Hi, i'm 20 years old and have fell pregnant, does anyone know anything about abortion?

Question

I just want to know about the different ways to go about abortion, i know i am definatly not keeping it. i'm really scared and don't know what to do. Can anyone help? xx

Answer 1

Hun, please don't be scared. Its okay. You are gonna get some pro lifers on here telling you its wrong, but don't pay any attention to them.

There are three ways you can go about it, but it usually depends on how far you are in your pregnancy. up to 9 weeks, you can have an abortion in the form of tablets to stop the pregnancy and then your body will miscarry on its own. The second is general anesthetic, so you will be put to sleep and they will remove it. Its more of an operation and more invasive than the first. The third if you are quite far in your pregnancy, you will have to be awake and miscarry it in hospital.
You can sometimes self refer to an abortion clinic (look in the local directory) or you may need to have your gp's referal.

good luck hun! x

Answer 2

don't panic my dear,

if i really don't want the baby the baby, this will help u

RU-486 is a drug that produces an abortion. It is taken after the mother misses her period. It can be used up to the second month of pregnancy. It works by blocking progesterone, a crucial hormone during pregnancy. Without progesterone, the uterine lining does not provide food, fluid and oxygen to the tiny developing baby. The baby cannot survive. A second drug is then given that stimulates the uterus to contract and the baby is expelled.

Women who abort with the drug RU-486 experience nausea, severe cramping, vomiting and bleeding. But the resulting emotional distress may have even more impact. Rather than being “over with” in a few minutes (as in a surgical abortion) this abortion could last for over a week. Then, when the woman finally does abort, she will expel a tiny dead human being - her baby.

Suction-Aspiration

In this method, the cervical muscle ring must be paralyzed and stretched open. The abortionist then inserts a hollow plastic tube with a knife-like edge into the uterus. The suction tears the baby’s body into pieces. The placenta is cut from the uterine wall and everything is sucked into a bottle.
or
Just considered a Danish abortion ship? Try a clothes hanger or hoover toolls

take care

Answer 3

Depending on how early you are, you can take the abortion pill (a series of pills, 1 taken orally and another 4/5 placed in the uterus using a pessary yourself) this is supposed to work for up to 9 weeks gestation. This is the method I was offered and used, and I found out 3 weeks ago that it hadn't worked so I am now 22 weeks pregnant (and am keeping my child). I don't want this to worry you, my story is quite uncommon and only happens to 8 in every 1000 women. You could also go for the suction method, it is a quick 10 minute op, where you are asleep so won't feel anything, if I were to ever need an abortion I would choose this method. I want to wish you the best of luck sweetie and please don't be afraid. Ensure you go to a well established clinic and get all the help and support you can during your aftercare. If you want anymore information feel free to email me xxxx

*edit*
Go to your docs and get a referall for this clinic:

www.bpas.org

the abortion will not cost you a penny if your doctor referes you xxxx

Answer 4

I was there for two good friends' abortions. Sure, they were 15-17 years ago, but they haven't changed that much. I also have a sister-in-law who got pregnant and kept the baby. He's now 12 years old.

I'd go to a doctor, make sure you're pregnant, and go from there. You can find clinics that perform abortions on the Internet and in the Yellow Pages. Just be prepared to be picketed when you go there, because every time I go to my orthopedist, I have to cross abortion protestors calling me names. I'm not even going to the clinic! I'm going for my knee doctor who is in the same building.

If you have a minister or clergyman, go talk to them. If you have a really good friend, talk to them. When all else fails, call Planned Parenthood and talk to them. They can help you by giving you all of your optiosn and steer you to where you want to go when you make a decision.

Good luck & hope things turn out okay for you.

Answer 5

If your in the UK you can go to your doctor and get your first abortion done for free on the NHS & i think its up until the twelth week of pregnancy that they'll do it & they'll put you to sleep to do the procedure, its not pleasant, expect no pleasantries & there will be other girls/women having it done at the same time ,mostly avoiding eye contact. You'll wake up on a ward be given a cup of tea & biscuits, info on contraception & you'll be leaking a lot of blood, you go home quite quickly.Some women recover fast & a few have a lot of pain & maybe develop extremely painful infections but antibiotics will sort it out.
Another way is to go to Marie Stopes or another private clinic, they will do a scan do find out how far gone you are & if your not too far gone you can have the pills or the suction. The suction from what i recall was the worst pain of my whole life, i was lying on a bed, no knickers & legs on stirrups. No painkillers or aneasthetic, then the doctor inserted a tube inside me,a nurse was holding an ice cream style tub on the other end of tube.He worked away & it felt like he was taking my whole insides away from me, i vomitted, screamed & begged the nurse for something to help the pain.She just ignored me.After what seemed like forever i was given a heat pad & told to lay down for 10 mins. I paid them & left, curled up in a ball in the back of the car for over 100 miles, i ended up in hospital as i became infected due to them not removing everything.

Not everyones experience is the same, i was distraught & 6 years on im still hurt about what i did, but people look down on you & have no sympathy as its the ultimate sin.I know girls who've done it & even laughed about it & gone clubbing the next night so it effects everyone differently.But a baby is a lifetime commitment & if your not ready then perhaps your doing the right thing. Just make sure you go to the right people.

Answer 6

everyone that is judging you should be ashamed of themselves this is your decision do not let anyone elses views make you feel guilty. no one knows your situation emotionally or mentally or financially or even how you became pregnant in the first place. i had an abortion when i was 19 because i was in a violent relationship and my partner threw my contraception away and raped me daily until i became pregnant. it wasn't an easy decision but i knew it was the right one for the baby as well as me. i left him as soon as i found out i was pregnant. i needed counselling afterwards because of the guilt that i felt but to this day i know it was the right thing to do. i am 26 now and in a loving relationship, i have a little boy who is nearly 3 and am 11 weeks pregnant with my second baby. do what feels the right thing for you and like me you can go on to have kids when you are ready for them. i know that it isn't always 100% but think about the best contraception for you too. good luck, my thoughts are with you x

Answer 7

That's a brave decision to come to, and so hard to do on your own. I guess that you probably don't want to be told to go to a clinic or doctor, but you're alone and scared and I would hate for you to put yourself at risk. Right now the most important thing is to get advice on the best way to go for you, without compromising your health now or any babies you want to have in future.

You need to talk to someone detached and professional, who can give you the best advice. The same methods and timing aren't necessarily right for everyone. A lot depends on the stage of your pregnancy, your own health and how quickly you want to/can act. There are pills you can take, there are medical and surgical methods, but to get the right one for you, without risking your health, you need help.

Look on the net or in the phone book for details of youth counselling services and clinics in your area. They will be able to check you out medically and suggest the best choice for you.

You should also get advice about contraception so this doesn't happen to you again. I know some guys just don't want to use condoms, but there are other options that might work for you. In any case, if a man doesn't respect you or care enough about your health to refuse, then he's not worth your time. You deserve better.

Please take good care of yourself and I hope this turns out well for you.

Answer 8

Dont worry chick, honest it is nothing to be worried about... I have had an abortion due to health worries, and that was nhs. it was fine the nurses were really helpful and didnt judge me. (something i was really worried about) they insert a tablet, which causes miscarrriage... im not saying go into it light heartidly, BE SURE FIRST! your problems wont go away just because you are no longer pregnant. some problems are psychological, you may be racked with guilt after. but if you decide to go ave an abortion.... dont worry, everyone is really helpful, and its not as bad as everyone thinks.... be preopared for 2days off work, and have excuses ready. go see your GP. good luck in woteva you decide, make sure you are sure! x

Answer 9

If you are sure it's what you want your Gp will help. Do consider this carefully. I had one when I was your age without much consideration and it messed me up for a long time and I ended up having a child two years later just to keep me from feeling suicidal. I still have bad dreams today about it. I thought I couldn't have a child full stop and didn't take the time to really think about, there are option though.

Answer 10

Hello, I'am also 20 years old and I am the mother of 2 children. I am currently pregnant again.
Im going to tell you that yes I have had an abortion before the birth of my first child. I was 15 years old and all I could think about was my future/ cheerleading scholarships. Not once did I think (If you werent having pre-marital sex, you wouldnt be in this sitiuation). It is a very horrendous thing to go through. My husband and I still think about it to this day, and wonder how my life could have been with that child. My husband cannot even discuss the abortion, because it makes him very depressed. We are Saved now, so I have repented for that sin-I still know that one day I will have to answer to my selfishness.
In all truth and honesty, God does not take killing children lightly. I suggest you talk to someone mature about your situation. You will be more likely to make the right decision-the adult decision, which is to carry the baby-full term and give it up for adoption. There is no reason to be ashamed or try to hide your pregnancy. You still can accomplish your goals even at your young age and becoming a mother.
Dont get an abortion, it will save you from alot of suicidal, depressive, haunting thoughts in the future of your life. And this was for you in love.

I pray that you will make the right decision. Research some websites that will show you footage & pictures of abortions and aborted fetuses. Just imagine if your mother would have done that to you.

God Bless You-please take this to your heart and dont get offended. You can email me anytime also if you need someone to talk to-I will give you sound Godly advice and nothing less.