because this is sort of the deal with me and my boyfriend. we've been together for 8 months. in mid july/beginning august i started to get distant towards him (avoiding romantic moments, ...) because i got afraid of how close we had grown before that. since then i've been struggling with this. near the end of august he was really sad/hurt about it, we talked about it and i told him it would stop.
now it has already gotten better, but i don't initiate kisses, hugs and sex anymore. do not get me wrong, i do respond when he kisses me and stuff, i'm just not the one making the moves anymore - while i did do this a lot more before.
so i guess i've become less affectionate... and he's texting me less lately... i want to change both of these things: better contact during week (cause i already only see him once a week due to me being at a dorm) and initiating more myself again.
but is the lack of contact due to me being less affectionate you think? would this be normal guy-reaction?
2007-10-03 21:40:13 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he has always been a very affectionate person physically. when we talked at the end of august, i guess he just thought things would get a lot better almost instantly... am i worrying him?
2007-10-03 21:41:04 · update #1
It's not like he would contact you less. It's just like boys love it when the girls make a move. They love it more than anything, just know this. Now when you had started initiating and have stopped doing it out of nowhere, he is really hurt and is still dying for you to initiate. You have to love him fully without THINKING. So, show him your love by initiating different lovable acts. They may be holding his hands or telling him how much you miss his affection and closeness and how much you want to have his love and give him your love. Just please him in any way so that he comes out of his hurting sadness.
2007-10-03 21:47:14 · answer #1 · answered by seminewton 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you usually made the moves the sudden change will make him feel uncomfortable. As a result he will distance himself from you because he thinks you may not feel the same way about him. straight out tell him you still want to do that stuff but youd rather he initiates it.
2016-05-20 08:10:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel like you wasn't into me like you were before and that I was only something for you to do until super guy showed up and took you away.
I don't like changes and you changed from what I knew you to be before. I like when you come on to me and things heat up from there. You've changed and what I like, I have to go find because you decided to not be what I like.
There. I've said it for him.
Best Wishes
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2007-10-03 21:54:24 · answer #3 · answered by Fade To Black 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, we arent mind readers initating the umm contact, shows us that you are interested. We dont expect you to do it all the time no, but somtimes its nice :D
2007-10-03 21:45:47 · answer #4 · answered by Flying Spagetti Monster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i went through the same thing with my man!!!!
I would try getting lingerie amd showing to him how much he means to you !!!!!
after that he will see how much you really do feel for his "romance"
2007-10-03 21:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by AvOnDaLeGuRl4LiFe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you're falling out of love for this guy, you just won't accept it, or you just think that losing this relationship is hard...
no hard feelings....
2007-10-03 21:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by cndags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i didnt call my girlfriend, she'll F me up on time.
2007-10-03 21:43:01 · answer #7 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋