is just her alone. Anyone ever experience this?

She has 2 siblings,she does get her exercise. Here is an example. The other day my hubby was putting in a light bulb,she saw this. So she asked are you putting in a light bul,he answered yes. Two seconds later,the same question,with the same answer,again a few seconds later,the same quesion and the same answer. this can't be normal. EVERYTHING is like this. Can you see where it drives people nuts??

Answer 1

Have you had her evaluated by doctors? This sounds much like my son. It turned out that he was high functioning austic and also gifted intellectually. The high intelligence made him want to discuss things and figure out how things worked, and the autism kept him from realizing how it bothered others. With lots of hard work, he has overcome much of the problems. He is 21 and in college now. Your daughter could have either or both of these conditions.

Answer 2

Excessive chattering does not mean ADHD.

I know alot of little kids(I don't know, try me-your daughter's driving everyone nuts is nothing compared to who I have to put up with and that person is twice as worse) who have a lack of impulse control and just has to speak whatever's on their mind all the time. Look on the bright side, if she can repeat the teacher word for word, then she must really have good learning. No sign of inattentiveness there... Sometimes it's just a phase, I know repeating the same thing someone says (or repeating something over and over) can be a phase. Alot of adults do that too without even realizing they're doing it. And there are some who just likes to hear the sound of their voice. If the daughter is normal(cognitive behavior, motor functions, communicative-important, behavior excluding chattiness, routine, school, play, interaction, social interplay..) in just about every way except for excessive talking, then I don't see anything wrong but to teach her when necessary to talk and when not. If you're seemingly invisible to her and she keeps on going, then that might be something to worry if she doesn't even acknowledge your presence and that you're talking to her.

Just a chatterbox, establish quiet times, keep her busy with book and sing-alongs or constructive activities that need not talk.

I don't want to say this, but an obsession with doing things in a uniform routine way every time, an obsession with arranging, stacking or lining up objects, and behavior that seems 'out-of-it' (there's a difference between unnatrually monotonous like a drone, and doing it just to bug someone for fun or doing it for fun and not giving a care what anyone else thinks of it) are symptoms of an ASD autistic spectrum disorder. But then again, normally, most autistic kids don't...talk much..at all(I said most, depends how far they are on the spectrum). They're just out in their own realm. As if without a consciousness in the present world except an outer shell.

Multi-personality is a whole different thing. And these multi-personality, bipolar, ADHD, autism spectrum is very hard to diagnose whether it's normal child behavior or an actual disorder since the symptoms of normal and abnormal are seemingly interwined. If she's just repeating someone else or being talkative, that doesn't mean multi-personality. If, however, say her name is Sam...and she's turns into "Sybil" one minute and "Bob" the next as if she's a different person in a different place and time...than that would be suspicious-considering if Sybil and Bob aren't just picture book characters or imagination(see, it's hard to tell) or from the TV..
Obsessive-compulsive of talkativeness is a rarity of what I've heard since it usually is physical activities.

If she's learning normally and behaves normally besides the chattiness, than I would think she's just a chatterbox. But what does she talk about? Just repeating everyone else like a drone, or having endless conversations? And cutting back on sugar and dairy and gluten might help, if there's a allergy that's causing this kind of behavior.

Answer 3

Well I can honestly say I hear you on this one! My daughter is almost four and she does the same things...She is always talking whether it be to herself, singing, making noises, my husband thinks it is funny and that she talks to herself because she gets better answers that way. He says he talked to himself too as a child. But my daughter never stops and honestly I came online today to find out if it was strange that she does this and I found your question. So at least we know now there is someone else who has the same concerns right. My daughter is very smart and I am 9 months pregnant and starting her in school next week. I am hoping it will stop some. I don't want other kids making fun of her.Well I hope this was a little help. Maybe they just have big imaginations?

Answer 4

My daughter was like that when she was young. I have a feeling I was like that when I was a child, too. What do her grandmas say about it? Chances are, either you or her dad did the same thing as a child. They would probably be thrilled if you asked their advice.
1.Make some time to get involved in her play as much as you can, and give her opportunities to express herself with your undivided attention. Really listen to her for at least a few minutes every day and have some meaningful conversations on her level. If you skip this step, the other suggestions probably won't work as well, if at all.
2. After you have established a good rapport doing step #1., work on teaching about when it's appropriate to talk and when it's not, and work on volumes of voices. Make a game out of it using different voices (high, low, soft, loud, whisper, shout, inside/outside voice, etc.) Play the quiet game. This game really works better if more kids are involved--can you find some kids in the neighborhood, or invite a little friend over for a playdate?
3. For times when you just can't stand it, you might try getting an ipod or mp3 player. Use it for yourself to tune out (stay in visual contact with her if you need to for proper supervision), or offer it to her as an incentive to LISTEN rather than TALK. Tell her that her turn is over when she makes noise; it is the ipods turn to talk.
4. One thing I really had to work on with both my kids was interrupting. They would be just fine in another room until I got on the phone, and then all you-know-what would break loose. There they would be right under my feet screaming or otherwise demanding my attention. I told them that they were not to interrupt unless it was an emergency (broken bones or bleeding!) The next time it happened, I used the signal of my index finger over my mouth as a warning for interrupting my adult conversation or phone conversation. If the warning was ignored, there would be consequences (whatever discipline system you use) such as time out, loss of privilege, and dare I say it, I'm sure they got a couple of spankings over it.
Now my son is grown and out of the house, and my daughter is a teenager---she is now im'ing and texting too much, so be grateful for small blessings--at least the live talk doesn't cost you anything!
Seriously, if this continues to be a problem, and her teacher says it is interfering with school, you may want to have her tested just to ease your mind. Coupled other symptoms like restlessness, lack of impulse control, etc., it could be a sign of something like ADD.
More likely, you just have an intelligent youngster with a lot to say!

Answer 5

well, this totally sounds like my 5 yr old.... the minute i pick her up from school its like opening a can of worms... she never stops, I've just learned that to her whatever she's saying is important no matter what its about, so i just try to always nod my head yes and give a few okays..... but i wouldn't try to stop her from talking so much i mean she's at an age where everything is much more clearer for her she's starting to really grow up into a big kid instead of that little toddler girl. my daughter will talk about things that happened years ago as well, and things that have nothing at all to do with the moment.. i just try to give her as much as my attention as i can to let her know that what she is saying is important to mommy, and then i let her know she's being a motor mouth again and that usually will get her to back off from talking so much lol for a while at least.

Answer 6

What kind of diet does the child have? How much physical activity does she have offered to her?

I would recommend you take her IMMEDIATELY off of all junk foods. NO sweets, NO candies, NO salty chips, etc.

Stock up the fridge and pantry with whole wheat bread, broccoli, cauliflower, carrots - all the fresh vegetables you can lay your hands on. SERIOUSLY.

And FRESH FRUIT.

Then, absolutely commit yourself to alloting a regular amount of time for physical activity. LIKE A RITUAL.

For example, you MUST take her for a long, brisk walk every day after work (or whenever your day winds down ) 6-7 in the evenings or so. Just around the block several times - at the very LEAST 30 solid minutes.

Then, on weekends, you MUST take her to a park for AT LEAST an hour.

If you do these two things RELIGIOUSLY for 30 days I will guarantee you to see a drastic change.

Let us know!

Answer 7

I would not worry about this. Instead I would ask her if they say anything and what they talk to her about. It is possible as we don't know what children all are receptive to and what really happens to someone once they pass away, I mean to their soul. I can't say it's not happening as there have been reports documented of others seeing or encountering spirits. As long as she is not saying that they are telling her anything bad then I would not be concerned. I would be kind of comforted if your child tells you good things. It's like your grandmother is watching over her. ONLY be concerned if she says they tell her to do bad things to other people, etc.Then I would get someone qualified to deal with that on the situation. Otherwise she will likely outgrow it or lose this when she is older and her way of relating to things in life changes and her view of this will likely be affected then also.

Answer 8

as a teacherm I do not think that there is anything wrong with her talking to herself. It's called vocalisation, and at age 5 children have not really learned sub-vocalisation (ie thinking in your head).
Your little girl seems to me to be especially bright, and is thinking all the time.
Having her pretend to be the teacher with herself is an excellent sign that she is learning a lot at school.

If you are worried and think she is actually "seeing" people, take her too your pediatrician, but honestly I think that she is probably just gifted.

Make sure she knows when it is time to be quiet, but don't discourage her talking when it is not an inconvienice because as she is vocalising, she is learning and developing... and don't worry, in time she will learn to do it in her head!

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I would also suggest that you give your daughter extra work and projects to keep her busy. At her age, and at her intelligence level, she is like a sponge! Get her involved in learning activities, and start teaching her how to read... you may have a future valedictorian on your hands!

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I know it's annoying, but it's a GOOD thing!

Answer 9

I went through this with my daughter. Mine needed more one-on-one time. She still has her mouth going every waking minute and even talks in her sleep but he got her into some activities and found out what she is interested in and each of us took up a hobby with her. This has helped a lot. It could also be that she just tries to take in everything. Maybe next time your husband is changing a light bulb he should ask her to help.

Answer 10

Sounds perfectly normal to me, kids can be really silly sometimes and even though she's driving you and everyone else nuts she probably finds it amusing that it bothers you all so much, otherwise I would still talk with her pediatrician about her possibly having ADHD ( Hyper- Activity or even obsessive-compulsive disorders )