We've been together for 4 years. And I'm 22. He's 23. Also, when I said we might get married, he said: "Yeah, I've thought about it a few times." And then when I didn't say anything back, he was like: "Okay, so I guess you don't have anything to say about that, *chuckles*." So I was like "what do you want me to say?" He says: "Nothing."
Anyways, I feel like this is a really big step. And it's weird, because before, all I ever wanted was for him to step up and take it to that "next level." But now that he actually has, I have cold feet. He even asked if he should put my name on the lease while he's looking. Of course, I said "no" to that, but...still. There may be a proposal looming in the near future, and I'm not sure what to think about that. I mean, I'm really excited, and all, but...is moving in with him really such a good decision? On one hand, I'm excited about it, but on the other, I can see my future as a separate person washing away...what should I do?
2007-10-03 23:43:00 · 7 answers · asked by Angelisurifrie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not ethical for you to move in with him before marriage. If you are independent and earn good salary, you can marry and then stay together.
2007-10-03 23:49:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you're feeling right now is fear of the unknown. Four years is a long investment for a relationship and taking it to the next level and moving in is just a good reward for the both of you. The space (or the lack of it, depends on how you view it) will allow you to get to know each other better, this time more in depth and intimately too. I think moving in will guide you both in deciding whether or not to get married.
Best regards. :)
2007-10-03 23:49:36 · answer #2 · answered by Carla Shmarla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he is a gentleman and he treats you right,. you are at a good age to move into a apartment or whatever together. i think you should move in with him and then ask if you guys can take it slow for a little while. dont rush into marrige straight away. You need to take this chance then settle down then take a chance again (marrige) :) then settle down again and then (have kids) dont get to freaked out by it all, it wont be scary if you take it slow
2007-10-03 23:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by Your A DWARF ON STILTS!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be a separate person do not move in with him. If you want a future with him move in.
2007-10-03 23:50:03 · answer #4 · answered by 55 and trying 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it without going thru a wedding ceremony first. If you care enough for each other to have sex, then it's time to follow thru with the wedding arrangements. Wedding should come first.
2007-10-03 23:57:15 · answer #5 · answered by wildflower 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want a ring before moving in with him
2007-10-07 23:49:10 · answer #6 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have nothing to loose
2007-10-04 00:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by heartbreak kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋