I've just moved in with my boyfriend, which is fantastic by the way, the problem is that i've moved from Glasgow to Oxford, distance being about 400miles. so all my real good friends are miles away. The next major problem is that my boyfriend leaves for work about 5am and gets back bout 3 or 4pm, which is when i leave for work.
Dont get me wrong, its much better than before because when i was living in scotland the whole long distance thing wasnt really working. but now i'm lonely as hell, spend the whole day on my own and dont see very many people... i dunno what to do bout it... any ideas??
2007-10-03 23:59:54 · 22 answers · asked by dom c 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be strong...
This is just a phase(Life Tests you), get together on weekends..party on..
I guess, you'll still be craving for each other...and that's healthy for your relationship.
All the Best.
2007-10-04 01:15:40 · answer #1 · answered by DemongoD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Dom
i did this same thing with a girl that lived in New York. She and i decided to move in with eachother and i live in harriburg. itwas over 200 miles fromher friends parents and her last job. At first thing were great ,but in a week or so thigs started to get stained. She couldnt find agreat paying job like she had and was used to. I worked nights and she worked days and it was impossiable to keep up with our lifes as a couple. She wa shome sick and showed it and i felt bad and decieded i would move t NY and work there. Withina few months we broke up and i mived back to Harrisburg and we dont talk anymore. If i was you i would take a ride back to Glasgow alone and think of what your true feelings are on the way and take the weekned to deceide what is right for you. Im sure there are many other guys living near you that are just as sweet and hard working and just more stable thenthe shift work.
Good LUck
2007-10-04 00:43:08 · answer #2 · answered by ho8er2 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh dear -you poor thing.
A similar thing has happened to me before.
Its a difficult to solve situation. You need to discuss this with your partner but dont come accross too pushy if you know what i mean.
For the moment, I think that you should focus on making the best of the time that you do spend together.
You must love eachother very much and love comes with compromise im afraid!
No doubt you have days off work together and what you do with them depends on you as a couple, you can just chill out all day with DVD's and a take-away, have hours of hot sex or go out with friends - do what ever makes you both happy.
I really hope things work out well for you both, but if you think I can be of any more help, just contact me.
Simon
2007-10-04 01:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm like that my boyfriend works away sometimes for a month at a time and when he is working in town he leaves at 6:30am and doesn't finish work till 7pm (mining), perhaps do some study ( a great way to meet new people) even if its just something like painting or crafts or find some work.
2007-10-04 00:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love each other then you will both sacrifice something so that you can be together more often. Try and negotiate different hours with your boss that are similar to your partners, or get him to do that in regards to your hours.
And when your together just fill that time with love and laughter. And when your on your own use that time to get to know his family and friends and then you will have new people to go out with.
2007-10-04 00:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try finding a part time job and this will get you interacting with people. Go for walks in the park, swimming etc. Go to the local schools and see if they need anyone for voluntary work etc. I hope you settle in well and good luck
2007-10-04 00:04:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I presume you get time together at the weekends, ask your b/f to start introducing you to his friends and their girlfriends, wives etc so that you can strike up a relationship with them and then perhaps you can hang around with some of them during the days in the week when your b/f is at work.
Good luck xx
**hug**
2007-10-04 00:47:07 · answer #7 · answered by Pitstop!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go looking for a new job that will give you more time together, talk to your boyf and see if he'll also look for a different job, also you could shift your body clock round so that you sleep whilr he's at work and he sleeps while your at work so that bit of time when your both not working can be spent together, sure its at antisocial hours but anyhting for love right.
2007-10-04 00:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job that starts a a similar time to his.
2007-10-04 00:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by Birdy is my real name 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when i get spare time on my own i use it to full effect,I play my music and guitar nice and loud,because when my partners around she always asks me to turn it down,so time for me always goes to quick whem I'm on my own.
2007-10-04 00:09:22 · answer #10 · answered by MR Mystic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋