I've been seeing my boyfriend for only about a month. But lately, he's been a bit distant with me. This got me thinking and it occurred to me that throughout the 'relationship' he's only ever phoned me once and the only time he texts me is if I text him first. It's also the case that if we're going to see each other I have to make the effort to go and visit him - he's actually only bothered coming to see me once... Every time we speak lately, he's just really non-committal and sounds distracted, I know he has a busy social life (he's in 2 bands) but it just feels like he doesn't have time for me - or when he does I should act really grateful that he's found a window in his calendar!
I wonder if he's distancing himself because he just can't be bothered with the relationship? (Though, surprise, surprise, sex is something he seems to find time for...)
2007-10-04 01:59:08 · 11 answers · asked by Volcano Grrl (aka Emby) 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You've answered your own question. He can find time to have sex with you (and you're having to go to him to meet up for that) but no time to text you, etc.
You are doing the running in this relationship. He's using you. Just stop having sex with him and move on. There's a man out there who will be really into you. This guy isn't. Good luck.
2007-10-04 04:22:28 · answer #1 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I very much doubt this guy wants anything meaningful with you,but the least he can do is be straight with you instead of stringing you along!
If he can only be happy and make the time for you when it comes to sex,simple answer,don't let him have it.
In two bands or not,it shouldn't stop him from being straight with you.
Sorry to be so blunt,but my feeling is that you're just a stop gap for sex when it suits him,so have some self respect and start to say no to that!
From what you've said,he does sound an arrogant so and so,especially as he expects you to be grateful when he finds a window for you in his busy calendar!
He's only treating you this way because you're allowing him to.
And he wants the single life with sex on tap as and when he feels like it,time to wise up girl and either get him to start respecting you a bit more or dump him and find someone more deserving of you.
We all have choices!
2007-10-08 01:30:29 · answer #2 · answered by tinyfeet64 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seems as if hes gotten used to u doing all the chasing so and boi it seems like u have done quite a lot and he seems to be taking u for a mug. my advice back down a lot. make urself as unavailable as possible. don contact him until he contacts u and when he does- say he texts, dont back straight away, make his mind wonder for a little while then u can text back and give him the whole "sorry i've been really busy" speech. this is one way to deal with this, the other is to confront him and ask him whats up and if he really wants to be with u and that if he does he would need to be making a bit more effort. good luck
2007-10-04 02:13:06 · answer #3 · answered by snowflakes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're slotted into his life like a little box he pulls out for his own selfish needs. To be fair, as you say, he is busy with his bands but there's no excuse not to send a 2second text to you. If you are doing all the running, which I dare say he delights in, then you need to ask yourself if you are getting out of this relationship, what you put in......you're probably not. You need someone more available and more communicative and appreciative. Life's too short as they say.
2007-10-04 02:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by JonesTheMiner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he is liking the single life. Play it cool for a few weeks if he is interested he will soon get with it - if not well at least ya will know. Good Luck and hope it works out the way you hope.
2007-10-04 02:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by princess snowflake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
darling, you should be straight with him and tell him how you feel.. say what you have written above and don't miss anything.. you cant let him do this to you, and think that you deserve much better... i am sorry if i sound harsh but i think he is only interested in one thing and this is not relationship...
I am wishing you all the best....
Rose xoxoxox
2007-10-04 02:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by Est passé de velours ♥Rose♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be unavailable and see how he reacts, then you will know. You chasing him will make him run. Give yourselves a chance it's only been a month... if you appear to be a cling on he will take off. good luck
2007-10-04 02:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by no more dreamin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey talk to him, explain to him how you feel.
Tell him your his gf you should be a pretty high thing in his life right now not just for sex ect.
Don't have sex before marriage its a sin againsn't God and Jesus.
Hope it works out.xxx
2007-10-04 02:13:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd play it cool - if he cant make the effort why should you, then if he does start perking up and calling etc you know that he's interested!
Good luck babe xx
2007-10-04 02:08:39 · answer #9 · answered by Katie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww darling, i wouldnt bother with him anymore why waste time and effort on somebody who doesnt seem to care alot about you and your feelings your worth millions better go fine somebody who will appreciate you!!
2007-10-04 02:05:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋