and stay out until past 9:30pm on a school night?
That's what is expected!
2007-10-03 19:34:34 · 20 answers · asked by oohay 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
That is up to her parents, not us.
2007-10-03 19:37:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would depend 100% on the parents of the boy - there are some that I'd say yes to right away, and some that it would be never in a million years.
9th grade is 14-15 or so? 9.30's really not that late to be out just for once.
2007-10-04 07:28:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If her parents think she is responsable enough and its not going to be something that happens every school night then i don't c a problem. His parents considerate enough that she wouldn't b out too late as there son also has school the next day so i think it would be ok. As for her going out with a male friend, this wouldn't worry me too much, the more u try to hold them back from seeing them the more they'll defiy u and find a way to c them behind your back.
Try it once and if it doesn't workout then don't let her do it again anyother time (on a school night) with any of her friends, male or female.
Good luck!
2007-10-04 02:49:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, NO. If it as friends, yes, and as long as the parents are there and never leave. There are way too many children having babies these days. We are made fun of as the culture with no morals or values. My man is from India and I am from America. The cultures are quite different. Indians do not date. They are never allowed to be in the same room with a girl/boy alone. They do not attend the same schools. Their rate of child mothers is practically non-existent. They are mainly focused on education and obtaining at minimum a masters degree before thinking of dating. Dating in their world is after the age of 25 and with the parents. You never even kiss until you are married and i absolutely agree at least that dating should wait until the age of 18. I also disagree that a 9th grader who is the age of 13 or 14 should be out past 9:30. What can they possibly be doing that late? There is absolutely no reason they should not be at home after dark. I am so sick of seeing 13 year olds with babies of their own because their parents let them do whatever and roam the streets. Its time we stopped allowing our little kids to date and stay out at all hours and we start teaching them good morals and values. I am a mother of 3 children by the way :)
2007-10-04 02:45:01 · answer #4 · answered by navylinguist22 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the parents are going to be there the whole time and its a special occasion (birthday etc..) then I don't see why not. I wouldn't make a habit of it and if the girl and the boy seem to be responsible, respectable kids and the parents feel the same way about raising children, there isn't a whole lot the kids can get up to.
And 9.30 isn't so late for a young teen if its not all the time.
2007-10-04 02:42:03 · answer #5 · answered by Cindy; mum to 3 monkeys! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know his parents? Are they safe and reliable people?Are you also able to attend the dinner as well until you become comfortable with the parents and the boy so that you would feel more comfortable with her going? Are the girl and boys' ages acceptable to you to begin dating? Usually, as a general rule of thumb, if "Moms & Dads" are present and have constant visual contact while still being able to allow them personal space together, it's ok. How much could possibly go wrong?
2007-10-04 02:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by annrizzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see it being a problem. Especially if it's a one time thing.
I say if her school work is done and the parents are comfortable with the boy and his parents, then yes.
9:30 is not that late for a 9th grader.
2007-10-04 05:28:20 · answer #7 · answered by Dania C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would depend on the parents, his and hers. if you are not her parent, then this is none of your business. if you are, then have you met his parents? do you feel comfortable with your daughter being with them? were are they going? would you take her there? my daughter did this kind of thing at that age and there is nothing wrong with it.
remember you are talking about a 14 or 15 year old. if she doesn't have your trust now and start to experience being her own person, what do you think will happen when she steps out on her own for the first time. you need to understand that she is growing up and need to start getting out from your constant control. if you think she will get drunk, or high, or jump into bed the first chance she gets, then you have major parenting problems
2007-10-05 00:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by ron s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as she has homework done i think that it would b okay. But i don't think that the parents should go if ur not cool wit just that she is goin 2 start sneaking out just 2 go on a date with out u guys let her and the boy go alone but make sure you meet him first
2007-10-05 17:49:23 · answer #9 · answered by ur mama 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be ok. As long as they are not out past 10pm and all homework is done beforehand. But the parents will be there...I wouldn't worry too much. (as long as you meet them first)
2007-10-04 03:02:17 · answer #10 · answered by cutesy76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have a 10 years old daughter if this happens to her........i say sure but i like to buy dinner for everyone!!!!! and we can stay out until 10
2007-10-04 02:39:05 · answer #11 · answered by mumof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋