I left my husband 3 years ago due to his cheating and drinking. I since started living with my boyfriend (yeah I know I'm an idiot) but, when we first started dating things seemed great until I found out he masterbated all the time and now it has ruined our sex relationship. I don't think having sex once every month or two months is very healthy for a lasting relationship. Does anyone agree or am I just being stupid. Sometimes he makes me feel like I am not good enough or something. He is a great guy but I don't know what to do to get him to want me sexually. I have tried and I don't complain about it. I feel complaining could make things worse. I have (for the past few days) been sleeping on the couch and he woke me up this morning saying, how do you expect us to have sex when you sleep on the couch. My responce was we don't have sex anyway. Then he comes off with it takes two. I don't understand this because I give alot in this relationship. Together 2 years and it hurts. Any advice
2007-10-04 02:02:25 · 5 answers · asked by cutiepie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
first of all I don't whine about it or just lay there either. I always want it and play the part.
2007-10-04 02:23:14 · update #1
it seems like some are taking this the wrong way...I am the one who always wants to have sex but he doesn't and I always catch him masterbating. The problem isn't that he is doing that but the problem is he would rather masterbate than have sex. I do everything for him and don't ask for anything. When I try to get him to talk about it he says he is the one with the problem. I just need help to try to understand what is going on.
2007-10-04 03:18:45 · update #2
Yeah you two need to talk, see what kinds of things you like to do sexually. I would be goin crazy just like you lol, im always wanting to have sex with my girl. Many times a day if possible
2007-10-04 02:10:32 · answer #1 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay my husband was addicted to porn and master bating, and I suffered. I will admit I am a nympho so I couldn't understand and thought he didn't want me, but he had a n addiction, and didn't even realize it. I think men should masturbate, until he becomes a problem. Sex one or twice in a month is not enough for a lot of people, so if he wants it more and it doesn't bother you then get off of the couch and give it up. Otherwise if he pleasures himself you can't be mad. I just closed my lingerie shop and am selling things on eBay if interested in lingerie, costumes, or stripper shoes check out my listing ID bigjuggies79. Maybe that would spice things up for the both of you.
2007-10-04 09:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by bigjuggies79 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why don't you do more than just lay there during sex? You two need to sit down and talk to find out what each other's sexual needs are and come to some sort of agreement to keep you both satisfied. As for the masturbation...don't take that personally. There is nothing wrong with it and even people who are fulfilled sexually, still do it. But, you two aren't going anywhere until you learn to communicate openly instead of pouting and whinning about it.
Ok, then DON'T communicate...sheesh. Just ignore it and it will all get better.
2007-10-04 09:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by CC 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
maybe the timing is off on you guys. when you want he doesnt and when he wants it you dont. try not to base your relationship on your sex life. i have been very happily married for 13 years. my sex life is like yours. it will come and go. it will be ok.
2007-10-04 09:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by yoshismom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should be the aggressor. Spend time together a try sexy stuff. BJ would get him going.
2007-10-04 09:36:12 · answer #5 · answered by Ralph Z 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋