I am a 32 year old mother my daughter has started high school this year and I think she has been smoking since she smells like smoke all the time and shes been acting differently. I do not want her to get into this kinda trouble. She is underage but how does she get the smokes? What should I do?
2007-10-03 23:42:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You mean she is smoking cigarretts? well hon kids at this age they start to try things have a talk to your daugther tell her you know she is smoking not that you think she is, ask her why? and tell her the bad habit is bad to beat.. I know this is bad but hey you her mother, go trough her things see if you see any other signs she may be trying other things..my son was 17 he try things, i stay cool I told him consequences and why it was bad to do things like this, just because she smokes doesn't mean she is a bad girl, my son smokes cigarrets and even try weed and did some crazy things but he still graduated from high school and he is now a US Marine, just constanly let her know that she needs to becareful how she carry her self let her know your there for her no matter what.. don't be forever on her case mad at her or is going to make things worst...constanly tell her you love her and hug her a lot right now she needs to know she can turn to you if she ever in trouble, that is what I did and my son even though he did his crazy things he always kept in mind that he did not want to hurt me.. you tell her your scared for her talk with your heart in your hand.. and snoop snoop behind her back.. you need to know as much as you can to be able to help her.. now if she just trying smoking cigarrets it may be just a phase something that will pass, stay come and cool..be patience.. good luck hon your a good mom.
2007-10-03 23:53:25 · answer #1 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my opinion is to get her out of school and take her to homeschooling. Home schooling is much better and since they are learning individually, they don't have others around to have a negative influence on her. Second of all, always check her pockets and bags before she goes out to see if she has any smokes, and also be aware of what type of friends she has. Third of all, pick a nice day and sit and talk to her, don't be mean or anything, just a simple talk and let her know that you are aware of her smoking, and also let her know the risks of smoking. Fourth of all, if you see this getting to be as a problem simply punish her but not too strictly and sooner or later she will understand whats right from whats wrong and she'll be thanking you. This is all my opinion and i have seen this method on many teens and it had a very good result in the ending. Hope you succeed =)
2007-10-04 21:28:26 · answer #2 · answered by Sort 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not hard i started when i was 9 which was a long time ago and i know a girl now who is having some problems and she is 11 and buying smokes and getting them from older kids at school who pass as 18. its so easy at school to give a few $ to a friend to buy them for you especially if they look older and pass as 18
If she is in high school and not an aspiring athlete she probably is not yet concerned about her health so that approach may have only a small effect
I would let her know that if she wants to have a good reputation at school smoking will only destroy it. It may feel cool at the moment but a bad reputation will follow shortly.
Also tell her how gross it smells
2007-10-03 23:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't smoke, but some people I've talked to said that they used to smoke, but when their parents found out, they made him smoke a whole pack in front of them. He was so sick of smoking that he didn't touch one again for a long time. It is really drastic and should only be used for a last resort. Just talk to her and let her know the bad results of smoking. Find some pamphlets about smoking, or look up some sites to show her. You might also be able to find pictures of lungs that have been over saturated with cigarette smoke.
2007-10-03 23:48:03 · answer #4 · answered by momo5j7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well dont assume first off. Lots of kids smoke so she might just be getting the second hand. Also just cause you smoke doesent turn your personality upside down it just messes up your lungs and eventually kills you painfully. Maybe its the people she is hanging with who are causing the attitude change....but if she is still in her teens girls are very hard to deal with but dont worry they grow up. Finally do you realize how many kids parents buy them smokes...or get older friends to buy them? Kids will share and sometimes do things for cigarettes...in my younger days ive seen some thing ive seen girls go as low as sexual favours for 2 dollars to buy a pack of cigs. Sad world we live in eh? Just make sure you keep an eye on her.
2007-10-03 23:47:57 · answer #5 · answered by SS4 Elby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone smells like smoke . . . you know the addage. I used to smoke as a teen, and stopped many years later. I tried everything to increase my will-power, but smoking is difficult to discontinue.
I have found help with many things in life through a local radio show in Los Angeles area. I hope you can help your daughter with her smoking issues.
2007-10-03 23:56:03 · answer #6 · answered by hambri7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, to be honest, if she is going to smoke, she will find a way to smoke even if you don't like it. But what you could do, is print a picture of a smoker's lungs, (you'd be surprised to see what the lungs look like). She may be young enough that it will scare the crap out of her. I wish someone had done it for me when I was younger before I got addicted.
2007-10-04 00:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smokes cigarettes? When did we start treating smokes like heroin in this country?It is a nasty habit and it will probably kill me one day but it isn't illegal!Everyone hates smokers but did you realize that if all smokers quit your taxes would go up over $5000 per person in the U.S.? I pay over $30 a carton in taxes and smoke 2 cartons a week.Where do you think "W" would get the money to play war if it wasn't for us smokers?
2007-10-04 00:02:30 · answer #8 · answered by notagain49 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Always try to work on situations like this together and dont turn against each other. Remember this and you will be together and happy for a long time. Cheers Nicki.
2007-10-03 23:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well being that she is that age she is gonna go buck wild if you force her...so just tell her that you know she is smoking and that you are allergic to it and that she cant wear her clothes in the house and that she has to change in the garage and wash her own clothes first befor she can do anything...lol
2007-10-04 02:15:44 · answer #10 · answered by ღOMGღ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋